Am I Being A Bitch About This?

[LadyKay]

About a month ago my husband's 26 year old. unemployed, somewhat homeless son came to live with us. I was not happy about this but went along with it.(long story how that came about) Anyway he is still somewhat unemployed (though he is doing some work with my husband's business but as of yet not bring any money into the household ), living with us rent free, eating our food and using our resources. Money is tight as it is for everyone living in Michigan and I have a 7 year old that needs taken care of. Anyway last week his mother called and wanted him back down in Ohio to see him. He made some calls and got someone from Ohio to drive all the way up here (5hr drive) to pick him up and take him back to Ohio. Then the guy drove him all the way back up here after seeing his mother. The day after he got back he discover that he had left his wallet(very little money in it if any) in Ohio at his mother's house. I asked him didn't he notice it was gone when on the way back with the guy driving him, they stop to eat and to see a movie. He said no because the guy who was driving paid for everything. ( I would think he would at less offer the guy gas money but I guess not) Well, he called his mother and ask his mother if she would mail his wallet to him. Which I guess she wont do. So he has been calling people to see if they will take him back down to Ohio to pick up his wallet. My husband said he wasn't going to drive him down there but then asked me if he should. I told him no! My tolerance is all ready pushed to the limit by him living here not paying for anything. It will cost us around $100.00 in gas money and more wear and tear on our aging vehicle. Then I think well I suppose we could do but I don't really want to. I feel we have done enough for him. I am not a hateful person. But my husband and I have our own issues and stuff to deal with as does everybody.

[Corvus]

wow hun....you have my sympathies, but no you're not being a bitch about it!

[TronRP]

First, in my opinion, you are not in the wrong. Second, I doubt there was much of anything truly of value in the wallet which is apparently safe at his mother's house so if he is in need of any ID, I say have him get a Michigan ID.

I had a feeling he was going to find a way to live off you Scott Free, but he also must take responsibility for his actions. I say if he wants what's in that wallet so badly, he can left-right express his way to it or compromise with a new one...that the two of you will probably be fitting the bill for as well.

Aren't grown children just precious...

[EagleRose]

Kick his lazy out. Even my brother pays me rent just to live in my basement. If that boy can't do that much, he needs to leave.

[torn asunder]

Kick his lazy out. Even my brother pays me rent just to live in my basement. If that boy can't do that much, he needs to leave.

i do have to agree with this... pay or vacate.