Speed dating for goths

[Raev]

It's been tossed out there. Please single folks only.

If we had speed dating, would you attend?

Would you be more likely to attend if we turned it into some form of event.... Like a ball?

[Raev]

btw, Astral was having poll-issues. This is posted for her, I iz just helping. It's her poll.

[AstralCrux]

Thanks Raev.... I is computer special. :-)

[Slogo]

i agreed with the 2 of you (the third option)

[Simon Bar Sinister]

no, but that doesn't mean it's not a good idea.

[Msterbeau]

Done the right way. Comments from the Auction thread to be pulled into here at a later time when my mind is working better.

[StormKnight (1)]

I am not a speed dater. Forcing a rush only aggravates me, puts me on defensive for an incoming crisis, and makes me rather draconian. I would save those for work, where it keeps people alive.

I am odds having a hard enough time to unwind and enjoy a date. Putting a clock and mission objectives (note swapping, answering scripted questions,) only adds to the stress. It is antithetical and over-analytical of the FEW things I think shouldn't be, but really felt with the heart, and a few traits that you are looking for in a potential. I want a soul companion, not a score card.

Edited December 6, 2009 by StormKnight
added thoughts

[Tacohitts]

= waste of my time,dating is a waste of my time and energy

Edited December 5, 2009 by Tacohitts

[EnViOuSPoPpEt]

I am not a speed dater. Forcing a rush only aggravates me, puts me on defensive for an incoming crisis, and makes me rather draconian. I would save those for work, where it keeps people alive.

Pick a few ladies that you really like and get to know them.

Trust me by process of elimination you will find at least one that you want to get to know.

So at an event you might like 5 people get their #'s. Get to know them and pick one that you like the best.

I like this idea overall :D!

[AstralCrux]

Speed dating to me has always made sense. I can usually tell pretty quickly if I'm compatable with you.

[torn asunder]

add one "yes" vote, with the stipulation that it will entirely depend on the roads, and whether i can afford to make it out that way again in the near future.

i like the concept of speed dating as well, but i wonder, for the people who aren't the best at making conversation, are there any "cheat" cards, for example, for conversation starters? or maybe a quick "common questions" list, or some such!? that would prevent a lot of wasted time fumbling for what to ask, or being too nervous to start.

just thinking out loud...

[AstralCrux]

If the event has enough positive interest.... I was thinking about making some cheat cards and having stats cards filled out for each person, so between rounds or before rounds you would be able to have an idea as to the person you're chatting with. I'm open to ideas for that.

[AstralCrux]

Also, since the yes with ball is ahead right now... If you checked yes without ball, would you still be willing to attend with ball or leave before ball started? Just curious...

[torn asunder]

Also, since the yes with ball is ahead right now... If you checked yes without ball, would you still be willing to attend with ball or leave before ball started? Just curious...

well, for me, that would entirely depend on what kind of ball it was... tennis ball, football, soccer ball, bocci ball? i mean, what are we talking here?

[EnViOuSPoPpEt]

Awww a goth ball!? That would kick @$$! :D

pre-made cards can be made or do your own would be even better for people who feel comfortable asking their own questions.

[Rev.Reverence]

add one "yes" vote, with the stipulation that it will entirely depend on the roads, and whether i can afford to make it out that way again in the near future.

i like the concept of speed dating as well, but i wonder, for the people who aren't the best at making conversation, are there any "cheat" cards, for example, for conversation starters? or maybe a quick "common questions" list, or some such!? that would prevent a lot of wasted time fumbling for what to ask, or being too nervous to start.

just thinking out loud...

...that was my idea

.....a 'stat sheet' for each participant to cary around...& then, when 2 peoples sit for their 'round'...they trade cards...the cards, will be very vague, thus, requiring the reader to ask questions, & vice verse...

[AstralCrux]

For successful speed dating and matching...

• Attributes and qualities you have
  
• Attributes and qualities you want in a S/O
  
• Orientation you want in a S/O
  
• Cute litte chat cards on the tables, with multiple topics, so you can browse and pick
  

There will be a matching process in advance, or it would take to long to register at the door. While some matching could be done last minute, most matching is not a good idea. I really wouldn't want to have a straight chick looking for a boyfriend matched up with a lesbian looking for a girlfriend, that would be a big DOH. Also, if you have to have a person who likes peanut butter, I wouldn't match you with someone who has peanut butter allergies. (That is based entirely on the concept that you'll have some disqualifying matches based on what you're looking for. But, if you'd like to chat with more people beyond your qualities that you're looking for, I'd be happy to arrange for more matching.) My brain is jumbling all this in an organized fashion in my head, so poke me if I don't make sense.

Odds are, oh, non-single folks out there... That we'll need your help to run the event. I'm potentally not speed dating because I apparently might end up running it and because I'm batshit insane- and who the hell wants to date the chronically insane? (that was a funny)

*edited for missing )

Edited December 6, 2009 by AstralCrux

[AstralCrux]

...that was my idea

.....a 'stat sheet' for each participant to cary around...& then, when 2 peoples sit for their 'round'...they trade cards...the cards, will be very vague, thus, requiring the reader to ask questions, & vice verse...

Rev. is you going to help cause some single people chaos? (wanna help?)

[Rev.Reverence]

Rev. is you going to help cause some single people chaos? (wanna help?)

[TheGimp]

this is actually one of the best idea's Ive seen so far i clickyed yes

[phee]

If I were single? Yes.... but I don't think we need to be on speed to date.

[StormKnight (1)]

I don't think we need to be on speed to date.

It is one of the few times I would seriously consider a quaalude.

[Rev.Reverence]

It is one of the few times I would seriously consider a quaalude.

...I'ld recommend 1-2mg Klonopin.

[torn asunder]

It is one of the few times I would seriously consider a quaalude.

settle down, beavis!!

[Constantin]

alright i got to ask so how many of the people that actually voted on this so far are single do we really have 23 or more?

just wondering i know off hand that prolly at least half are from single people. also i voted yes