Family Issues.

[Tryp]

Sorry if this is in the wrong section.

So last night my enitre family got into one huge fucking fight. it all started over ym brother throwing a plastic klooaid top at my sister. Then he just completely flipped the fuck out. All of them got into it I stayed in my room and stayed out of it BUT get this somehoe it all got brought back to me. He started punching holes int he wall and all this other shit and said I'm the reason why he's tired of this family. He told me dad bout my stealing his D charm/chain(which happened a while ago btw) and all this other shit.

So it ended by my dad coming into my rom and bitching a fit at me saing I was a worthless junkie and do I see what I've done tot his family. Basically he blamed everythingt hat ahppened on me and my drug use. Cause my brother made the comment if I didn't do the shit I did he wouldn't have emotional problems and our family wouldn't be so fucked up.

So yeah I guess tomorrow night we're having a famiy meeting(Intervention i bet you). My dad told me to write down what i want to say and how I feel and expect to be treated and etc. He also made the comment you've stolen over 10s of thousands from this family. Ya know I hate to tell ya but my brother has stolen a shitload from this house as well.

So in other words tomorrow night will probably be my family just ganging up on me and telling me how much of a fuck up I am. My dad also said I'm going to be put on some restrictions while everyone else can stay the marry old same way.

Awesome huh? I'm telling you now I'm not going to fight witht hem they can say what they want to ay, if I have a feeling of how its going to go and it does I'm leaving. I don't care if I have to sleep outside. I'm not staying somewhere where everyone hates me and BLAMES me on ALL OF THEIR PROBLEMS!

I'll let ya know what happens I guess. I really don't have shit to say, cause I know whatever I say and ask on hwo to be treated it won't matter.

Look I know I've fucked up and hurt this family, but I'm not the only one who dos drugs( IE my brother and his girl) Shit they sell drugs out of the basement. But no my rents have always turned the other check on that...Ha.

Fuck this shit fo'real.

I don't know what to do anymore guys I really don't.

[Slogo]

^sorry man. Hope it works out for ya. I've had to deal with similar issues (albeit not as extreme) and it really sucks. (Man Hug)

[TheGimp]

best of luck man hope all goes well *man hugs*

[Onyx]

Until you are on your own and paying your own way 100% though, sometimes you have to deal with things that seem unfair.

Hope you can work it out somehow in the meantime. Things will likely get much better for you whenever you are able to be on your own.

[candyman]

Dude that sucks. I got cousins that get this shit all the time and if they would tell me how they deal with it I would tell you. All I know is that you should be thankful that nobody in your family pulled out their loaded .44 mag and put some new holes in the ceiling of the family cabin...dangerous gunfire aside you don't need the cops involved. I don't know if you have already but do something nice for them...small shit can work...it usually works for me because getting their minds off of it for only a second can help you alot in the moment and gives you something to work with.

[AstralCrux]

Dude, why steal from your family? That screws trust out the window. When the trust is gone it's harder to get real help when you need it. My brother has a bad theft habit and my dad won't let him live at my dad's house because of it. He doesn't even get to spend the night when he visits. But, my sister, who has drug issues is allowed to stay, because she doesn't steal and my dad tries harder to help her.

In my experience, drugs fork life over. They bring hard times and unneeded worry. Trust me, after the first time your house gets raided and the cops take anything of value in your house, you'll think again about how much you like that pot. (or whatever it is) When this fighting is an everyday occurance, are the drugs worth it?

I've given up most of my family because the drugs have warped them so bad they just use and abuse the people they're around. I used to love them, we used to get along, and now I only have a little tiny bit of family I still consider family. Holidays tend to suck for me and I miss some family that I'd still talk to, but the other freaks go to these events and I don't need the issues. Don't let your family do this, it's sad, and there is something you can do now.

[Homicidalheathen]

move out.

[taysteewonderbunny]

I know you want to leave, but make sure you have a safe place to go to. It may be safer for your recovery if you stay. You feel like you are the scapegoat in your family, and you likely are. Try to explain as calmly as you can your feelings at the meeting (if it hasn't already passed). Keeping cool keeps your options open. Making full admission of your guilt in prior acts, restating your apology, and showing some willingness to make restitution can make things easier. It may all be that no matter what you do, things will suck, but if you've quit the drugging, the worst really is behind you so long as you make the firm commitment not to repeat the insanity sober. Come vent here afterward if no other friends/recovering addicts are available.