Medea Posted June 28, 2005 Report Share Posted June 28, 2005 During my camping trip this weekend, I experienced one of the best naps that I have had in a very long time. This guy Jay and I just slept on top of my sleeping bag, and I had my arm over his chest, and it was just so amazing to me. It wasn't until that moment I realized how much I miss the feeling of falling asleep next to someone else. And it was completely non-sexual too. It was just a wonderful nap. I just don't understand why I feel I need this so much. I still sleep with a stuffed animal because of this. And I know it wouldn't be the same if it was my sister or something. Only certain friends or a SO could make me feel like this. *Shakes her head* I don't know if this makes me seem desperate or depressing, but I'm so afraid I'm never going to find someone like my ex, where I can fall asleep in his arms. I know I sound stupid and vulnerable... but my fingers keep typing anyway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brenda Starrr Posted June 28, 2005 Report Share Posted June 28, 2005 No, you're not stupid. I've passed out on many a friend in a non-sexual way. I love it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bean Posted June 28, 2005 Report Share Posted June 28, 2005 When I lived alone, my friends would spend the night all the time, and we would cuddle and sleep in my bed (nothing sexual was going on). I feel more relaxed if I can sleep in a bed with someone else. You are not stupid, or pathetic or anything else, Medea. Wounds take time to heal...and yours will, trust me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scary Guy Posted June 28, 2005 Report Share Posted June 28, 2005 Camping in general is just better when sleeping. You're not around any electromagnetic fields so you generally sleep better anyway. I love my computers but I also love sleeping far away from them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Black Sunday9 Posted June 28, 2005 Report Share Posted June 28, 2005 So you people "cuddle" with friends? Do you do it while you're dating someone else? I'm asking because I don't think I'd be comfortable putting my arms around any of my female friends while I had a girlfriend while sleeping. I am sure most of the girls I've dated wouldn't like me doing that. Even if they never found out I would not do it......cuddling is intimate and for me it is only shared with girlfriends. Plus you people who do it....imagine walking in on your boyfriend and his "friend" taking a nap together, lying all over eachother. That'd be ok with you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daevion Posted June 28, 2005 Report Share Posted June 28, 2005 To each's own I suppose....but I agree with BS9 about the whole "cuddling" with friends thing. Sorry but If I walk in on my GF and she's all "cuddly" with someone else than there's a problem. Apparently I never did play well with others. I've had many friends of both sexes and never at any time did I offer my "cuddling services" to them and just sleep....there was always some kinda fooling around there as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lilith Posted June 28, 2005 Report Share Posted June 28, 2005 I love falling asleep next to my honey, and a few select friends too male and female it is just nice and comferting to snuggel next to another warm body. I think you subconsically know while you are asleep that you are near some one who cares for you deeply in any way and it make you feel secure and thus sleep better. It is not stupid or crazy or desperate it is a natural human thing and we all go through it at one time or another. Lilith Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Medea Posted June 28, 2005 Author Report Share Posted June 28, 2005 To each's own I suppose....but I agree with BS9 about the whole "cuddling" with friends thing. Sorry but If I walk in on my GF and she's all "cuddly" with someone else than there's a problem. Apparently I never did play well with others. I've had many friends of both sexes and never at any time did I offer my "cuddling services" to them and just sleep....there was always some kinda fooling around there as well. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Well, the whole point on my post was that the reason I no longer get to sleep-cuddle is because I don't have a SO right now. Even if a nap is platonic, I wouldn't nap with a male friend when I'm dating someone. I just felt really great sleeping with someone by my side, that's all. Even if it was just for an hour... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mallochai Posted June 29, 2005 Report Share Posted June 29, 2005 Well, the whole point on my post was that the reason I no longer get to sleep-cuddle is because I don't have a SO right now. Even if a nap is platonic, I wouldn't nap with a male friend when I'm dating someone. I just felt really great sleeping with someone by my side, that's all. Even if it was just for an hour... <{POST_SNAPBACK}> E-gads, but I know the feeling. That's part of my problem right now. I still live with my ex, we don't have seperate beds yet, and I can't sleep well at night without him there for me to hold. it SUCKS! After a year and a half of sleeping by myself maybe twice, the day he gets a new bed will be like a funeral. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Head Wreck Posted June 29, 2005 Report Share Posted June 29, 2005 :D one of my best naps was when me and an ex passed out in the car. missed both our lectures but the feeling was soo good just falling asleep there and both of us woke with smiles (even though we had shitty days hence the drive off somewhere just to break away from collage BS) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saephyr Posted June 29, 2005 Report Share Posted June 29, 2005 Hey I'm a cuddle FREAK! I understand it's hard to be comfy with just anyone BUT just try someone out for size and you could be suprized...you could find an untimate sweetie. If we meet I wanna hug...I'm a junkie! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saephyr Posted June 29, 2005 Report Share Posted June 29, 2005 Hey I'm a cuddle FREAK! I understand it's hard to be comfy with just anyone BUT just try someone out for size and you could be suprized...you could find an untimate sweetie. If we meet I wanna hug...I'm a junkie! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saechalyn Posted June 29, 2005 Report Share Posted June 29, 2005 I love to cuddle, and I love falling asleep holding someone or being held. It needn't be a sexual thing, but it takes a certain kind of person for me to feel comfortable sleeping snuggled up to. But it's a great feeling. I haven't had that in a very long time. Phooey. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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