Broken up

[DarkChylde]

Almost a week ago my *who just became* my ex dumped me over the phone and then afterwards she goes screw somone else. So yeah right now im majorly heart-broken again and I keep asking myself, why oh why do I keep falling in love with somone who comes my path and knowing that its not gonna last forever and its gonna hurt me at the end. After the few previous ex's I kept saying that im through with relationships and im going ta live a single life holding no strings or whutsoever. But at the end, I always get suckered into another one, I think im just retarded enough to fall into these kind of emotional-break-down traps. I really need to start holding my grounds and not let my guard down. Im sick of being hurt all the time. Seems like im the actual only being on this planet who haves moral values and sensetivity. So now I feel I have no motivation and the only thing thats keeping me alive is my friends. I wish that I could just hide away in darkness away from everyone/thing and die peacefully. I'm the prayer of my lonliness as i forsee my future coming to the grave.

[Medea]

Honey, I don't mean to belittle your feelings in any way, but I think every single person here has felt this way at some point.

Unfortunately, no matter how much we want or think that our hearts are completely guarded, something happens that brings down the walls we've built.

But everytime this happens, you need to turn to your friends. They are the ones that give you strength, build you back up into the person they all love to be around.

[Reaper]

Know how that went Ram. Before 1996 I used to let all my gfs walk all over me. I also used to not care what they did as long as we were still together. 1996 was the last straw though. I stopped letting women control the situation and I took control. For awhile though I believe I was breaking relationships off to kind of get even wtih the past. But then I leveled off and had my fill.

Point is, that its alright to be pissed as it can happen to any of us. I believe those situations in my past drove me to this lifestyle to be honest. But I have loved it in this position since I came into it.

I am sure after some time you will be back to your enjoying self if not soon. I'll buy you a drink man if you need one. I'll be up there tonight (10/08)

[Msterbeau]

Sorry to hear that. :-(

When there's a pattern of behavior to the women you date... it's time to evaluate that, and why you fall for them. Like it or not, this will usually require changes on your part to remedy. (Although I'm thinking Reaper's approach may be a bit extreme the other way... )

[Steven]

Sorry to hear that.  :-(

When there's a pattern of behavior to the women you date...  it's time to evaluate that, and why you fall for them.  Like it or not, this will usually require changes on your part to remedy. (Although I'm thinking Reaper's approach may be a bit extreme the other way...  )

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very good advice.

you get what you get form the girls that you get it from.

time to get a different kind of girl....

Steven

[Anathema]

Almost a week ago my *who just became* my ex dumped me over the phone and then afterwards she goes screw somone else. So yeah right now im majorly heart-broken again and I keep asking myself, why oh why do I keep falling in love with somone who comes my path and knowing that its not gonna last forever and its gonna hurt me at the end. After the few previous ex's I kept saying that im through with relationships and im going ta live a single life holding no strings or whutsoever. But at the end, I always get suckered into another one, I think im just retarded enough to fall into these kind of emotional-break-down traps. I really need to start holding my grounds and not let my guard down. Im sick of being hurt all the time. Seems like im the actual only being on this planet who haves moral values and sensetivity. So now I feel I have no motivation and the only thing thats keeping me alive is my friends. I wish that I could just hide away in darkness away from everyone/thing and die peacefully. I'm the prayer of my lonliness as i forsee my future coming to the grave.

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Darkchyle my love, you are making me out to look like a bad guy which is not true. there are so many things going on that the people her eon DGN do not kno about nor understand. the obvious is to have any kind of relationship with someone which lives some ways away. sure, you say you'll see me on regular basis, 5 times a week. i've been through this, more times then you know. it starts out like that but over time we would see less and less of one another. just in that one week apart i was very depressed. i refuse to live like that. there are thing as well that are important to me that ido not feel need to be put in a public post. things concerning the fact that you do not work, you do not have a high school deploma, when it comes to intelectual stimulation we are not on the same levels. i am a serious intelect. i read alot, i am an artist, a painter, and many other things. you watch the cartoon network all night long and don't goto bed until the sun comes up. i have a child. how a man treats my child (and i am not saying that you treat him badly because you do not) but you distence yourself from him. you don't know how to react with him. age is not so much an issue with me so long as you haver your life together but you do not. i am a single mother, i need a man who can provide me with some stubility in my life, Brian has those things. HE has a place of his own and his priorities in order as well. These are all things that i am looking for in a man. This does not mean that i do not want you in my life as a friend, i think you make a wonderful one. I did not mean to break your heart Rambo, but in the beginning i told you that i would. Then there is the distance thing. I have been in long distance relationships and they do not work out. in the beginning they do but over time things fade and die away. i do not want that to happen with us. you mean to much to me. i do so adore you but for right now this is how it has to be. i know that somewhere out there there is a woman who is right for you, i promise. and with Brian he treats me like a princess. he treats Zowie as though he could be his own son.he is able to read me and give me the things that i have ben longing for for so long emotionally without me having to tell him what it is that i need.

All and all i supose the most important thing is that i do not want to lose your friendship and i hope that you can agree with that. you must also come to terms that i am with Brian. last night he asked me if i would marry him next october 7th. i told him yes. he is what i have ben searching for all of these years in a man. if you could see then perhaps you would understand a bit better. i do not want any drama between teh 3 of us and i hope that you can respect that, i do and so does he. so the ball is now in your court my love.

i came to the club last night so that i could see you and make sure that you were ok. people are worried about you, not only myself but greag, brian, denese and myself.

on a final note my dearest, please do not loet this ruin our friendship. please. i am going to give you a few weeks at the club without me going in hopes that it will give you soemt time way from me. you do know my number, so if you feel the need, please do call. i would like to hear from you. and please do not have any annamocity towards Brian. What has happened between him and i happened after you and i spilt up..

i adore you still and always will,

christine

[Reaper]

Sorry to hear that.  :-(

When there's a pattern of behavior to the women you date...  it's time to evaluate that, and why you fall for them.  Like it or not, this will usually require changes on your part to remedy. (Although I'm thinking Reaper's approach may be a bit extreme the other way...  )

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Yeah it is extreme, but in all I only realized I was doing it years after the fact. I never did it on purpose. More or less, I was making sure i had the right person so I did not have to go through any punishment later in life. When I look at it, I should have explained it this way rather than in my first post. So its really not so much of revenge, just taking care of myself first.

[Msterbeau]

Yeah it is extreme, but in all I only realized I was doing it years after the fact.  I never did it on purpose.  More or less, I was making sure i had the right person so I did not have to go through any punishment later in life.  When I look at it, I should have explained it this way rather than in my first post.  So its really not so much of revenge, just taking care of myself first.

I meant that as somewhat of a jest... :whistling :innocent

[bean]

DarkChylde, remember what I told you about this thing last night? Keep reminding yourself of those things I said, because they are true. I could say a lot more about a few other things here, but I'm not going to open a can of drama worms. I hate it when my friends get hurt, and that's all I am going to say.

[Homicidalheathen]

Maybe I am just a hopeless romantic.....but I do believe there is someone out there for everyone.

If you are too negative however you won't be open to meeting them and thus may miss out on the most beautiful moments of your life.

What is one mans trash is anothers treasure. What is right for one isn't right for all........don't give up.

[soothsayer]

There will always be someone else.

[Steven]

Still.... you might want to work on that no job, no diploma, up all night watching cartoons thing.

Dont get me wrong - I love cartoons.

But I work my ass off to grow - to be a provider - and to be a leader. I'm never done - and I come fromt he typical "broken home" thing that so many use as an excuse to stay "stuck"....

Improve your situation Bud - and feel good about you - and your luck with attracting the dream woman will vastly improve...

Steven

[Guest Game of Chance]

Still.... you might want to work on that no job, no diploma, up all night watching cartoons thing.

Dont get me wrong - I love cartoons.

But I work my ass off to grow - to be a provider - and to be a leader.  I'm never done - and I come fromt he typical "broken home" thing that so many use as an excuse to stay "stuck"....

Improve your situation Bud - and feel good about you - and your luck with attracting the dream woman will vastly improve...

Steven

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I agree...to a point. How you choose to live your life, is exactly that your choice. But it sounds like this might be an opportunity for you to figure out what you want out of life. If you do want to be a bachelor forever like you say, there is nothing wrong with the way you live your life. But if you want a deep meaningful relationship with a woman, at some point, she's going to want things. Like a home, a family. If you want to keep her, you have to get out there and be able to pay for those things.

But its your choice, dude. And nobody should make you feel like any less of a man for your choices. Good luck to you.

[Steven]

I agree...to a point.  How you choose to live your life, is exactly that your choice.  But it sounds like this might be an opportunity for you to figure out what you want out of life.  If you do want to be a bachelor forever like you say, there is nothing wrong with the way you live your life.  But if you want a deep meaningful relationship with a woman, at some point, she's going to want things.  Like a home, a family.  If you want to keep her, you have to get out there and be able to pay for those things.

But its your choice, dude.  And nobody should make you feel like any less of a man for your choices.  Good luck to you.

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He's right.

You need to feel good about where your at and what you decide to do, it is your decision.

[Dollardave]

I'm sorry Rambo you're a good guy. Don't give up though looking I never did. Took me like 10yrs to find the right girl. I been dating and sexually active since I was 14.

[Scary Guy]

Nothing good lasts forever, no matter how much you might want it to. However if you give up trying to find happiness thats even worse because it means you've already admitted defeat. You will find someone else I'm sure.

[LadyWindstone]

finding a meaningful relationhip is extremely hard in this day and time. I've been where you are too many times to count. If you want to call me. Maybe you and I will go take pics in a couple of cemetaries like we keep planning but never do.

Keep your chin up. I know I'm trying to.

[Blackmail]

First of all, this is the greatest thread ever.

However......

Darkchyle my love, you are making me out to look like a bad guy which is not true.  there are so many things going on that the people her eon DGN do not kno about nor understand.  the obvious is to have any kind of relationship with someone which lives some ways away.  sure, you say you'll see me on  regular basis, 5 times a week.  i've been through this, more times then you know.

You seem to be making an assumption about DarkChylde, er Darkchyle, based on your past experiences. How do you know he would stop coming so often?

it starts out like that but over time we would see less and less of one another.  just in that one week apart i was very depressed.  i refuse to live like that.  there are thing as well that are important to me that ido not feel need to be put in a public post.  things concerning the fact that you do not work, you do not have a high school deploma, when it comes to intelectual stimulation we are not on the same levels.

First you say you don't need to put things in a public post.....and then in the same sentence you put them in a public post. It seems like you are trying to make him look bad. Plus didn't you know these things about him right at the start? Why is it a problem now and not then?

  i am a serious intelect.  i read alot, i am an artist, a painter, and many other things.

You are obviously a serious intelect. However there is no such word as intelect.

Perhaps you meant to say you were a serious intellect? You have punctuation and spelling errors throughout your post. I probably do too, but I don't claim to be a serious intelect.

  you watch the cartoon network all night long and don't goto bed until the sun comes up.

Mix in a little Xbox and you got yourself the perfect night. You like Justice League Unlimited? It's on Cartoon network on saturdays, it rocks. Adult Swim rules too.

  i have a child.  how a man treats my child  (and i am not saying that you treat him badly because you do not) but you distence yourself from him.  you don't know how to react with him.  age is not so much an issue with me so long as you haver your life together but you do not.  i am a single mother, i need a man who can provide me with some stubility in my life, Brian has those things.  HE has a place of his own and his priorities in order as well.  These are all things that i am looking for in a man.  This does not mean that i do not want you in my life as a friend, i think you make a wonderful one.  I did not mean to break your heart Rambo, but in the beginning i told you that i would.  Then there is the distance thing.  I have been in long distance relationships and they do not work out.  last night he asked me if i would marry him next october 7th.  i told him yes.  he is what i have ben searching for all of these years in a man.  if you could see then perhaps you would understand a bit better.  i do not want any drama between teh 3 of us and i hope that you can respect that, i do and so does he.  so the ball is now in your court my love. 

i came to the club last night so that i could see you and make sure that you were ok.  people are worried about you, not only myself but greag, brian, denese and myself. 

on a final note my dearest, please do not loet this ruin our friendship.  please.  i am going to give you a few weeks at the club without me going in hopes that it will give you soemt time way from me.  you do know my number, so if you feel the need, please do call.  i would like to hear from you.  and please do not have any annamocity towards Brian. What has happened between him and i happened after you and i spilt up..

i adore you still and always will,

christine

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I am glad Brian brings stubility to your life and all, but is telling your recently estranged ex-boyfriend that you are getting married to your new boyfriend really an appropriate thing to do on a public message board?

I adore you still and always will,

Fresh Kid T

[Dollardave]

Rambo u see I did bring this up about her having a child at the club when we talked. I've raised a stepdaughter for 9yrs that isn't even mine and asked ya how u felt about this issue. A mother will always pick their child over you so if you are putting distance between you and the child it won't work out no matter how good or bad the sex is. Gotta be ready to be a daddy if you're gonna make this one work. I'm just telling you as a step-dad how things work with a pre-made family if you get involved in one. Also you gotta have a job first b4 you get into any relationship.

[Onyx]

Just wanted to say ((((hugs))))

There seem to be a lot of us around here with broken hearts.

Take care of yourself - I know there are a lot of folks here and elsewhere who care about you.

[Draco1958]

Sounds like all of us with broken hearts need to sit together as a support group. Knowing one is not alone in this kind of situation does help. Sometimes we feel that we are the only one feeling the pain, once we realize others do to and understand we then can move forward with the healing knowing that in time it will get better.

I won't post my experience since this is not my thread and I do not want to take away from Darkchylde's need to discuss his feelings. Dude, if you want to talk, message me, I'll explain my experience or catch me at CC this coming weekend.

[DarkChylde]

First of all, this is the greatest thread ever.

However......

You seem to be making an assumption about DarkChylde, er Darkchyle, based on your past experiences.  How do you know he would stop coming so often? 

First you say you don't need to put things in a public post.....and then in the same sentence you put them in a public post.  It seems like you are trying to make him look bad.  Plus didn't you know these things about him right at the start?  Why is it a problem now and not then? 

You are obviously a serious intelect.  However there is no such word as intelect. 

Perhaps you meant to say you were a serious intellect?  You have punctuation and spelling errors throughout your post.  I probably do too, but I don't claim to be a serious intelect.

Mix in a little Xbox and you got yourself the perfect night.  You like Justice League Unlimited?  It's on Cartoon network on saturdays, it rocks.  Adult Swim rules too. 

I am glad Brian brings stubility to your life and all, but is telling your recently estranged ex-boyfriend that you are getting married to your new boyfriend really an appropriate thing to do on a public message board? 

I adore you still and always will,

Fresh Kid T

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Im glad that somone atleast understands.

Anathema-First off im not trying to make anyone look bad, just only expressing how I feel, this is whut I always do fars my years of being on this board. And yes its true I dont have a diploma nor a job right now, but I already explained that to you when we first met, the only reason I dont have a job right now is because im stuck in a moving situation and getting things settled. I told you many times that it would be solved once we fully settled down somewhere. I also told you from the beginning that im not looking forward of being the "father type" and the reason I kept some distance from the kid is cuz I dont want to be mistakin for being the father. I explained all these things into your head very crystal clear before we got together and said if you feel you need to be with somone who can provide all these things, then it would be best that if we stayed just friends and save us both the trouble/stress. But nope you chose to be with me anyways so therefore its not my fault and you cant hold that against me. I dont watch adult swim everysingle night either, only usually on thursdays and sundays. But if you were gonna be so discriminative about that then why would even bother wasting your time? Ya aint gonna see me around anyways so I dont think you have to worry about anything happening. Oh and for the note I do have abilities that you'd probaly never know now. Not trying to start anything just only explaining.

[Brenda Starrr]

*Hugs to you, DC*

You're a good guy. A decent human. You are NOT an obnoxious jerk. At least, most of us here think so, and you will always have us.

[Dollardave]

Oh and for the note I do have abilities that you'd probaly never know now. Not trying to start anything just only explaining.

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I have super abilites too like the abilty to give my own self a blowjob. Thought you'd all just like to know that. Hang in there dc shit will get better. I know lady windstone likes you alot why don't u guys start talking/get frisky.

[Paper Hearts]

Dave rocks. lol