ZombieNiXXon Posted July 16, 2012 Report Share Posted July 16, 2012 I've decided to take a break from relationship's after my last one from months ago. But the wuestion that has always gone through my mind is. When would I or how would I know that im ready to get back into the field of dating? I've never really got a real resonalble anwnser you know? So I was looking for some logical advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Troy Spiral (13) Posted July 16, 2012 Report Share Posted July 16, 2012 I guess it depends on why you want to take a break in the first place, when that reason is no longer relevant, I'd think that would be the trigger to say your ready to go back. (assuming there isn't a NEW reason , developed in between.) Even though I've long preached the joys of being single, I'm also at any given moment BORN READY to go back into having a relationship given the right person. Sign me up. Problem is that, finding the right person(s). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Class-Punk Posted July 17, 2012 Report Share Posted July 17, 2012 When you see their picture hangin' on the back of your door. When its cold outside, and your wondering when they're coming home, because its hot outside, isn't that enough? Actually, my impression is that you shouldn't take a break or be in a relationship unless you want to. You can't be totally ready for anything and could find out the person you like who seems normal to you is a total bitch, a drug addict, a hoarder with an STD collection, ect. And women usually just say they're taking a break because they want to tell you off without taking the route of saying they've gone lesbian, which definitely stings a lot more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZombieNiXXon Posted July 17, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 17, 2012 See and thats the thing that happen with my last relationship. My girlfriend said she wanted to take a break with our relationship and of course as people told me in laden terms of our generation in these day's means were breaking up. But she did'nt really emphasize or inform me that we were breaking up so I was like ok :D later on I wake up to my roomate's girlfriend telling me about a picture of her laying down with another guy at the place she was chrasing at within the trailer park I am still living in. So I will admit I lowered my standards at some point going on facebook and ranting. Our conflict was resovled and we really havent talked since then. Im much over it now but since some time in common thought and contemplation I decided to take a break from relationship's. I do apeciate your guy's advice :D thank you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Troy Spiral (13) Posted July 17, 2012 Report Share Posted July 17, 2012 See and thats the thing that happen with my last relationship. My girlfriend said she wanted to take a break with our relationship and of course as people told me in laden terms of our generation in these day's means were breaking up. But she did'nt really emphasize or inform me that we were breaking up so I was like ok :D later on I wake up to my roomate's girlfriend telling me about a picture of her laying down with another guy at the place she was chrasing at within the trailer park I am still living in. So I will admit I lowered my standards at some point going on facebook and ranting. Our conflict was resovled and we really havent talked since then. Im much over it now but since some time in common thought and contemplation I decided to take a break from relationship's. I do apeciate your guy's advice :D thank you. BEEN THERE. SUCKS. Yeah "take a break" usually (read almost always) means "its over" they just don't want to say that, maybe because they are trying to be nice, or maybe because they want to keep you "on the hook" "just in case". Now I did have one girl that (apparently) really DID just "want to take a break" but since in girl-speak this always means "its over" I just started to move on, next thing I know , I'm getting yelled at for "cheating". Please. A break from what? Unless a "break" means something in some alien language at a minimum it means "explore my otpions" not "we are still together I just don't want to speak to you or be in a relationsihip with you right now." Huh? SPEAK ENGLISH GOD DAMNIT. lol Honestly thought even in THAT case I think she just didn't manage to find someone else better fast enough, (so really it DID mean "lets break up") but she was shocked into lashing out at me when I decided not to be a chump (for once) and and wait around for her to find someone else. Was a good excuse to make me look like the bad guy. Better yet, confuse me to hell because the only reason I started tippy-toeing into the new relationship was beasue the other one was over (I thought) and her coming back around confused the hell out of me, like maybe I misunderstood and should try again. Thus, via a whole series of misadventures, ended up screwing me out of either relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Class-Punk Posted July 17, 2012 Report Share Posted July 17, 2012 (edited) From my POV, people in healthy relationships give each other space, but they don't ask for breaks because the connotation is a negative one. I tend to keep the belief that if you even have a friendship with someone you probably shouldn't be playing mind games with them, and being that I have more male friends than women and have seen my share of crap, I wish more American women did. Edited July 17, 2012 by Coffeenated Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Illuminatrix Posted July 17, 2012 Report Share Posted July 17, 2012 I think the point of being ready to be in a relationship has to take in the factor of being comfortable with yourself and your life. A relationship should be a positive augmentation to an already well established foundation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simon Bar Sinister Posted July 17, 2012 Report Share Posted July 17, 2012 I'll know when I meet her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZombieNiXXon Posted July 18, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 18, 2012 Damn that's some complicated shit troy XD but we all go through our trips in life you know? Right coffee? like I hate the fact that sometimes not all women but some woman just consider me a dog because im a guy? I am a gentlemen I may not look the part XD haha. But I have alot of respect I was raised by my mom for 21 yeas and a half after I moved out and my dad was never really around so im more of a sentive guy in the aspect of how not having both my parents put me more into a sensative caring output. Illimuntirx you ae right as well I have taken inconsideration to take some time to take care of myself and some little things in my life. See one of my problems that can be put into the aspect of my relationships is that I neve really do much for myself but more rather for everyone else with my kind nature. My counseler's always told me it's not a bad thing but it is something I need to work on. So out of evrything I have gather from you friends and other friends alike. When I have a little peace of mind and as Illuminatrix said when im comfterble with me and my life. I think im going to get back out into the field :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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