Adulthood

[The_Dark]

A recent thread brought this up.. I just wonder what everyon thinks about it.

[Onyx]

Depends on what you mean by adult.

Personally I don't think most people's personality is fully formed until after age 25.

Some never become adults :laughing

[Brenda Starrr]

Where are the 30's?

[The_Dark]

By adult I mean able to make a decision without getting permission from mommy and daddy.

[EvilEve]

21, i say... that's when everything is avalible to you... then again, at age 25, your insurance drops... so i don't know... how about we say, 20... or whatever number you think that you've turned into an adult...

[Slept with ghost]

im not voteing because i dont agree with any of the ages when you should be an adult depends on two things one if you have a child thats a good time to grow up and be mature and two if you never have children then you dont have to be an adult until your in adult diapers

[Homicidalheathen]

Your poll doesn't go low enough. You said until you no longer need consent....I left home at 15. I slept in cars....went through allot....doesn't make one an adult be definatly makes one hard.

[unchaste]

Growing old is inevitable.

Growing up is optional.

[Lilith]

I dont wanna grow up i'm a toys r us kid ....... :whistling ......

Being an adult has allot of factors in it. yes at age 18 you are legally old enough to do most anything that is what the law says, Now do your parnets and others see you as an adult at that age? well most of the time no, mature wise an 18 year old is not capapble of dealing with allot of things.

Now i have no idea when a parent would see a child as an adult as i still deal with a mother in law who treats us like children and mine have yet to even approach the age of legal adult.

I know when you legally become and adult but mentally it depends on allot for every one and i still have yet to figure it all out.

Lilith

[JaneDead]

i voted 18. that was when i first left home, had my own car, a job, a pretty busy social life, serious boyfriend, took care of myself. obviously all that does NOT make you an adult but that was my first real taste of freedom. i finally got to make my own choices and had my own life. (my parents were really strict and i was not allowed to do most things growing up. i thank them for it now, but it sucked at the time )

i didn't fully feel like an adult til i was about 21 and my son was born. my life yet again changed. still- doesn't make you an adult necessarily but my responsibilities and priorities changed drastically.

at 25 i really felt like a *true* adult. it was about then my life got on the right track.

[JaneDead]

another thing-

i have not been treated as a child, since i was a child. and for the most part i feel i have been pretty mature since my late teens. i think being an adult has a lot to do with your maturity rather than your age. it's proven in the choices you make.

my 19 and 24 year old sisters are more mature and responsible than some men i know in their 30's who still live with someone/family and don't care to hold a job or take care of thier children. sadly, i know a few "men" like this.

[Daevion]

another thing-

i have not been treated as a child, since i was a child. and for the most part i feel i have been pretty mature since my late teens. i think being an adult has a lot to do with your maturity rather than your age. it's proven in the choices you make.

my 19 and 24 year old sisters are more mature and responsible than some men i know in their 30's who still live with someone/family and don't care to hold a job or take care of thier children. sadly, i know a few "men" like this.

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

glad i'm not one of those....I lived on my own for quite some time now and I wouldn't trade it for anything....except millions of dollars, yes I would trade it for money and power.

[phee]

Never... it never starts

[Head Wreck]

16 over here for legal responsibilities, 18 to drink (and then people find it easier to get employment then)

but 25 is when people start taking you seriously at work.

in my opinion. adulthood begins when you realise theres more to life than yourself to think about and care for

[Homicidalheathen]

Hear hear. I don't like ageism and thats what this is too me. I have known teenagers that were more mature than some people in their 40's, it depends on the person.

16 over here for legal responsibilities, 18 to drink (and then people find it easier to get employment then)

but 25 is when people start taking you seriously at work.

in my opinion.  adulthood begins when you realise theres more to life than yourself to think about and care for

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

[the eternal]

I have to grow up?

I want a child-free vacation where I can:

live like a child (while playing adult-only games) and

the only responsibility

is to avoid getting an STD.

Who's in???

[Homicidalheathen]

Me me! I do!

[Head Wreck]

if i had time of from house chores and refurbishment, work, setting up of a society, planning the all hallows event, and worrying how much sleep i'll be able to fit in tonight before i get up and do it again (2 - 3 hrs a night for past month not doing me any good.)

i would be. just come off holiday back into the thick of it. 5 mins sit down, post a few replies, and pick up a trowel again....

[wheresmypiggy]

By adult I mean able to make a decision without getting permission from mommy and daddy.

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Well from this I was an adult at 18. Then a child again at 22. Damn courts. Giving my mother full custody of me as an adult.

Then again when I was 23 they once again grounded me by court and by parent.

Fucking owned.

I don't think I will ever be an adult at this rate.

[Homicidalheathen]

I am surprised this was legal.....beyond the age of 18? Are you serious????

[Soulrev]

By adult I mean able to make a decision without getting permission from mommy and daddy.

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

When you move out of your mommy and daddy's house.. Lol

[fever blister]

when u support ur self with zero help. some im like still 16

[Scary Guy]

Yeah you can't group everyone into the same age group as "grown up". The Jewish Bar/Batmitzvahs (sp?) were originally passage into adulthood and that happens at age 13.

I think once you realise your own mortality and that nothing lasts forever you are grown up.

Either that or it depends on how you act, how mature you are. I've met 12 year olds who could take care of themselves and 40 year olds who can't hold a job and live at home.

Granted I don't have much of a right to talk because I still live at home, but in the UK it's common place to live with your parents till you get married (from what I understand, even if I'm wrong let me have that cause it makes me feel like less of a loser).

[JaneDead]

when u support ur self with zero help. some im like still 16

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

i guess in most cases. but in my case i am a stay at home mom so my husband technically supports me. i still feel like an adult but i have a "job" that just doesn't pay cash money. :grin

[Head Wreck]

Yeah you can't group everyone into the same age group as "grown up".  The Jewish Bar/Batmitzvahs (sp?) were originally passage into adulthood and that happens at age 13.

I think once you realise your own mortality and that nothing lasts forever you are grown up.

Either that or it depends on how you act, how mature you are.  I've met 12 year olds who could take care of themselves and 40 year olds who can't hold a job and live at home.

Granted I don't have much of a right to talk because I still live at home, but in the UK it's common place to live with your parents till you get married (from what I understand, even if I'm wrong let me have that cause it makes me feel like less of a loser).

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

it is common

unlike the US the trend here is to buy rather to rent.

mortgagues being as they are its hard to do so on your own.

before they'd only allow you to borrow 3 times as much as your annual. but now i hear they let you go as far as 5. some people are going to get themselves in serious debt.

especially as the propperty market has rocketted (past 5 years my pearents house has gone up from its initial value of 40K to 120K - 130K mark.

albiet it is a very large plot (semi detached, double plot and rear driveway pluss 2 heated and sealed shed's) it does have an electricity substation on its property.

past 3 attempts to move out recently have been turned down due to the various housemats i went with to find a place just werent earning enough according to the letting agents.

so for now. i'm stuck with my folks. which in some ways isnt a hinderance tbh. i'm in a safe nieghberhood on a coastal village with plenty of green and hills. i get my seafood fresh and to the door on occasion. large town about 3-7 miles east, city a further 10, so i'm not going short on petrol to get necessities.

recently my mother sufferred 2 strokes. and it has effected her mentally. she can cope well, but if she gets tired it all goes to hell. so for the most part i'm at hand to do whatever it needs. i can handle all the household chores, have been able to since an early age, but i consider now as my training time for when i finnaly do get a place of my own.

which may not be untill i some of my land off (i have 6.5 acres on a mountainside overlooking the estury/penincula) to fund my own home. will have to wait for law to change for that though (been in works since a couple of years back), which may come soon with the current housing crisis.

i still dont know if i have grown up yet by my definition, but i try to be as good as i can

what were we on about again.....