Private school

[ManicQueen]

So here's the deal. My mom is trying to get me to put my daughter in a private school this year and needs an answer today. I've given her my answer a few days ago which was no. Now, I do agree that she needs to be in a private school because of the way she heading but the fact that they do teach religion isn't acceptable to me and my belief's.

Am I in the wrong? Because I won't put her in there for that one reason?

Should I let her go there and just deal with it? Part of me wants her there and the other part doesn't. My mother is calling me a bad parent because of this drama. And she say's my belief's are stupid becuase I don't follow a god.

If religion wasn't taught then I would be more than willing to have her go there.

I don't know what to do.

[float]

I AM A FIRM BELIEVER IN PRIVATE SCHOOLS

i went to public schools for 8 years, then i got SENT to the local private school

if I had gone to public High School, i never would have graduated

not because of the people, or the teachers, or the curriculum...

but because it was smaller, so they kept closer tabs on us

also, the small intimate nature of the classes provided for a more open learning experience

all in all, if you have the means....I think it could only help your daughter

private schools also have an amazing ratio of kids who go on to college

Message me if I can be ANY help in this area

[float]

and as far as the religion thing goes

my school was Catholic....and we had a couple Jews, any Wasps and any other kids who would pay the tuition

Religion was taught in a very loose way

it all depends on the teachers

one of my religion teachers in HS is one of the reasons I'm not Christian today

-he had an open forum way of discussing theology and religion

made us all think

[Lilith]

I have never been to a privat e school so other wise i have not comment other then it cant hurt her to have the knowledge of other religions. I actually think it might be very helpful to her in makeing her own decision about wich path to follow. Keep talking with her and disscuss what is taught at school and let her know that even though she goes to that school she does not have to follow that faith if she does nto want to.

lilith

[JaneDead]

i went to a catholic school for k,1,2,3,4,5 part of 6,7,8,9,10 and part of 11th grade. i liked it way better than the public schools i went to for part of 6th, part of 11th and all of 12th.

i had religion classes every year, had to go to church with class, etc... but over all it didn't make me start to follow that path. if anything it gave me exposure to those beliefs to the point where i can hold a conversation on it and dispute all the things i think are not true.

my son happens to have some beliefs that i don't agree with and when he askes me a question all i say is "yes, so people believe that" i dont want to tell him "no" because i just don't know. and i don't want to say "yes" because i don't agree and ... i just don't know.

edit- i didn't get to finish this before and i wanted to say this as well:

my point was even if your child has to go to catholic school, and you don't like the religious aspect of it there are many other things about it that will benefit her. you can look at the religion classes as just another thing she is learning/being exposed to and it doesn't have to be in a negative way. you will not be teaching her that yes that is the way but on the other hand maybe you should not teach her that no, that is not the way either.

for my kids- i want to expose them to many different views on life, religion, ways of being and not being. i will never teach them that there is only one ultimate way to be because they need to find that on their own anyways.

[ManicQueen]

After talking with my sister, who's going to put her son in there too, *he's the same age my daughter*, I've decided to do it.

I know for a fact she will get the education she needs and the one on one attention of a smaller class. Last year she started middle school and all year long her grades went down the hole along with her attitude. She started hanging around with the trouble makers and so on.

It won't be too long till she's where I was at her age. Sex, drugs, getting pregnant, dropping out of school... you get the idea. So I pretty much have no choice but to do this, it's for her own good and my sanity

They don't have a uniform policy though, which I hoped they did. Without conformity there usually is no change. But I just have to remember she's there for the education and that's all. Whether she wants to follow a religion is her dicision.. I will still love and respect her.

This is just so agravating for me. I hate when my mom wins!

[honeymustard02]

Just because they teach religion doesn't mean it is bad. It's just more for your daughter to learn and know about this world.

I hope it works out for her and she improves.

[ManicQueen]

Another thing, some people at their church raised over $4,000 for them to attend their school. That's what my mom just told me. Guilt trip? :laughing

[Guest Game of Chance]

So here's the deal. My mom is trying to get me to put my daughter in a private school this year and needs an answer today. I've given her my answer a few days ago which was no. Now, I do agree that she needs to be in a private school because of the way she heading but the fact that they do teach religion isn't acceptable to me and my belief's.

Am I in the wrong? Because I won't put her in there for that one reason?

Should I let her go there and just deal with it? Part of me wants her there and the other part doesn't.  My mother is calling me a bad parent because of this drama. And she say's my belief's are stupid becuase I don't follow a god.

If religion wasn't taught then I would be more than willing to have her go there.

I don't know what to do.

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Actually, oftentimes Catholic schools (which I assume you're referring to) are worse than public schools. There are a number of reasons for this, different regulatory requirements and lack of funding being top on the list. I went to public school from k-5 and Catholic School in 6th grade. When I changed schools in the 7th grade to enter a non-religious private school, I needed a tutor just to catch up with the kids who had gone to public school in 6th grade.

Depends on which city you live in. Are the public schools that bad there?

[JaneDead]

my sister and i just had this conversation last night ^

i said that when i left my catholic high school to go to a public high school i was SO behind i had to drop classes and take eaiser ones. it bothered me a lot. i had to drop french, it was too hard. my algebra II/trig class was too hard i had to drop to a lower level (at the public school they had many more levels than my catholic school had) i was 9 chapters behind in accounting. i actually caught up, but just barely.

my sister on the other hand left the catholic elementary school to go to public middle school and was way ahead than the public school kids.

[ManicQueen]

Actually, oftentimes Catholic schools (which I assume you're referring to) are worse than public schools.  There are a number of reasons for this, different regulatory requirements and lack of funding being top on the list.  I went to public school from k-5 and Catholic School in 6th grade.  When I changed schools in the 7th grade to enter a non-religious private school, I needed a tutor just to catch up with the kids who had gone to private school in 6th grade.

Depends on which city you live in.  Are the public schools that bad there?

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This isn't a Catholic school. I think it's Seventh Day Adventist but I'm not totally sure. Does anyone know about them? I have no idea what they teach.

I'm going to give it a try for at least the first marking period. If I see that she is struggling, then I will pull her out and put her back in public schools.

[Guest Game of Chance]

This isn't a Catholic school. I think it's Seventh Day Adventist but I'm not totally sure. Does anyone know about them? I have no idea what they teach.

I'm going to give it a try for at least the first marking period. If I see that she is struggling, then I will pull her out and put her back in public schools.

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[ManicQueen]

http://www.beliefnet.com/story/80/story_8036_1.html

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Thank you!

[Guest Game of Chance]

Thank you!

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Not a problem

[Jarodaka]

I hope your daughter does well, Manicqueen! Looks like everything I would've said has already been mentioned. As has been said, just make sure she's being diligent about questioning religion and actually getting a better education. Sounds like you're on top of things, though... good luck with it!

[ManicQueen]

I hope your daughter does well, Manicqueen!  Looks like everything I would've said has already been mentioned.  As has been said, just make sure she's being diligent about questioning religion and actually getting a better education.  Sounds like you're on top of things, though... good luck with it!

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I already told her to focus on education first, while she's there. The religion can come second if she chooses.

Well, she starts today and she is not a happy camper. Yesterday when I broke the news to her, she kept saying " I hate churchies" and many other inappropriate things. I just had to tell her to not hate people for what they believe in. We are all different. She says she doesn't want to learn about "God". But I told her it doesn't hurt to learn about different religions and just bacuase they are teaching doesn't mean you have to buy into in. It's all for educational purposes I told her. Do what you want with it.

She hates me right now =(

[torn asunder]

...And she say's my belief's are stupid becuase I don't follow a god.

if any member of my family ever said this to me, i'd tell them that i wouldn't be in any further communication with them until they re-evaluated their position.

respect - give it, getit - don't give it, don't expect it.

as far as your child is concerned, do what you believe in your heart to be best - there is no right or wrong in life, only actions and results...

[gothicmom]

I have my kids in a charter school. They actually teach a class called Moral Focus! They focus on one moral trait for a month. Some last year was generosity, obedience, and forgiveness.

Middle school just sucks! The kids a aym's school are still jerks, but she said a girl was suspened for 3 days for mouthing off to a teacher. Not bad mouthing off either, i think she said she wasn't going to do the sit ups in gym class or something stupid like that.

We are very happy with the school. Aym went to private school too. I would rather have my kids there than a public school.

[SomeDanGuy]

<--- Catholic school for 8 years. I came out of it an atheist, so don't worry =)

Personally, I was very happy with the education I received. To give you an idea: About 30 of us from my private school went to the public high school afterwards. The high school class size was about 400. Despite being only 30 out of 400 in high school, we made up 3 out of 5 of the valedictorians.

[Medea]

I went to Catholic Schools for all thirteen years of lower learning

Look how I turned out!

Oh... wait, I was supposed to be encouraging, huh?

[Msterbeau]

A pagen friend has her daughter in Catholic school. They just play along... the nun's are none the wiser.... (No pun intended)