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All you married DGN'rs. Its no secret that I had an affair with my wifes twin for 1/2 a year earlier this year. Any of you married folks ever get so sick of your spouse that you wanna just call it quits. I mean every views marraige as being so glamourous but in reality. You never get to fuck anyone else or even get oral or anything or your spouse will leave you more than likely or be hurt. I'm just wondering has anyone else felt like or still feels like calling it quits or had affairs that you would like to get off your chest. Feel free to talk about it cause sometimes being married drives me fucking nuts.

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i don't normally talk about this sort of stuff, here or with anyone (with the exception of one or two people ever) but i will for you dave ;)

i have wanted to call it quits for sure. won't get into details and it was never set into motion or anything but things have gotten tough and it gets overwhelming and you sometimes think "is THIS what i signed up for??" but you know when you get married you really never know what is to come. and that is part of the for better or worse i suppose.

i have NEVER considered an affair, that is not who i am. and i would never do that to my husband even if we were "over". i would have to be completely free of someone to ever move on to someone else. like i said, just who i am.

there are a lot of reasons people are unhappy with thier marriages and over all i would say the root of my issues have been money. it is sad that money can tear people apart but it happens. instead of coming together to fix the problem it seems to drive a wedge in between you.

in these times i have to really think hard as to why we got married in the first place, why we started a family together and how will i make my family stay together. because that is what matters to me how to make it work, not how to run away. not saying every marriage can or should work out. just saying i try to do what i can for my marriage and family.

right now i am happy that we are happy and things are going well for us. but i sure can't say it is always like that and always will be?? i really don't know. all i know is i can do my best to remember why i got married in the first place and work on that.

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not to sound like a smart-ass (because that's not my intent) but why did you get married? that can go a long way to determining whether you'll be happy with it or not, and how realistic your expectations are of it...

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Well maybe I should start with why I had an affair. I used to date the twin 10 yrs ago and she was the first to pick me up at city club too lol. Anyways I got married mainly for religious reasons to make things right with the higher power also cuz I got tired of being alone. Also everyone can tell when I go out that I do love her but sexually I'm a nutcase and alot is suppressed either by drugs or by hand. It wasn't smart ass at all bro.

dynomiiiiite Posted Today, 04:18 PM

  i don't normally talk about this sort of stuff, here or with anyone (with the exception of one or two people ever) but i will for you dave ;)

Thanks hon input sometimes helps people to understand. You also have alot of kids at home at stake so that deepens the situation I myself never had kids with my wife. She had one already but the kid is never a problem.

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...Anyways I got married mainly for religious reasons to make things right with the higher power also cuz I got tired of being alone...

again, not to be a smart-ass, but those don't seem to be strong reasons to get married - they seem to come more from fear of judgement and loneliness, than out of love. a troubled marriage does deserve to be worked on, and even fought for, if the feelings are strong enough, but i also condone knowing when it's in one's best interest to part ways. i never think of marriages as "failures" because they did work for a while - sometimes there comes a point where people just need to move on, though...

(not that i'm saying that's the case with you - i'm generalizing for generalizations' sake. only you know what's best for you, and i think it's in your best interest to listen to yourself, above anyone else)

i wish you well, dave!

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I do love the girl tho torn and was a good husband for 4 yrs never cheated (except with Mr. Hand which is considered cheating via religion cuz "Thou that hast looked at a woman as to lust has already commited adultery of the heart") or anything. People just have issues sometimes mentally, sexually(variety) Brenda once posted in teds thread about the end of her getting other people, etc. Marriage is definitely lifes biggest challenge and I think most of you would agree and it shouldn't be rushed. I did date my wife (and think shes hot) for 9 yrs so it probaby will work out but people have feelings that sometimes need to be dealt with.

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Divorce isn't always a good thing either (and sometimes it is, depends). Looking back on their lives I have a feeling a lot of people now wish they had tried a little harder to work it out.

If there is love left in a marriage I believe there is always hope.

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LOL.  Anyways if u wanted to go deeper into the rest please do.  We never met dox.  I'm Dave.

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i made my own thread on it a week or two back already.

i dont feel like thinking about it right now.

but thanks :)

oh, and hi, im chris, but most people seem to call me dox now.

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Well, I have always had an open relationship with the hubby, even before we got married. When we talked about getting married, we discussed that as well, and we were both fine with it. Our relationship was great until about a month after we got married. Then he had a problem with everything that I did, and we fought constantly. We got married in October of 2003, and we just got seperated in June of this year. We did try to stay together, but it just kept getting worse. Now we are doing this seperation thing to see if we should go for the big "D" or get back together. We have serious issues that he refuses to talk about. He is one of those people that would rather sweep everything under the rug and pretend like everything is ok and live in misery, instead of facing things head on, with the possibility of a bad outcome for him.

Personally, I just want this to be over with and to get a divorce, but he doesn't want it, and we've only been seperated 2 months, so I guess I should give it more time.

This is why you don't get married when you are 23. Scream and run the other way.

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YES.........

Marriage is hard work....I knew that before hand.....

I think for me, losing the "out" you have when your'e dating.....makes me feel stuck...which I am, but in my mind it kind of makes me feel differently about things now. Now that I don't have that fear of say losing him over an argument, the arguments are worse because there is not that fear.....You know? Same with him.....he doesn't have to fear that he is going to lose me, so he is more apt to speak his mind without any re-percussions.....except maybe no sex for a few days.....rather than losing me all together....you know? As example.

Yeah....Sometimes I want out.....but I signed that paper for the long haul. Plus, I couldn't imagine my life without him. It takes a special guy to be with me becuase I KNOW I am hard to deal with. I KNOW how I am. He is special enough to be able to keep me at bay. We kind of balance each other out. Hes cool and collected and I am a crazy mutha fucka and out of control, and all over the place and hyper and anxious and BLAH! He keeps me toned down.

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