Broken up

[BlackSkittles]

hehe :laughing

That's because:

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[DarkChylde]

That's because:

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LMAO :laughing That was great *applauses*

[Goth Brooks]

Im still too young ta be a father

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i wish i was

[the eternal]

I'm going to say something kind of non-confrontational and new-agey (bear with me, this is very foreign to me)

It seems like you guys have different paths right now. She wanted someone going one direction and at a certain place, and you are at a point where things are in the building stage.

And as anyone who's taken a sociology course knows, for all the crap about chick flicks and blind romance, MEN are more likely to fall head over heels, whereas women are more likely to seek out relationships in a more pragmatic manner (money, stability, etc)

In the end (more new agey crap) it seems like things are for the best.

Im sure it doesnt seem that way now.

But you know what?

Better now than after several years where you get up in the morning every day and have the same fucking fights about the same three or for things that'll never change.

This is a gift

(god, I'm on a roll, aren't I)

But really, I feel this way.

Just from reading both your posts, it's apparent to me you guys were not a perfect fit. Think 10 years down the road. Could you imagine still being civil, let alone happy?

Now you're free to find someone who IS that fit. Who will always make things work.

Now , you're idea of waiting may be good.

You're probably feeling raw right now, and that's usually not a good time to get involved. Also, you should look at yourself, and ask

"Am I happy with where I am,"

or more significantly,

"where I'm heading?"

I would not be so bold as to call myself an intellectual, but I'm no slouch. Yet, I would NEVER want to go for a PHD, hell I couldnt even imagine a masters right now, and that takes me out of the running for several friends

who put people without advanced degrees on par with a gutter dweller.

Everyone has their own standard.

Yours should just be where you want to be going. If that's being a struggling artist, (I also have friends in that camp) then you just need to find someone cool with that (there are tons pf people out there who are)

What most people look for, men AND women, is someone who's comfortable in their own skin, and can take care of themselves, and occassionally their partner,

And if the person demands something more than you offer, they werent right for you in the first place.

(Now I sound like someones mom, dont I??) :erm I

It's TRUE, though.

The only snag is that you should be in a place where you're comfortable with yourself or where you're going. If you're not,

insecurities and personal struggles will get in the way of true love.

If that's the case the case, Id make sure things are in order in your life first.

Just remember, you decide what your path is.

NEVER let anyone else's expectations define how to live your life. Only you can do that for yourself.

Once you do, that person will come along, because they'll see in you exactly what you aim to be and if it's meant to be,

they'll love you for it.

If they don't, fuck em.

Good luck, man. I hope you're feeling better.

[Homicidalheathen]

Isn't it funny how the people who give the best love advise have turmoil in there own love lives.........

Guess it is experience talking eh?

I'm going to say something kind of non-confrontational and new-agey (bear with me, this is very foreign to me)

It seems like you guys have different paths right now.  She wanted someone going one direction and at a certain place, and you are at a point where things are in the building stage.

And as anyone who's taken a sociology course knows,  for all the crap about chick flicks and blind romance, MEN are more likely to fall head over heels, whereas women are more likely to seek out relationships in a more pragmatic manner (money, stability, etc)

In the end (more new agey crap)  it seems like things are for the best. 

Im sure it doesnt seem that way now.

But you know what?

Better now than after several years where you get up in the morning every day and have the same fucking fights about the same three or for things that'll never change. 

This is a gift

(god, I'm on a roll, aren't I) 

But really, I feel this way.

Just from reading both your posts, it's apparent to me you guys were not a perfect fit. Think 10 years down the road.  Could you imagine still being civil, let alone happy? 

Now you're free to find someone who IS that fit.  Who will always make things work. 

Now , you're idea of waiting may be good. 

You're probably feeling raw right now, and that's usually not a good time to get involved.  Also, you should look at yourself, and ask

"Am I happy with where I am,"

or more significantly,

"where I'm heading?" 

I would not be so bold as to call myself an intellectual, but I'm no slouch.  Yet, I would NEVER  want to go for a PHD, hell I couldnt even imagine a masters right now, and that takes me out of the running for several friends

who put people without advanced degrees on par with a gutter dweller. 

Everyone has their own standard. 

Yours should just be where you want to be going.  If that's being a  struggling artist, (I also have friends in that camp) then you just need to find someone cool with that (there are tons pf people out there who are)

What most people look for, men AND women, is someone who's comfortable in their own skin, and can take care of themselves, and occassionally their partner,

And if the person demands something more than you offer, they werent right for you in the first place.

(Now I sound like someones mom, dont I??) :erm  I

It's TRUE, though.

The only snag is that you should be in a place where you're comfortable with yourself or where you're going.  If you're not,

insecurities and personal struggles will get in the way of true love. 

If that's the case the case, Id make sure things are in order in your life first. 

Just remember, you decide what your path is.

NEVER let anyone else's expectations define how to live your life.  Only you can do that for yourself.

Once you do, that person will come along, because they'll  see in you exactly what you aim to be and if it's meant to be,

they'll love you for it.     

If they don't, fuck em.

Good luck, man.  I hope you're feeling better.

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[Dollardave]

I'm wondering how the hell he conned her into going out in the first place.  Maybe I should take some dating tips from Rambo.

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He told her that he could perform auto-fellatio on himself like I can. I told him to use the pickup line and it worked. J/K but the fact still stand he got to hit it and quit it with a hottie.

[DarkChylde]

I'm going to say something kind of non-confrontational and new-agey (bear with me, this is very foreign to me)

It seems like you guys have different paths right now.  She wanted someone going one direction and at a certain place, and you are at a point where things are in the building stage.

And as anyone who's taken a sociology course knows,  for all the crap about chick flicks and blind romance, MEN are more likely to fall head over heels, whereas women are more likely to seek out relationships in a more pragmatic manner (money, stability, etc)

In the end (more new agey crap)  it seems like things are for the best. 

Im sure it doesnt seem that way now.

But you know what?

Better now than after several years where you get up in the morning every day and have the same fucking fights about the same three or for things that'll never change. 

This is a gift

(god, I'm on a roll, aren't I) 

But really, I feel this way.

Just from reading both your posts, it's apparent to me you guys were not a perfect fit. Think 10 years down the road.  Could you imagine still being civil, let alone happy? 

Now you're free to find someone who IS that fit.  Who will always make things work. 

Now , you're idea of waiting may be good. 

You're probably feeling raw right now, and that's usually not a good time to get involved.  Also, you should look at yourself, and ask

"Am I happy with where I am,"

or more significantly,

"where I'm heading?" 

I would not be so bold as to call myself an intellectual, but I'm no slouch.  Yet, I would NEVER  want to go for a PHD, hell I couldnt even imagine a masters right now, and that takes me out of the running for several friends

who put people without advanced degrees on par with a gutter dweller. 

Everyone has their own standard. 

Yours should just be where you want to be going.  If that's being a  struggling artist, (I also have friends in that camp) then you just need to find someone cool with that (there are tons pf people out there who are)

What most people look for, men AND women, is someone who's comfortable in their own skin, and can take care of themselves, and occassionally their partner,

And if the person demands something more than you offer, they werent right for you in the first place.

(Now I sound like someones mom, dont I??) :erm  I

It's TRUE, though.

The only snag is that you should be in a place where you're comfortable with yourself or where you're going.  If you're not,

insecurities and personal struggles will get in the way of true love. 

If that's the case the case, Id make sure things are in order in your life first. 

Just remember, you decide what your path is.

NEVER let anyone else's expectations define how to live your life.  Only you can do that for yourself.

Once you do, that person will come along, because they'll  see in you exactly what you aim to be and if it's meant to be,

they'll love you for it.     

If they don't, fuck em.

Good luck, man.  I hope you're feeling better.

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T'is very true and thats how I see it as well. But I guess at times its hard to follow your own advise and we tend to fall sometimes.

[CatsEyeOfTheWiccan]

Well, I rember how many relenships I been through..and one thing brings to mind. words to a song my dad's band did...

Your Just Hurdel

Main words to rember this song:

Your just a hurdale to me, I am got jump right over you.

Words advice also your friends be there for you that is a good thing times like this.

-CatsEye

[DarkChylde]

Well, I rember how many relenships I been through..and one thing brings to mind. words to a song my dad's band did...

Your Just Hurdel

Main words to rember this song:

Your just a hurdale to me, I am got jump right over you.

Words advice also your friends be there for you that is a good thing times like this.

-CatsEye

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Friends.......Something I can never give up.

[Moonlight_Phantasy]

Grrrrr...........

[Anathema]

Why are you making up words?

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oh my. i made a typo! heaven help me!!!! i am SURE YOU'VE NEVER EVER DONE THE SAME! jesus f'in christ already.

[bean]

Edited to avoid drama and shit starting...

[Blackmail]

oh my.  i made a typo!  heaven help me!!!!  i am SURE YOU'VE NEVER EVER DONE THE SAME!  jesus f'in christ already.

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I was just messin'

I think you are probably pretty cool and Ram....er, Darkchylde has always been cool to me so I just thought I'd make a few jokes for his benefit, good luck and take care.

p.s.

you really should keep these kind of arguments private (both of you)......but I'm glad you didn't!!!!!!

[JaneDead]

i am sorry for any heartache this has caused you darkchylde. but for obvious reasons i am laughing at this thread. oh man... too funny.

[Brenda Starrr]

i am sorry for any heartache this has caused you darkchylde. but for obvious reasons i am laughing at this thread. oh man... too funny.

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Yeah. It's been REALLY hard not to laugh, what with all this intellect.

[bean]

:laughing

[DarkChylde]

i am sorry for any heartache this has caused you darkchylde. but for obvious reasons i am laughing at this thread. oh man... too funny.

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Its all good, basicaly im over it now. But yeah looks like alot of things slipped out from her that wasnt supposed to be brought up on the board. I never meant for this kind of thing to be triggered, but oh well. She made herself the entertainment hehe....

[Goth Brooks]

He told her that he could perform auto-fellatio on himself like I can.  I told him to use the pickup line and it worked.  J/K but the fact still stand he got to hit it and quit it with a hottie.

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ah... oral masturbation... oh how i've tried