What Are You Thinking? (cont'd)

[kat (1)]

32 minutes ago, Scary Guy said:

 

That is an understatement.  Things could be worse though and I'm interested to see what happens next.

 

(Unless you mean something specific and not just the general Distopian Hellscape we live in.)

I'm sorry I didn't mean to rant.

[Scary Guy]

4 minutes ago, kat said:

Yes. All this shit. I want to scream, than cry  one minute  and than yell at  someone who isn't alive to anymore but it's so over. Everything,  all interactions with our friend has ceased. We can't ever see him , hear his silly stuff, or a pervy comment, or a awesome history fact, or anything ever again. We will never see Troy again.

 

Yeah, that sucks and it hurts, but life moves on.  All we can do is make other new friends and build more connections so that when we lose one it hurts us slightly less.

 

All relationships end.  Either though a fight or a death, or sometimes one then the other.

The ideal way to go would be to die at the exact same time as all of our friends so we wouldn't have to miss eachother at all, but that's not viable, and even if it were it wouldn't be right.

I like to look at the silver lining in things though.  In this case that it has brought back some friends to this place that I haven't talked to for a while, and most in years.  There's also some old drama that has cropped up too, but hopefully that can get resolved and those people can heal any lasting emotional wounds.

That's not to say that he isn't going to leave a vacuum for some people that can't be nor should it be filled.  But his memory will live on as long as we remember him for the intelligent snarky asshole that he was.  Unfortunately that is all we can do though.

 

Life isn't fair, but at least it's consistently equal in its unfairness.  The best thing we can do is try to be there for eachother in times of strife.

[Anna Phylaxis]

On 5/24/2023 at 3:24 PM, kat said:

I'm thinking about semi formal goth attire and how that relates to my body?

I don’t really have any semi formal goth attire. I’ll be in some sort of a dress, I just can’t say what. Will it be tartan plaid? Will it be something black? No one will know till next Friday. 
 

maybe I should see what my daughter’s got in her closet because she’s office goth 
 

however, I’m sure that whatever you wear will be awesome. You have a body, you have attire. Do your thing.🖤

 

[Anna Phylaxis]

23 hours ago, Marblez said:

Why does it hurt so much when someone you love is hurting but when they stop hurting, somehow it is worse?

I don’t know. Part of me thinks that it’s easier to watch them hurt when they are alive because they are still there. You can hug them and touch them and let them know that you care and all of that goodness. When they’re gone, you no longer have control. You can’t tell them. They can’t physically be in front of you and hear you saying these words. They’re not physically in front of you so that you can hug them and feel that warmth. Honestly, it’s difficult and it’s terrifying and it’s so fucking final. I just don’t think I ever expected this to happen. And while he and I hadn’t spoken in about 10 years, this community is what brought me here. This community that he created, for whatever reason he chose to do it, and those reasons are only known to him.  But if it wasn’t for DGN, I wouldn’t be here. My life wouldn’t be as amazing as it actually is. I would never have met my husband, nor would I have had this many friends upon arriving here, over 16 years ago. I can’t believe it’s been over 16 years since I moved here with my kids. 
 

But I understand what you’re saying, and what you’re feeling. I have been there a few times. And it doesn’t get any easier. It just gets different.

[Scary Guy]

3 minutes ago, Anna Phylaxis said:

I don’t really have any semi formal goth attire. I’ll be in some sort of a dress, I just can’t say what. Will it be tartan plaid? Will it be something black? No one will know till next Friday. 
 

maybe I should see what my daughter’s got in her closet because she’s office goth 
 

however, I’m sure that whatever you wear will be awesome. You have a body, you have attire. Do your thing.🖤

 

I'd like to say it's ideal, but not required.  He'd just want you to show up.

@kat if you want to go to the thrift store or something sometime this week LMK.  It wouldn't be the first time I've done that with a friend for a funeral.
 

 

2 minutes ago, Anna Phylaxis said:

I don’t know. Part of me thinks that it’s easier to watch them hurt when they are alive because they are still there. You can hug them and touch them and let them know that you care and all of that goodness. When they’re gone, you no longer have control. You can’t tell them. They can’t physically be in front of you and hear you saying these words. They’re not physically in front of you so that you can hug them and feel that warmth. Honestly, it’s difficult and it’s terrifying and it’s so fucking final. I just don’t think I ever expected this to happen. And while he and I hadn’t spoken in about 10 years, this community is what brought me here. This community that he created, for whatever reason he chose to do it, and those reasons are only known to him.  But if it wasn’t for DGN, I wouldn’t be here. My life wouldn’t be as amazing as it actually is. I would never have met my husband, nor would I have had this many friends upon arriving here, over 16 years ago. I can’t believe it’s been over 16 years since I moved here with my kids. 
 

But I understand what you’re saying, and what you’re feeling. I have been there a few times. And it doesn’t get any easier. It just gets different.

 

I think you hit the nail on the head there.

[The1andonlyMEG]

Breathe 

 

and let go of that of which is not in your control.

 

*screams 

[kat (1)]

1 minute ago, The1andonlyMEG said:

Breathe 

 

and let go of that of which is not in your control.

 

*screams 

Hugs. I was very much doing my emotion regulation stuff last night. I had to break into my TIPP skills. I'm a fan of the ice cold showers personally.

[kat (1)]

19 hours ago, Anna Phylaxis said:

I don’t really have any semi formal goth attire. I’ll be in some sort of a dress, I just can’t say what. Will it be tartan plaid? Will it be something black? No one will know till next Friday. 
 

maybe I should see what my daughter’s got in her closet because she’s office goth 
 

however, I’m sure that whatever you wear will be awesome. You have a body, you have attire. Do your thing.🖤

 

Thank you ❤ 

[kat (1)]

19 hours ago, Scary Guy said:

Yeah, that sucks and it hurts, but life moves on.  All we can do is make other new friends and build more connections so that when we lose one it hurts us slightly less.

 

All relationships end.  Either though a fight or a death, or sometimes one then the other.

The ideal way to go would be to die at the exact same time as all of our friends so we wouldn't have to miss eachother at all, but that's not viable, and even if it were it wouldn't be right.

I like to look at the silver lining in things though.  In this case that it has brought back some friends to this place that I haven't talked to for a while, and most in years.  There's also some old drama that has cropped up too, but hopefully that can get resolved and those people can heal any lasting emotional wounds.

That's not to say that he isn't going to leave a vacuum for some people that can't be nor should it be filled.  But his memory will live on as long as we remember him for the intelligent snarky asshole that he was.  Unfortunately that is all we can do though.

 

Life isn't fair, but at least it's consistently equal in its unfairness.  The best thing we can do is try to be there for eachother in times of strife.

I wish I could like your posts.

[The1andonlyMEG]

5 minutes ago, kat said:

Hugs. I was very much doing my emotion regulation stuff last night. I had to break into my TIPP skills. I'm a fan of the ice cold showers personally.

Huge fan of the rubber band on the wrist - noting like that snap to make you mindful lol. 
 

I never did full on showers but DEFINITELY ice cold stink/head dunking. 
 

 

[kat (1)]

4 minutes ago, The1andonlyMEG said:

Huge fan of the rubber band on the wrist - noting like that snap to make you mindful lol. 
 

I never did full on showers but DEFINITELY ice cold stink/head dunking. 
 

 

Ohh the dive response? I heard people all tiktok are even saying how amazing it is. 

Edited May 26, 2023 by kat

[The1andonlyMEG]

39 minutes ago, kat said:

I wish I could like your posts.

Oh good I am not the only one. I let SG know I could like them either 😞 

[kat (1)]

9 minutes ago, The1andonlyMEG said:

Oh good I am not the only one. I let SG know I could like them either 😞 

I was thinking about that after I posted and I was like darn it I should have edited that because I concur. See, SG...we want to give props 👏 

(I don't even know how to turn the like option off to be honest 🤦‍♀️)

[Anna Phylaxis]

2 hours ago, The1andonlyMEG said:

Oh good I am not the only one. I let SG know I could like them either 😞 

Yeah, come to think of it, I don’t think I can either

[SlavicGoth]

What is with the sudden explosion of activity on here it was just me and 2 or 3 other people posting now we have a lot

[creatureofthenyte]

Coffee time

[The1andonlyMEG]

1 hour ago, SlavicGoth said:

What is with the sudden explosion of activity on here it was just me and 2 or 3 other people posting now we have a lot

We are from the before times … the long long ago. 
 

Some of us even before this was DGN and was the SB. 
 

 

[kat (1)]

My salad tastes weird.

[creatureofthenyte]

My cat follows me everywhere I go in my house.

[TronRP]

2 hours ago, SlavicGoth said:

What is with the sudden explosion of activity on here it was just me and 2 or 3 other people posting now we have a lot

~~~~~

I'll DM you in a minute.

[Marblez]

1 hour ago, The1andonlyMEG said:

We are from the before times … the long long ago. 
 

Some of us even before this was DGN and was the SB. 
 

 

I was just reading conversation with Troy  and he used the term "beforetimes". I don't often hear that.

 

[kat (1)]

Cats are smart.

[GothicRavenGoddess (3)]

Being corporal is stupid. I want to be alive. I just don’t want to have a body. 

[Scary Guy]

9 hours ago, kat said:

I wish I could like your posts.

9 hours ago, The1andonlyMEG said:

Oh good I am not the only one. I let SG know I could like them either 😞 

Yeah, I had them shut off long ago and forgot I did that.  Then I forgot I didn't like them.  They're apparently tied into reputation too which means nothing to me.

If you like something just say so, or maybe even comment on it.  That means way more than some icon.  There's also no dislike icon, or anger icon.  Nothing to give negative rep except maybe the report button?

 

3 hours ago, Marblez said:

I was just reading conversation with Troy  and he used the term "beforetimes". I don't often hear that.

 

Really?  I think anyone who's a fan of Mad Max would.  I have a soft spot for post apocalyptic movies.

[SlavicGoth]

It was $60 to get into City club lastnight because of the movement festival going on. the place was really packed and went on till 6am. I feel like I should have saved my money for tonight