What Are You Thinking? (cont'd)

[SlavicGoth]

Lastnight didn't go exactly as planned but we got some good photos for the second session of a year long project. We did make 3 exclusive prints from the first shoot.  I cant wait till spring 2024

[WhiteLines]

52 minutes ago, TronRP said:

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Not to make light of everything you shared, but the first thought that screamed in my ear was, "He typed ALL of this on a phone?!?!?!?!?!?"

📱👈

White lightning with dem fingertips, rat-ta-tat tat banging away that itty bity keyboard til my fingerprints was straight blisterin', fingernails delaminated, fallin plumb off my hand. Believe me if I could've gone further I'd typed up my entire recollection of the events. Like there's some sorta embedded subconscious drive for a second opinion. As shit unfolded over the years normal communication with others withered on the vine, and after living only inside your head long enough in a situation as this... It's possible to start questioning all sorts of shit in the lack of having any outside input lol

[TronRP]

1 hour ago, WhiteLines said:

White lightning with dem fingertips, rat-ta-tat tat banging away that itty bity keyboard til my fingerprints was straight blisterin', fingernails delaminated, fallin plumb off my hand. Believe me if I could've gone further I'd typed up my entire recollection of the events. Like there's some sorta embedded subconscious drive for a second opinion. As shit unfolded over the years normal communication with others withered on the vine, and after living only inside your head long enough in a situation as this... It's possible to start questioning all sorts of shit in the lack of having any outside input lol

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It is definitely good for the mind to share these things because it can take a physical toll on the body.

 

...and as you know, I'm nosey as dirt.

🤣

[Scary Guy]

3 hours ago, TronRP said:

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Not to make light of everything you shared, but the first thought that screamed in my ear was, "He typed ALL of this on a phone?!?!?!?!?!?"

📱👈

 

I highly recommend investing in either a bluetooth keyboard, or a USB-C dock and a regular USB-A keyboard that will plug into it.

 

 

2 hours ago, TronRP said:

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Your hands were tied from the moment you were hired.

 

I got to speak with some of the workers in the records department in the basement at Lincoln Hall.  They do everything by the book...

 

However, the conversation changes when they are out of sight of the cameras and you get to hear the real stuff going on behind the scenes.  There is literally nothing one department can do without the sign off of another department being run by yet another department.  And it's all tied to funding and who is in control of it.  The offices upstairs pulls all the strings and everything has a trickle down effect through the courtroom down to records.

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My mind still boggles at how one rep and his secretary calmly locked me an my mother in an upstairs office with them until we did one of 2 things regarding the Monchichis, as my mother had been fostering them until an upcoming court hearing (which they bypassed):

1. Terminate the current foster care and have the kids taken by the court TODAY.

2. Adopt the kids on the spot.

 

It was either adopt your grandchildren or leave without them because they were going to have a car pick them up from the elementary school.

 

Due to my mother's level of college education and her (then) current employment at BCBSM, they laid everything out in terms of benefits and government funding and childcare resources to "help" her "make a proper decision".

 

It rings of legal child trafficking, but I'm not going to go there.

I'll go there but I'm tired so I'll go there later.  I'll just say modern slavery is a thing and doing well.

[TronRP]

2 minutes ago, Scary Guy said:

 

I highly recommend investing in either a bluetooth keyboard, or a USB-C dock and a regular USB-A keyboard that will plug into it.

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Actually, I use a wireless keyboard and mouse.  But I'm not sure if this comment is at me or WhiteLines as he uses a phone and I use a Desktop.

[Scary Guy]

6 hours ago, TronRP said:

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Actually, I use a wireless keyboard and mouse.  But I'm not sure if this comment is at me or WhiteLines as he uses a phone and I use a Desktop.

Wireless Bluetoooth for the phone I mean.  That was also aimed at everyone who types novels on their phones.  Advanced mode is having the phone at eye level like a monitor and then keeping the keyboard/mouse on the desk.  Super advanced mode is doing everything wired through a dock and having the HDMI hooked up through it as well so the monitor is full-sized (if the phone supports HDMI output over USB-C.)

If using a desktop I recommend just a simple wired USB/mouse so it doesn't eat batteries.  Also while Bluetooth is encrypted wired is even better since there are no wireless signals at all to decrypt.

[WhiteLines]

8 hours ago, TronRP said:

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Actually, I use a wireless keyboard and mouse.  But I'm not sure if this comment is at me or WhiteLines as he uses a phone and I use a Desktop.

I have a whole lot of wireless mice back at the house. I started to get very aggressive at trying to kill as many as I could before going back on the road. Started using popcorn for bait and I swear we had a trap going off every 10 to 20 minutes lol.

[TronRP]

Just realized I forgot to pack my mobile office.  Too late now...gotta get going.

[NocteSpiritus]

Thinking I should be going through my clothes to sell in a garage sale/donate. Or go through the desks in the office. Knock off something else on my to do list over than the flower beds.

[SlavicGoth]

I cant find my spiked mask. Im freaking and stressing out. I had it with me lastnight at the studio and the photographer can't find it either

[NocteSpiritus]

Thinking I should reactivate my factor 75 at the end of the week.

[TronRP]

It's like we are going backwards with the boy.  Ever since his last day of school on May 31st, he has convinced himself that he no longer has to think or do anything.  Now instead of moving up to the next level of freedoms and responsibilities, we are back at "GO".  Maybe once he gets tired of being treated like a 10 year old, he might want to try the grownup thing again.

[Scary Guy]

7 minutes ago, TronRP said:

It's like we are going backwards with the boy.  Ever since his last day of school on May 31st, he has convinced himself that he no longer has to think or do anything.  Now instead of moving up to the next level of freedoms and responsibilities, we are back at "GO".  Maybe once he gets tired of being treated like a 10 year old, he might want to try the grownup thing again.

I mean a vacation is nice, but life never stops or slows down.  If he stands still in the road of life he'll get hit by a truck because the system doesn't really care about him or anyone else.  I'm sure you know what his special interests are, so maybe you could push him toward a career related to those.  Or he can just be autistic and get NEETbux for the rest of his life or until the government collapses.  In the end the choice is his, just be prepared for the disappointment if he chooses poorly.

Edited June 19, 2023 by Scary Guy

[Anna Phylaxis]

I cannot believe that I will see the ocean for the first time in 20 years, this weekend. I miss the sea. 💙🩵

[TronRP]

6 minutes ago, Scary Guy said:

I mean a vacation is nice, but life never stops or slows down.  If he stands still in the road of life he'll get hit by a truck because the system doesn't really care about him or anyone else.  I'm sure you know what his special interests are, so maybe you could push him toward a career related to those.  Or he can just be autistic and get NEETbux for the rest of his life or until the government collapses.  In the end the choice is his, just be prepared for the disappointment if he chooses poorly.

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Fortunately his brain blip is not that drastic at this time.  This is the phase of "why do I have to listen to anyone or really do anything if I'm no longer having to go to school?"  Reality is going to kick him in the teeth in a bit and I've already prepared him for it.  He's just the type of kid who has to experience it before he realizes I actually have more than "old people smarts" as he has called it.

😏

[NocteSpiritus]

1 hour ago, TronRP said:

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Fortunately his brain blip is not that drastic at this time.  This is the phase of "why do I have to listen to anyone or really do anything if I'm no longer having to go to school?"  Reality is going to kick him in the teeth in a bit and I've already prepared him for it.  He's just the type of kid who has to experience it before he realizes I actually have more than "old people smarts" as he has called it.

😏

 

That's good. My mom didn't allow me to take a gap year. I had the summer then a couple years at community college. I would love to go back. Eventually.

[SlavicGoth]

I walked past my Xbox probably 7 times. Apparently the mask blends in perfectly sitting on top of my xbox

[TronRP]

12 minutes ago, NocteSpiritus said:

 

That's good. My mom didn't allow me to take a gap year. I had the summer then a couple years at community college. I would love to go back. Eventually.

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He starts at WSU this fall.  He just always has it in his mind that anything that is not what he considers to be fun, is work or some form of learning.  He will be in for a rude awakening when he moves to campus in a few months...which he is actually looking forward to (the move) because he believes he will be able to sleep all day and not have to listen to anyone.  His words, not mine.

 

We already told him it won't work that way, but experience is the best teacher.

[TronRP]

18 minutes ago, NocteSpiritus said:

 

That's good. My mom didn't allow me to take a gap year. I had the summer then a couple years at community college. I would love to go back. Eventually.

 

1 minute ago, TronRP said:

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He starts at WSU this fall.  He just always has it in his mind that anything that is not what he considers to be fun, is work or some form of learning.  He will be in for a rude awakening when he moves to campus in a few months...which he is actually looking forward to (the move) because he believes he will be able to sleep all day and not have to listen to anyone.  His words, not mine.

 

We already told him it won't work that way, but experience is the best teacher.

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I never really knew anyone who was able to take a gap year...if I understand the meaning being taking a year off of high school. 

[NocteSpiritus]

2 minutes ago, TronRP said:

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He starts at WSU this fall.  He just always has it in his mind that anything that is not what he considers to be fun, is work or some form of learning.  He will be in for a rude awakening when he moves to campus in a few months...which he is actually looking forward to (the move) because he believes he will be able to sleep all day and not have to listen to anyone.  His words, not mine.

 

We already told him it won't work that way, but experience is the best teacher.

 

Good that he's going. And he will be. Sure, my summer after high school was relaxing. I also had a different life and upbringing than the Monichichi's.

[NocteSpiritus]

1 minute ago, TronRP said:

 

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I never really knew anyone who was able to take a gap year...if I understand the meaning being taking a year off of high school. 

 

Gap years usually happen in Europe to my understanding. And it happens after graduating secondary (high school) school before going to college/university.

[TronRP]

1 minute ago, NocteSpiritus said:

 

Good that he's going. And he will be. Sure, my summer after high school was relaxing. I also had a different life and upbringing than the Monichichi's.

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Honestly, I'm beginning to wonder what kind of upbringing people are thinking the Monchichis had.

[TronRP]

2 hours ago, TronRP said:

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Honestly, I'm beginning to wonder what kind of upbringing people are thinking the Monchichis had.

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Hmmm, now I'm starting to wonder that it might not have been a good thing that they were able to say that they hung out with a Goth Group until the wee hours of the morning at a diner in Wayne starting at the ages of 10 and 14.

 

[Scary Guy]

5 hours ago, TronRP said:

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He starts at WSU this fall.  He just always has it in his mind that anything that is not what he considers to be fun, is work or some form of learning.  He will be in for a rude awakening when he moves to campus in a few months...which he is actually looking forward to (the move) because he believes he will be able to sleep all day and not have to listen to anyone.  His words, not mine.

 

We already told him it won't work that way, but experience is the best teacher.

I mean again he can do that, but if he does it will be to his own detriment.  He's lucky that he has his family to care about him because society won't.  He needs to learn discipline and to be his own advocate because the support networks that exist for him now will eventually fail and disappear out from under him.  He also gets to play life on hard mode because of his skintone too so when that happens it's going to be harder to get his footing back.  He really should start to care about his future, but the problem is that he doesn't see the need right now.  You need to force him to see that need.

I'm reminded of my ex who had so much drive.  She always dressed really well and gave whatever she was doing 100%.  She was competitive as hell because she had to fight for everything that she had in life (left home early due to abuse) and that was a point of pride for her.  Part of that was that she didn't want society thinking that she was just another dumb lazy black person.

Mostly you just need to trick him into thinking learning is fun (because it is!) Work is also fun because you make money to get the things you want OR you learn things from it (though granted it's usually at a slower pace.)

Also, "Time is the best teacher, but unfortunately it ends up killing all of its students."


 

 

2 hours ago, TronRP said:

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Hmmm, now I'm starting to wonder that it might not have been a good thing that they were able to say that they hung out with a Goth Group until the wee hours of the morning at a diner in Wayne starting at the ages of 10 and 14.

 

Pardon my french, but fuck them haters.  If they have a problem with it send them to me and I'll be happy to tell them to fuck off personally and in exactly what way they are bigoted assholes.

(Also to be fair you stopped when the focus switched from just the friendly goth banter to BDSM+that, as did many others.)

Finally I normally hate children, but your (sister's) kids were generally well behaved and nice, so let them know I hated them the least.  At least they're growing out of that terrible affliction now.

[TronRP]

5 hours ago, Scary Guy said:

I mean again he can do that, but if he does it will be to his own detriment.  He's lucky that he has his family to care about him because society won't.  He needs to learn discipline and to be his own advocate because the support networks that exist for him now will eventually fail and disappear out from under him.  He also gets to play life on hard mode because of his skintone too so when that happens it's going to be harder to get his footing back.  He really should start to care about his future, but the problem is that he doesn't see the need right now.  You need to force him to see that need.

I'm reminded of my ex who had so much drive.  She always dressed really well and gave whatever she was doing 100%.  She was competitive as hell because she had to fight for everything that she had in life (left home early due to abuse) and that was a point of pride for her.  Part of that was that she didn't want society thinking that she was just another dumb lazy black person.

Mostly you just need to trick him into thinking learning is fun (because it is!) Work is also fun because you make money to get the things you want OR you learn things from it (though granted it's usually at a slower pace.)

Also, "Time is the best teacher, but unfortunately it ends up killing all of its students."


 

 

Pardon my french, but fuck them haters.  If they have a problem with it send them to me and I'll be happy to tell them to fuck off personally and in exactly what way they are bigoted assholes.

(Also to be fair you stopped when the focus switched from just the friendly goth banter to BDSM+that, as did many others.)

Finally I normally hate children, but your (sister's) kids were generally well behaved and nice, so let them know I hated them the least.  At least they're growing out of that terrible affliction now.

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It's really hard to sum up 17 years of teaching so I'll just say this, with regards to the boy, he already knows everything you just said and are probably thinking he needs to know.  I wasn't kidding when I said I held and hold nothing back when I talk to the kids.

 

And by the way, the Monchichis are my brother's children during his first marriage.

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More often than not, kids are tiny adults with their own attitudes and needs for the same adjustments as grownup.  Coddle them little buggers too much and you've created the next public nuisance.  Love them too much and they have blinders on.  Punish them too strictly and everyone becomes prey.  Nurture is the best option with a side of proper levels of affection and reprimand.

 

It's a fine line you walk to keep them grounded in reality, but, just like any real world person, there are a lot of things that kids MUST experience for themselves.  Because up until that point, THEY know everything and THEY will live forever.  Videogames Rule!