Calling Men

[StormKnight (1)]

y'all are terrific! I am deciding whether or not to find a date for new years so i get a kiss at midnight....tee hee

The line will form in a few moments time, I'm sure.

I concur with this statement.

Edited December 17, 2009 by StormKnight

[torn asunder]

I concur with this statement.

precisely...

[CatsEyeOfTheWiccan]

New Years..eve will be intresting.

-CatsEye

[n0Mad]

precisely...

Indeed.

[Troy Spiral (13)]

I'd be careful about putting to much stock in advice that you get from anyone that doesn't know all the details of your situation. Its easy for us to guess at whats going on, and give advice that means well, but cannot take the whole story into account.

But in terms of calling / texting someone "again" as stated above half a day / a day is fine. I wouldn't worry to much about seeming desperate or nagging or something. If you want something you should ask for it, within reason.

But i would say maybe 3 times with no callback is probably the limit unless there is really extenuating circumstances.

[Musashi]

Seems like the last...let's say 5 or so girls that I was supposed to hang out with/talk to all seemed interested, but when they say they're gonna call they never do. Just nothing. I'll call once or mayyybee twice to find out what's up, usually don't get an answer or a call back. Clearly you aren't interested, so instead of messing with me, making me set aside time, getting my hopes up, just leave me alone. I've pretty much given up and stopped caring. I don't even ask anyone out any more. They'll just stand me up. Least you all get to the second or third date. Literally the last 6 or 7 girls I've talked to CONSECUTIVELY stood me up. On first dates.Every. Single. One. Maybe it's a conspiracy. Maybe I smell bad. All I know for sure is I'm done chasing. I'm done looking like a dumbass for being excited about something that just never happens. And I'm done pretending that it doesn't bother me. I'm worth more than that.

Sorry if I derailed an old ass thread. Been wanting to rant about this for a while now.

[Epic_Fail_Guy]

edit due to irrelevance of where thread headed

Edited October 5, 2010 by Epic_Fail_Guy

[Epic_Fail_Guy]

Seems like the last...let's say 5 or so girls that I was supposed to hang out with/talk to all seemed interested, but when they say they're gonna call they never do. Just nothing. I'll call once or mayyybee twice to find out what's up, usually don't get an answer or a call back. Clearly you aren't interested, so instead of messing with me, making me set aside time, getting my hopes up, just leave me alone. I've pretty much given up and stopped caring. I don't even ask anyone out any more. They'll just stand me up. Least you all get to the second or third date. Literally the last 6 or 7 girls I've talked to CONSECUTIVELY stood me up. On first dates.Every. Single. One. Maybe it's a conspiracy. Maybe I smell bad. All I know for sure is I'm done chasing. I'm done looking like a dumbass for being excited about something that just never happens. And I'm done pretending that it doesn't bother me. I'm worth more than that.

Sorry if I derailed an old ass thread. Been wanting to rant about this for a while now.

Been there before.. wanna know what to do? Get what you want out of the first date.. aka.. get fuckin laid. if the bitch is being prudy, then don't try to swallow their bullshit just to have things end nicely.. tell them to get fucked/fuck off.. whatever. I'm not making any damn sacrifices to someone if they don't show a little generosity to me. My standard is, getting laid. If she fucks, then I'll adjust my schedual to make time for them. But if they're gonna cock tease on the first go and not show any promise for anything i want, then why even fuckin bother ya know?

Call me a pig if you want, that just validates to me that you're a worthless whore, judge not lest ye be judged yourself right? Too easy to judge someone back.

And if it makes me a pig, so be it, i've no problem with being that. The fact of the matter is, there's too many people out there that lie cheat and steal to take all they can get and give nothing back. I'm not gonna waste my time or anything else on someone unless i'm getting something i want from them too.

[torn asunder]

Been there before.. wanna know what to do? Get what you want out of the first date.. aka.. get fuckin laid. if the bitch is being prudy, then don't try to swallow their bullshit just to have things end nicely.. tell them to get fucked/fuck off.. whatever. I'm not making any damn sacrifices to someone if they don't show a little generosity to me. My standard is, getting laid. If she fucks, then I'll adjust my schedual to make time for them. But if they're gonna cock tease on the first go and not show any promise for anything i want, then why even fuckin bother ya know?

Call me a pig if you want, that just validates to me that you're a worthless whore, judge not lest ye be judged yourself right? Too easy to judge someone back.

And if it makes me a pig, so be it, i've no problem with being that. The fact of the matter is, there's too many people out there that lie cheat and steal to take all they can get and give nothing back. I'm not gonna waste my time or anything else on someone unless i'm getting something i want from them too.

this post makes me incredibly sad...

Edited October 5, 2010 by torn asunder

[Musashi]

Been there before.. wanna know what to do? Get what you want out of the first date.. aka.. get fuckin laid. if the bitch is being prudy, then don't try to swallow their bullshit just to have things end nicely.. tell them to get fucked/fuck off.. whatever. I'm not making any damn sacrifices to someone if they don't show a little generosity to me. My standard is, getting laid. If she fucks, then I'll adjust my schedual to make time for them. But if they're gonna cock tease on the first go and not show any promise for anything i want, then why even fuckin bother ya know?

Call me a pig if you want, that just validates to me that you're a worthless whore, judge not lest ye be judged yourself right? Too easy to judge someone back.

And if it makes me a pig, so be it, i've no problem with being that. The fact of the matter is, there's too many people out there that lie cheat and steal to take all they can get and give nothing back. I'm not gonna waste my time or anything else on someone unless i'm getting something i want from them too.

I would most likely agree with this, given my current contempt, but the problem is that the first date never happens. I meant that I was getting stood up on first dates. If we went out once then nothing happened it'd be one thing. But I don't even get a chance.

[Epic_Fail_Guy]

this post makes me incredibly sad...

eh.. it's just sorta a defence mechinism i developed over time with chicks. To put it in better words, I don't get emotionally attached for a long while. I learned that it's a very foolish thing for me to do when I don't keep my emotions in check and let them cloud my judgement before i can make a good decision.

And this way, if she's after a relationship, it could possibly go that road..

if she's just lookin to fuck, hey cool me too

if she's lookin for something else (gold digger) that's when its like alright.. jump through the hoops first.. no trick, no treat (ha! I made a gothy pun!) But I don't let myself take it further than maybe 2 or 3 times before they hit the curb..

it may be screwed up, but hey, that's how i keep my best interests of my life protected when possibly letting someone else in it.

[prick]

I'd be careful about putting to much stock in advice that you get from anyone that doesn't know all the details of your situation. Its easy for us to guess at whats going on, and give advice that means well, but cannot take the whole story into account.

But in terms of calling / texting someone "again" as stated above half a day / a day is fine. I wouldn't worry to much about seeming desperate or nagging or something. If you want something you should ask for it, within reason.

But i would say maybe 3 times with no callback is probably the limit unless there is really extenuating circumstances.

Pearls of wisedom as usual Troy!

[kat (1)]

I am not that brave. I always assume hes mad at me or sick of me and then i am terrified he will never call me again. I feel forgetable..... i know i like him more then he likes me and that spells disaster for me. People make it seem like everything i say to him has to be scripted or i will scare him. I have to be patient.

It is the worst when you are into someone more than they are into you. Hon, I would just tell him to kick rocks. Your better than that. If he wants to be with you he will come around if not he was never worth your time in the first place. He needs to learn to appreciate you for the goddess that you are, however if he is still boyish in his ways he is not going to appreciate you, but someone will, I believe that in my heart.

[littlepinkkitty]

Its been a year since we were courting and the funny thing is we talked online for like 2 hrs today and he wants to skype later. He's in another state for grad school right now. What he doesn't know is that two other men also called me to today. I still care about him but I don't focus on only him if he doesn't only focus on me. I'm single so I can talk to who I want. I don't initiate the conversations with him or wait around for him he has to work on my time if he want s to talk to me. If we end up together in two years ok but i am not gonna sit around I am done with that. A lot of guys want to go out with me and I am sure he knows that. He's special to me but I am putting me first.

[prick]

Very wise decision Little pink kitty

[littlepinkkitty]

He texts me every night now....its so wierd. I know what he wants but damn boy. He's in another state too.

[Onyx]

He texts me every night now....its so wierd.

Not weird, typical of a lot of guys!

I'd be careful even if he does give you a lot of attention. Something tells me he could be the type who only wants what he can't have, and loses interest quickly when he gets it. (and I sincerely hope I'm wrong, but I've been there several times).

I think you are being very smart about it though. It's definitely best to date several and not get serious quickly when you are young. It'll help you find out what you like and don't like and definitely will help you end up with someone compatible rather than concentrating on just one person before you really get to know a variety of people.