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I really am so confused right now. My boyfriend and I had broke up in january and we got back together a few weeks later. Things were kinda hard for us his baby mama was being crazy and I was really busy taking care of my sick grandma. He also gets really depressed and thinks way to much about things. A few days ago he told me to drive safe because he could lose me and doesnt want that. Then yesterday he tells me he loves me very much but he needs a break. He needs to get his head straight. I understand that but how do you go from I dont want to lose you to I need a break in a day. He also deleted his facebook and fubar. I am so worried about him. I told him I would not text him in order to give him the space he needs but I am here for him if he needs to talk. His best friend is really worried about him to. He has not always had an easy life and people have walked away from him before. I just wish he would trust me enough to share his demons with me I can take it I love him and want to be with him but I cant beg him to talk to me when he doesnt want to. I dont know what to do. Do i wait and see what happenes or do I move on. He lasted two weeks without talking to me last time I am hoping not talking to me makes him miss me. Its so hard to make someone realize that you are not going anywhere.

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in general, i'd say it's because most people have no idea what they want out of life - they vaccilate between desires on a whim, and they want satisfaction *now*, so they indulge their wants as they come, but are always unsatisfied, and so begin looking for "aomething else". that elusive "something" that will make everything better, make it all "alright". most people don't understand this:

"happiness is the absence of striving for happiness" - Chuang-tzu

that's my personal take on why people are so confusing, anyway...

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I am trying to give him the space he says he needs and not drive him crazy. In the mean time I am trying to just go out and have some fun so I dont go crazy. I love him and want the life we had planned together but if he cant learn to trust me and stop running from me then all we ever will be is friends.

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He is stringing you along and using you when he needs to... I don't know you, but I'm sure you're better than that.

Move on.. Find someone who respects themselves enough to give you some respect.

What OMG said. He seems to only want you when he needs you. To me, he's using you. Move on.

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