Why can't I be one of the guys.

[Rozzlyn]

What's the difference between a best friend of the opposite sex, and a relationship?

sex

seems to me you were asking for a relationship without asking for a relationship.

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Well, TECHNICALLY having a "best friend" of any gender is a "relationship." Don't believe me? (Def 3)

Then there's the fact that there's a connotation of enswoonment when the relationship is something MORE than "best friends with sex."

[wheresmypiggy]

Sex with the opposite sex is not a relationship, neither is sex with the same sex. To me its boredom. I get bored. I find something to fill that boredom. If I actually wanted a relationship I would take the time to get to know the person.

[Goth Brooks]

Sex with the opposite sex is not a relationship, neither is sex with the same sex. To me its boredom. I get bored. I find something to fill that boredom. If I actually wanted a relationship I would take the time to get to know the person.

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Exactly, that's your opinion, and I stated mine. Unfortunately, it seems that other person didn't share your opinion or you wouldn't be having this issue. Hope you get it cleared up.

[honeymustard02]

nevermind

[cptdeath]

sex is more fun then akido

but not allways the best way

I got this long winded theroy I call it my chocholate milk theroy

ask me and I'll start that thread but it's a lot of typing and I wanted to copyright it.

sex has a tendency to create a strong emotional bond

as it is best when the most passion (sharing of emotional energy) is involved

your loss of control of thi relationship is due to a passionate lover who is not getting what he paid for spiritually

regardless of he felt before he still extended that much soul and got it returned ice cold. you by not embracing and not fully returning his spirit with your own peice attached killed his buzz and turned it negative. but you have that just friends clouse to hide behind, and presumably a right to not feel guilty about a broken heart. still a brocken heart is wrong in my book.

so I learn Akido instead.

of course I'm not so experinced in the friend with benifits thing. I assume most people feel anger when they see a lover with another lover particularly a friend

Why do we think this is class?

"caouse there some haters."

"then that makes you the player"

I would aproach it like your free to do what you want allways but in turn so am I

I am with some one cause I assume they feel they same as me about them and thats the choice we both make as individuals to honor and respect each others feelings. of course theres only one of me so it does not work in reality. thougts and feelings allways change in people so be carefull were you put your faith.

I usually don't sleep with my drinking buddies.

you get what you pay for

weather it's pleasure or pain or both.

:fear

[wheresmypiggy]

I'm just gonna give up sex again. I don't really need it, it just was a boredom killer.

I could be playing more video games.

[paradox]

:laughing damn straight!

[Therapyfaild]

I wanted a friend who I could confide in, feel comfortable with, hang out with, drink with, and take advantge of from time to time. I explained to this person that I did not want a relationship, only friendship. And that after any sexual encounters our friendship stayed the same.

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With the exception of wanting love or commitment, it sounds like you requested a relationship...I won't begin to guess on his behavior afterwards, but I'd assume he developed some level of feelings, and thought-since you were close freinds and all-you might be doing the same. A good number of relationships start as two people who knew each other without any real "intent" and then it developed further....

If I actually wanted a relationship I would take the time to get to know the person.

If you're close freinds, comfortable, and confiding in one another and so forth, wouldn't you be getting to know them in the process?

[Head Wreck]

sounds to me like mss P just want a decent friend and a fuckbuddy to relive tensions. unfortunatly us men are simple creatures and get confused easily and throw our toys out the pram when we dont get our way.

i had an ex who was puzzled over the same problem (with men and women). and i belive she's still having the same run of luck with such friendship roles

[wheresmypiggy]

sounds to me like mss P just want a decent friend and a fuckbuddy to relive tensions.  unfortunatly us men are simple creatures and get confused easily and throw our toys out the pram when we dont get our way.

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Thats it exactly!

Oh well. It was fun for a minute.

Unfortunately now its time to deal with the consequences... =(

[Head Wreck]

arent people odd things to understand

[paradox]

very.

[Goth Brooks]

I'm just gonna give up sex again. I don't really need it, it just was a boredom killer.

I could be playing more video games.

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-adds this to "Things you will never hear a guy say."