I Want To Leave Michigan

[LadyKay]

I have liked living here for the past 14 years. But with the on going money issues and the lack of work I feel I am at my wits end. I have no family here and few friends that I can turn too. I feel I no longer belong here. Or maybe I never did belong here. I don't know why I am telling you all this. Maybe I need someone to talk to? For the past 3 years my house has been in some state of foreclosure. I want out from under it all. I feel I am stuck in the endless cycle. I just want a "normal" life where I do not have to fear being kicked out of my house or dread the months ahead. It has been nothing but a struggle here. Right now I feel like just selling off everything I have except for some personal items and moving back to my home state where my family is. I don't know what else to do really. I wake up every morning and feel as though I want to die. Why does everything have to suck so much?

[prick]

I have liked living here for the past 14 years. But with the on going money issues and the lack of work I feel I am at my wits end. I have no family here and few friends that I can turn too. I feel I no longer belong here. Or maybe I never did belong here. I don't know why I am telling you all this. Maybe I need someone to talk to? For the past 3 years my house has been in some state of foreclosure. I want out from under it all. I feel I am stuck in the endless cycle. I just want a "normal" life where I do not have to fear being kicked out of my house or dread the months ahead. It has been nothing but a struggle here. Right now I feel like just selling off everything I have except for some personal items and moving back to my home state where my family is. I don't know what else to do really. I wake up every morning and feel as though I want to die. Why does everything have to suck so much?

Im sorry its been such a rough expierience for you. I hope things work out real soon for you.

[kat (1)]

Hugs. I hate it here as well.

[Shaun]

hugs, I understand, sounds like you might be better off back with your family wherever that is. If my family wasn't here I might be tempted to leave myself.

[LadyKay]

I thank you all for taking the time to hear me. My mother called me today to tell me she was in Florida playing BINGO. I tried to sound cheerful. There just has to be a better way to live then this.

[TronRP]

I hate to admit I know exactly how you feel. A few years back, my house was in double foreclosure due to negligent actions of the seller, DTE was threatening to discontinue my service and I owed hundreds of dollars to the City of Detroit because my then workplace neglected to file the proper paperwork for me being employed in Farmington Hills. I literally had to take an extended leave from my job just to save my house only to return to work during a process of "downsizing" at the same time my sister was going into surgery and the courts were trying to reroute custody of my mother's very first grandchildren to the state. Needless to say, with everything that was going on, I felt like I was on a never ending roller coaster ride with no signs of stopping. If it wasn't for the fact that I had immediate family support during that time, I am not sure what would have happened to me given all of that craziness if I had to suffer it alone.

I hope you can find a direction that works for you whether it's staying in Michigan or moving closer to family and friends. We are keeping you in our thoughts.

[Class-Punk]

I tend to feel I'm only in Michigan or the U.S. for close family and friends. If the economy was better, and the government wasn't increasingly growing in the martial and anti-privacy sense, it would be different.

[Destroit]

Where in Michigan do you live? That might be the problem. If you live in BFE, or the suburbs, then you're going to have a ridiculously hard time finding employment. If the house is so expensive that you NEED a mortgage (because mortgages are so 1990s, most houses are cheap enough now to straight out buy with cash), then maybe you SHOULD let it go out from under you, save up money in your bank instead of paying your mortgage, and then buy something cheaper that is closer to the city where there is more employment.

I've been here 27 years, and I can tell you that unless you're rich with a kosher job (i.e. something that you needed some kind of degree for), you will NOT survive easily above 11 Mile. Nobody can. Well...unless we're talking Pontiac or Mt. Clemens. That's my tid bit of advice.

Around Warren, I can't drive seven feet without running into five help wanted signs, no joke. And they stay up there for awhile because nobody in my area that wants a job needs one. Back five years ago if you had a doctorate you couldn't even get a job at McDonald's and now they can't even get teenagers to work at McDonald's! Glad the economy turned around so quick, but there are still people such as you (and I, actually) still paying off recession debts and things like that. Most other states are doing worse than Michigan because we were the first to hit rock bottom, and we're the first to start coming back up.

The Michigan way during the recession was to jump state and go to the south, specifically Florida, but after having friends come back after going down there, being stranded for months/years as a homeless person, with no way to get back here and no way to get a job down there...well. Most people have been choosing to stay put!

Edited November 13, 2012 by Chernobyl