Top 100 Reasons NOT to have Kids

[Glory13666]

I was talking to a lady at the park who knew someone who adopted two boys from Romania and it turned out really bad. The one even tried to kill her. I'm not saying that all or even most adoptions end up that way and Hell, your own birth kids could be little monsters (trust me!). Your comment about being a Hero did remind me that I always thought it would be cool to be a foster parent and try to be a child's hero in that regard. Chernobyl, what you do for those kids is truly Amazing and selfless and you are a Hero!

[Soulrev]

I wouldn't trade my son for a single one of those reasons. Nobody said it would be easy, but it's worth it.

[Tyger]

I wouldn't trade my son for a single one of those reasons. Nobody said it would be easy, but it's worth it.

I feel the exact same way.

[the eternal]

None of that matters to me. I rather spend all my time with my son, then be selfish by myself. I always wanted kids no matter the downsides.

I don't like this line, because it insinuates that those who don't have kids are being selfish.

You can be a giving, loving person without having children.

You yourself said that you were that way before your child came into the world, so why then comment about

how ---being by yourself is selfish?

I have 1 reason not to want to have kids and He lives with Slogo and Lord of sins but I will one day

One day, you will have...THE BOY?!!!

I am child-free by choice and have no interest in having children, but I don't necessarily agree with more than half of the things on this list. A lot of these things are affected by your living situation, your job situation, your relationship with your family, your relationship status, your interests, your general outlook on life, and how you prefer to spend your free time, and have less to do with whether or not you have children than those other things mentioned.

Also, someone else's blog is not a credible source of information.

Although what you said makes sense, ie you can maintain privacy/pursue career goals AND have kids, kids do generally make most if not all of those things challenging if not impossible (esp avoiding a Chuck E Cheese)

Plus, I think you took this way too seriously. This was one woman's take on why she stayed childfree, not a study commissioned by the National Institute of Health.

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MY TAKE --- EVERYTHING in life is a tradeoff. I agree with just about all 100 things, but with a wink of an eye. Anyone who's had kids can probably appreciate a lot of the things on this list, BUT many of them can also think of 100 reasons why they're happy they had one(or more)

I love kids. I always will. And there could be 1000 things on a list and that would never change my mind.

[Tyger]

I don't like this line, because it insinuates that those who don't have kids are being selfish.

You can be a giving, loving person without having children.

You yourself said that you were that way before your child came into the world, so why then comment about

how ---being by yourself is selfish?

I think I may have miss worded myself if that is how you read it. What I mean is if reasons like "You will have the capacity and time for meaningful, engaged, quality adult relationships", "You can fully pursue your educational goals", "You will be better able to retain your youthfulness and sex appeal because your body will not be ravaged by childbearing and a crappy diet" etc are the reasons why your not having kid's then that is selfish in my opinion.

I still find time to have a meaningful relationship, pursue my education, and I find my body to be still very appealing. Nothing should stop people from having kids if they want them. They have there own reasons. This site to me is a page saying "Here, don't have kids or ALL these things will happen to you!!" If you don't want to have kids then that's fine. But to have to have a 100 reasons why not to have them is ridiculous. And I think most of those are silly. You can do anything when you have kids. You just have to plan more is all.

[Destroit]

I think I may have miss worded myself if that is how you read it. What I mean is if reasons like "You will have the capacity and time for meaningful, engaged, quality adult relationships", "You can fully pursue your educational goals", "You will be better able to retain your youthfulness and sex appeal because your body will not be ravaged by childbearing and a crappy diet" etc are the reasons why your not having kid's then that is selfish in my opinion.

I still find time to have a meaningful relationship, pursue my education, and I find my body to be still very appealing. Nothing should stop people from having kids if they want them. They have there own reasons. This site to me is a page saying "Here, don't have kids or ALL these things will happen to you!!" If you don't want to have kids then that's fine. But to have to have a 100 reasons why not to have them is ridiculous. And I think most of those are silly. You can do anything when you have kids. You just have to plan more is all.

I will say that many reasons to not have kids are selfish. I am one of the only people I know who is apparently so backwards as to have the urge to have kids but refuse to because I believe it would be selfish to do so . I r a bit special perhaps? I guess it's that...hmm, bringing someone onto the Earth without their permission is just as much playing God as taking someone's life forcibly, because you have essentially "killed" that person before you have even ever given birth to them. My viewpoints on having children are radical at best, however, and like I said, 9 out of 10 people disagree with me on this.

I will say that many reasons to not have kids are selfish. I am one of the only people I know who is apparently so backwards as to have the urge to have kids but refuse to because I believe it would be selfish to do so . I r a bit special perhaps? I guess it's that...hmm, bringing someone onto the Earth without their permission is just as much playing God as taking someone's life forcibly, because you have essentially "killed" that person before you have even ever given birth to them. My viewpoints on having children are radical at best, however, and like I said, 9 out of 10 people disagree with me on this.

[LadyKay]

All I can say on this subject is that if I knew I was going to have a kid, I would have never bought a refrigerator with an ice dispenser in the door. Now that she has figured out how to unlock it, I am finding melting ice cubs all over the house.

[dragonluv]

peace of mind.

freedom.

have to babysit again today.

[LadyKay]

Well here you go.....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6NvJs3KNdkw&feature=related

[Tyger]

Well here you go.....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6NvJs3KNdkw&feature=related

That is just bad parenting....

[Lillylu29]

I have 1 reason not to want to have kids and He lives with Slogo and Lord of sins but I will one day

One day, you will have...THE BOY?!!!

Yes yes they will... I am secretly leaving him in my will for slogo and jessica.......

And im sorry if people think im selfish because I said if I had it to do over again I would not have... But I dont find it selfish at all. I have my reasons and im sure other people do to... I am simply not a mother figure. I dont regret having them and I do love my kids just not a good mother figure.... other people oviously agree when they state they wouldent have one because of yours....

Edited September 15, 2010 by Lillylu29

[hunhee]

I don't have my own kids, I just borrow others. I love being the adult kid, my friends kids go and have fun with me, and when they get over-sugared, spoiled, tired.. attitudie, I just hand them back

I don't think it's selfish of me not to have my own. I think I'm doing the world a favor by not, I would hate to pass along my evil genius genes to anyone.. muahhAHAHAHAH oh wait.. none of you know this about me..

[Guest greyhalo]

I used to like kids more BEFORE being a youth librarian for years. Dealing with other people's kids all day was (and still is) the best form of birth control for me. I am now in a serious relationship with a man who has a 10 year-old daughter who drives me nuts. At least I only have to see her on the weekends during the school year.

[Joey Deadcat]

I used to like kids more BEFORE being a youth librarian for years. Dealing with other people's kids all day was (and still is) the best form of birth control for me. I am now in a serious relationship with a man who has a 10 year-old daughter who drives me nuts. At least I only have to see her on the weekends during the school year.

Nothing wrong with thinking or feeling that way, either.