What Are You Thinking? (cont'd)

[TronRP]

I'm happy to know that I can still run at a moments notice.  Had to get the girl to the bus stop for her trip to Microsoft this morning, but she kept needing things that were still back at the HomeHouse.  I made 2 round trips bringing her stuff just to end up driving her to the school because the DDOT was running late. 😅

[NocteSpiritus]

8 minutes ago, TronRP said:

I'm happy to know that I can still run at a moments notice.  Had to get the girl to the bus stop for her trip to Microsoft this morning, but she kept needing things that were still back at the HomeHouse.  I made 2 round trips bringing her stuff just to end up driving her to the school because the DDOT was running late. 😅

Geez. Sounds like Smart as well.

[TronRP]

Contemplating whether or not to start adding friends to my Facebook account.  I not really all that active on there, but some of the people that go to DGN functions that I know are only on Facebook and not DGN....

 

Decisions, decisions...

[NocteSpiritus]

If I put together an informative post, if there's actual interest in people wanting to have a character on the Star Wars game I play and watch game play of it.

[Vater Araignee]

28 minutes ago, TronRP said:

Contemplating whether or not to start adding friends to my Facebook account.  I not really all that active on there, but some of the people that go to DGN functions that I know are only on Facebook and not DGN....

 

Decisions, decisions...

FB is for Boomers.

[TronRP]

I wonder why Comcast disabled the fast forward function when watching certain shows OnDemand.  You can't fast forward through commercials or even to various points in the show you are watching.  Makes no sense to me.

[TronRP]

At last, the girls have worn themselves out for a while...a bunch of sleeping kitties.  

[kat (1)]

Bangs or botox? 

[TronRP]

19 minutes ago, kat said:

Bangs or botox? 

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I'd stay away from botox unless it was for medical reasons. 

[kat (1)]

29 minutes ago, TronRP said:

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I'd stay away from botox unless it was for medical reasons. 

I can't afford it anyway but I don't think I would even if I could.  It kind of scares me because you never know how your body is going to react to that. ( I just had a couple friends do it and I been a little curious though, they do something with the lips too I think) fillers? Maybe. I don't know. My one friend who recently got it, she actually had me cracking up she goes,  "I'm making all kinds of fucking faces at you right now and you don't even know!" 🤣

Edited April 14, 2019 by kat

[TronRP]

14 hours ago, kat said:

I can't afford it anyway but I don't think I would even if I could.  It kind of scares me because you never know how your body is going to react to that. ( I just had a couple friends do it and I been a little curious though, they do something with the lips too I think) fillers? Maybe. I don't know. My one friend who recently got it, she actually had me cracking up she goes,  "I'm making all kinds of fucking faces at you right now and you don't even know!" 🤣

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Yep...that last part sounds about right...

[TronRP]

I think I'm just going to stop trying to tell people how the boy really is and let them stew in their own personalized oblivion.
 

Every time I'm out with him at an event or an appointment, people keep saying..."Oh he's just young" or "boys his age are just like that" or "he's so shy" and the one that worries me, "I was just like him when I was his age".  Granted the boy is 13 and will be 14 in 5 months.

 

So I have a self-centered lier who looks out for only himself (regardless of how many people are in the room), will kick you in the head and laugh about it if you make what he calls "a funny face".  Does what he wants (i.e. steals, lies, cheats, considers himself in charge) because he is afraid that if he asks, he would be told "No".  Feels it's other people's fault if he doesn't take care of his responsibilities on time and WILL blame you when speaking to teachers, administration or whomever is in charge because he doesn't believe you will ever find out what he said about you.  Plays the odds when it comes to school work so he can do the least amount that is needed to just barely make the "C" grade he was striving for.  Acts like he doesn't know what's going on and speaks soft spoken to try to get sympathy from others until you threaten "his" food at which point he's suddenly an outspoken freakin genius.  Cries at the drop of a hat if he thinks it will get him what he wants and if you tell him to cut it out, he's literally smirking at you less than a second later.  Figures he can continue to live the way he is because he said he didn't believe we (his caregivers) would ever go anywhere...he honestly said he didn't think about the fact that we might pass on one day...so he figured he's set for life.

 

So whenever someone tells me that they were just like him when they were his age, I always want to ask, "So what did you do to slap yourself into this realm of reality?"  

🤨

[NocteSpiritus]

50 minutes ago, TronRP said:

I think I'm just going to stop trying to tell people how the boy really is and let them stew in their own personalized oblivion.
 

Every time I'm out with him at an event or an appointment, people keep saying..."Oh he's just young" or "boys his age are just like that" or "he's so shy" and the one that worries me, "I was just like him when I was his age".  Granted the boy is 13 and will be 14 in 5 months.

 

So I have a self-centered lier who looks out for only himself (regardless of how many people are in the room), will kick you in the head and laugh about it if you make what he calls "a funny face".  Does what he wants (i.e. steals, lies, cheats, considers himself in charge) because he is afraid that if he asks, he would be told "No".  Feels it's other people's fault if he doesn't take care of his responsibilities on time and WILL blame you when speaking to teachers, administration or whomever is in charge because he doesn't believe you will ever find out what he said about you.  Plays the odds when it comes to school work so he can do the least amount that is needed to just barely make the "C" grade he was striving for.  Acts like he doesn't know what's going on and speaks soft spoken to try to get sympathy from others until you threaten "his" food at which point he's suddenly an outspoken freakin genius.  Cries at the drop of a hat if he thinks it will get him what he wants and if you tell him to cut it out, he's literally smirking at you less than a second later.  Figures he can continue to live the way he is because he said he didn't believe we (his caregivers) would ever go anywhere...he honestly said he didn't think about the fact that we might pass on one day...so he figured he's set for life.

 

So whenever someone tells me that they were just like him when they were his age, I always want to ask, "So what did you do to slap yourself into this realm of reality?"  

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Growing up, my mom was a ... hard ass. Especially when it came to schooling. Hell, she wouldn't allow me to have a job outside school when I was in high school (thinking back on it, I could have gone behind her back and gotten one when I turned 18 in November my senior year. Though I don't know the ... legalities of that since I was still in school). When I was that age, I was more worried about school and having fun than whatever the boy does.

In a way, the boy sounds like he would fit into the same category that my middle sister (I call her demon online). The demon's been a drug addict for 12 years, and has lied, stolen, and basically wanted things her way and fuck everyone else and what they're doing. She doesn't care that our dad's got serious medical issues going on and that his dexterity and mobility has declined because of a couple brain tumors (don't know the cause of, but they're part of the loss of mobility). 

 

As for the boy, I don't know what could work short of no dinner at night or other non-physical methods (I grew up with ass spankings, and I grew up fine). Though, at the age he is, I think physical means might be pushing it since he might turn around at school and tell a teacher about it. Some ideas could be:

 

1.  Not come home for a day or two (obvi tell CJ/Trene. They might be able to help more with this. Make a weekend trip somewhere just the three of you). But this could be risky.
2. If he doesn't severely straighten up during summer school (because I see this happening) and the next school year, have military school loom on the horizon. Depending on his actions, that could move further up or back. The more he fucks up, the closer it gets. The better he gets, the further back it goes.
3. Try and arrange for him to spend some time in either A. juvie B. have him be escorted through adult prison. (think Beyond Scared Straight on part B) Show him that this could be in his future if he continues to lie, cheat, and steal. 

 

If he was closer to 18, I'd say fuck it and let him go mess up his life and wash my hands of him (This is what I've been trying to do with the demon the past few years (she's 4 years younger than I), but since I'm still living with the father, I have little choice in the matter. That's another story for another time.). But since he's not that close to legal age, I'm not sure what could be done other than what's above.

[NocteSpiritus]

That I got lucky in being able to stream tonight's Game of Thrones episode ondemand since we don't have HBO in our package.

[Trene4000]

Ouch

[TronRP]

On 4/14/2019 at 6:19 PM, NocteSpiritus said:

Growing up, my mom was a ... hard ass. Especially when it came to schooling. Hell, she wouldn't allow me to have a job outside school when I was in high school (thinking back on it, I could have gone behind her back and gotten one when I turned 18 in November my senior year. Though I don't know the ... legalities of that since I was still in school). When I was that age, I was more worried about school and having fun than whatever the boy does.

In a way, the boy sounds like he would fit into the same category that my middle sister (I call her demon online). The demon's been a drug addict for 12 years, and has lied, stolen, and basically wanted things her way and fuck everyone else and what they're doing. She doesn't care that our dad's got serious medical issues going on and that his dexterity and mobility has declined because of a couple brain tumors (don't know the cause of, but they're part of the loss of mobility). 

 

As for the boy, I don't know what could work short of no dinner at night or other non-physical methods (I grew up with ass spankings, and I grew up fine). Though, at the age he is, I think physical means might be pushing it since he might turn around at school and tell a teacher about it. Some ideas could be:

 

1.  Not come home for a day or two (obvi tell CJ/Trene. They might be able to help more with this. Make a weekend trip somewhere just the three of you). But this could be risky.
2. If he doesn't severely straighten up during summer school (because I see this happening) and the next school year, have military school loom on the horizon. Depending on his actions, that could move further up or back. The more he fucks up, the closer it gets. The better he gets, the further back it goes.
3. Try and arrange for him to spend some time in either A. juvie B. have him be escorted through adult prison. (think Beyond Scared Straight on part B) Show him that this could be in his future if he continues to lie, cheat, and steal. 

 

If he was closer to 18, I'd say fuck it and let him go mess up his life and wash my hands of him (This is what I've been trying to do with the demon the past few years (she's 4 years younger than I), but since I'm still living with the father, I have little choice in the matter. That's another story for another time.). But since he's not that close to legal age, I'm not sure what could be done other than what's above.

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To be honest, I think your situation is worse than ours since you are dealing with a full grown adult. 

 

But, as far as the boy is concerned,  believe it or not, I still beat his behind when called for and yes, all of his teachers know about it...the joys of being enrolled in an inner city school...they knew his behind was toast after Parent-Teacher Conference on March 27th.

 

1. 1.  Unfortunately, due to certain legalities, I am not able to put the boy in a state of "neglect" so the most we can do is put him out of the house (i.e. on the front porch) when there is a need for an attitude adjustment.
2. And due to him breaking his arm for a second time the one time I let him go to Summer School (he decided he wouldn't listen to supervisors and chose to do things his way), he is no longer able to do that again...at least not on my watch.  So with this screw up, I have put my foot down...he will repeat the 8th grade.  And also, what he does know is the fact that he has been informed that if he doesn't straighten up and take his education seriously I will sign him up for the military once he turns 17 and that way he will be Uncle Sam's problem...he doesn't need to know how that really works and besides, he's too lazy to look it up.
3. And about the "Scared Straight" thing, unfortunately, they didn't have anything like that going on in our area (I know, I've been looking since he was 11), so I was contemplating contacting a counselor I know at the Juvenile Court to see if there was a way I could have him see what life is really like in "kid lock up" as the boy calls it.

Both kids know that once they turn 18, they will be responsible for themselves.  I have told them we are not going anywhere, but they will be responsible for making their own way and yes, they will pay rent for as long as they will be living under my roof.  So I have been trying to prepare them for the culture shock of being treated as an adult at that age regardless of if they are ready for it or not.  The world will only ask "How old are you?" and conclusions will be drawn from there.  The girl is already preparing for times to change and has already determined her college of choice and the job she wants to have.  The boy is still riding coattails for as long as he can.  His rude awakening will come soon enough. 

[NocteSpiritus]

4 hours ago, TronRP said:

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To be honest, I think your situation is worse than ours since you are dealing with a full grown adult. 

 

But, as far as the boy is concerned,  believe it or not, I still beat his behind when called for and yes, all of his teachers know about it...the joys of being enrolled in an inner city school...they knew his behind was toast after Parent-Teacher Conference on March 27th.

 

1. 1.  Unfortunately, due to certain legalities, I am not able to put the boy in a state of "neglect" so the most we can do is put him out of the house (i.e. on the front porch) when there is a need for an attitude adjustment.
2. And due to him breaking his arm for a second time the one time I let him go to Summer School (he decided he wouldn't listen to supervisors and chose to do things his way), he is no longer able to do that again...at least not on my watch.  So with this screw up, I have put my foot down...he will repeat the 8th grade.  And also, what he does know is the fact that he has been informed that if he doesn't straighten up and take his education seriously I will sign him up for the military once he turns 17 and that way he will be Uncle Sam's problem...he doesn't need to know how that really works and besides, he's too lazy to look it up.
3. And about the "Scared Straight" thing, unfortunately, they didn't have anything like that going on in our area (I know, I've been looking since he was 11), so I was contemplating contacting a counselor I know at the Juvenile Court to see if there was a way I could have him see what life is really like in "kid lock up" as the boy calls it.

Both kids know that once they turn 18, they will be responsible for themselves.  I have told them we are not going anywhere, but they will be responsible for making their own way and yes, they will pay rent for as long as they will be living under my roof.  So I have been trying to prepare them for the culture shock of being treated as an adult at that age regardless of if they are ready for it or not.  The world will only ask "How old are you?" and conclusions will be drawn from there.  The girl is already preparing for times to change and has already determined her college of choice and the job she wants to have.  The boy is still riding coattails for as long as he can.  His rude awakening will come soon enough. 

Yeah, it's worse dealing with an adult; especially when they're their own worse problem. 

 

I hadn't gone to inner city schools (the "downside" of living in the 'burbs), and my mom seemed to know half of my hometown. Hell, my 8th grade math teacher I had known outside of school due to knowing his parents/family thro my mom (babysitting his sisters for sure. And quite sure the same for those who lived across the street from where she grew up). 

 

1. This one I knew could have been iffy since I'm not privy to the legalities of your family life. 
2. He prolly doesn't realize (or hasn't sunken in) that any friends he had won't be there next year. And he does have that mind set to not look up how things work. What's seen on tv or movies for military isn't the same as living it; I haven't personally been military, but I know basic training is no joke.
3. I would say do this just as a Plan B or C. Maybe work it out for a weekend.

 

I hadn't been given that preparation; the mother had the plan that I'd go to college, get a job, then pay for the demon's college and she get a job, then she turns and does the same for the youngest sister, who then will turn around and pay the parents back for college. Obviously that didn't work out. I have plans in the works that are just waiting on me getting started at the airport job. The girl I know will do fine. The boy ... not so much.

[TronRP]

42 minutes ago, NocteSpiritus said:

Yeah, it's worse dealing with an adult; especially when they're their own worse problem. 

 

I hadn't gone to inner city schools (the "downside" of living in the 'burbs), and my mom seemed to know half of my hometown. Hell, my 8th grade math teacher I had known outside of school due to knowing his parents/family thro my mom (babysitting his sisters for sure. And quite sure the same for those who lived across the street from where she grew up). 

 

1. This one I knew could have been iffy since I'm not privy to the legalities of your family life. 
2. He prolly doesn't realize (or hasn't sunken in) that any friends he had won't be there next year. And he does have that mind set to not look up how things work. What's seen on tv or movies for military isn't the same as living it; I haven't personally been military, but I know basic training is no joke.
3. I would say do this just as a Plan B or C. Maybe work it out for a weekend.

 

I hadn't been given that preparation; the mother had the plan that I'd go to college, get a job, then pay for the demon's college and she get a job, then she turns and does the same for the youngest sister, who then will turn around and pay the parents back for college. Obviously that didn't work out. I have plans in the works that are just waiting on me getting started at the airport job. The girl I know will do fine. The boy ... not so much.

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To be honest, I've never heard about the trickle down college fund effect before.  That's a new one to me.  Also, makes it sound like you take the first born for granted and everyone else benefits...but I'm not judging.

 

As for the boy...I'm sure at some point he will get his act together, but until he does, he will have to contend with me.  He already knows what awaits him from my end, it's just that he also understands that he is legally protected until the age of 18.  But after that, not even the Courts can help him AND IT WILL BE ON!!!  I have no problem at the waiting game.  

[TronRP]

Oh my goodness, I've been so busy the past few days, I just realized I haven't read any emails.  😮

[NocteSpiritus]

9 hours ago, TronRP said:

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To be honest, I've never heard about the trickle down college fund effect before.  That's a new one to me.  Also, makes it sound like you take the first born for granted and everyone else benefits...but I'm not judging.

 

As for the boy...I'm sure at some point he will get his act together, but until he does, he will have to contend with me.  He already knows what awaits him from my end, it's just that he also understands that he is legally protected until the age of 18.  But after that, not even the Courts can help him AND IT WILL BE ON!!!  I have no problem at the waiting game.  

Say hi to the first born of the family. waves As for the trickle down college fund plan, obviously that didn't work out. It'll be something I won't try and put on my offspring if I have any (birthed or adopted).

 

He will. Culture shock will happen for him even though he knows it's coming. For some sadistic reason, I'd love to see his face when that happens.

[kat (1)]

I had sushi from Sam's Club. Will I die? Damn cute sushi dude giving me a sample and making me feel bad for not buying it so I had to buy it.

Edited April 17, 2019 by kat

[kat (1)]

My daughter just thanked me for not being an anti vaxxer.  

[TronRP]

I can't believe how busy I've been for the past week.  Even though I'm finally getting the chance to take a break, I find it hard to relax completely.

[TronRP]

2 hours ago, kat said:

I had sushi from Sam's Club. Will I die? Damn cute sushi dude giving me a sample and making me feel bad for not buying it so I had to buy it.

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Ah yes, the buyer's guilt trip....lol

[TronRP]

59 minutes ago, kat said:

My daughter just thanked me for not being an anti vaxxer.  

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Yeah, we just got a notification from DPS that there is a measles outbreak in Oakland County at the moment.

 

I grew up without a fully functional immune system so if it had not been for vaccinations, I would probably not be here today to stick my nose into other people's business.