Tell me i'm not wrong

[SpidersMoment]

Last night i made a post in my journal, and a friend responded, and it got me questioning rather I AM wrong or right,....in a way.

Pack the film, cuz these photgraphs will last forever

I'm sitting here. Drinking some Jose and eating lime and grapes. Wondering just...just how hard is it to give yourself up to someone? Let someone have so much of you. How easy is it to love someone. Your stare at them, stare at their beautiful face and just want to tell them over and over just how fucking beautiful they are or at least, how beautilful they are to you. That, with all the shit all the fights you two have been through, it doesnt mean a thing. the love, the endless rainbow. the.....ownership. You own him/her and He/she Owns you. They fucking Own you. And you dont mind, in fact...you enjoy it. You want them to own.....but, dont forget, at the same time, you own them.

I dunno. I just...I just feel so happy right now. I cant wait.

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~*Will not disclose name*~

2005-10-23 01:41 pm UTC (link)  Select

Um hate to break it to you but love has nothing to do with ownership..that's for animals. If you think that's what love is, you need to re-think that a little.

Is it me? But when i'm with my bf i just, get this sence of a "warm blanket" that I OWN HIM. I can do whatever i want to him, and he will still love me. He can do whatever he wants to me, and i will still love him.

Maybe this falls under MAster and Slave relationships....no wait...i'm sure it is.

(BTW, the 'I Can't Wait" remark is refering to my trip to see him in cali in a week)

[Guest Game of Chance]

Personally, I would never want to "Own" anyone that I was in a romantic relationship with. Lincoln freed the slaves...I prefer my women to be free.

[NinaObelia]

i tend to agree with the "love has nothing to do with ownership" idea.

i have never been with anyone i felt was "mine" or that i "belong" to anyone either.

i am my own person and always will be. no matter who i am with, or who i am without. and anyone i have ever been with is just as "free" as well.

this doesn't mean i want to share with anyone

if you are with ME you are with me and only me. but that doesn't mean you are my possession.

[Brenda Starrr]

People are not possessions. You own a pet. You own a sofa. You do not own a person.

[Homicidalheathen]

Sometimes what you mention...getting to the comfortable phase of a relationship...makes one another take each other for granted. No you cannot do what ever you want to him and he will still be there......oh he might be there in person....but his spirit? It may wander if you do not treat each other like your still dating after say 10 years....

Believe me I should know........we have been together for 17 years and married for 13. I try to keep his feelings and needs in mind whatever I do. I didn't bitch all the time when we were dating and try not to now. It kills the romance. I try to do things for him still......be courteous....and kind and giving.

Last night i made a post in my journal, and a friend responded, and it got me questioning rather I AM wrong or right,....in a way.

Is it me? But when i'm with my bf i just, get this sence of a "warm blanket" that I OWN HIM. I can do whatever i want to him, and he will still love me. He can do whatever he wants to me, and i will still love him.

Maybe this falls under MAster and Slave relationships....no wait...i'm sure it is.

(BTW, the 'I Can't Wait" remark is refering to my trip to see him in cali in a week)

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[SpidersMoment]

I am kind and giving to him. I spoil him. I didnt mean "i can do whatever i want" as in, i can cheat on him, no way! I meant, I can do anything, sexually, casualy. I can make a fool of myself, i can make a fool of him in association and he wont ever change his feelings towards me. I'm a dork, a spaz, a nympho, and he loves me for it. He's the same way, and i love him for it.

I dunno, It makes sense to me.

[unchaste]

I understand what you're trying to say, but let me word it a little better and see if you agree:

I think it's not so much ownership of him as a person that you're feeling, but ownership of his love. He could have given it to anyone, but he gave it to you, so....it's yours. And you gave him your love, so he owns that. It's more like receiving a really nice present, rather than being enslaved. You're glad that you have it, and you're not about to give it up or take it for granted.

[Rayne]

I agree, people are not possessions. I own this computer, I own the house I live in, I own my car...even my dog...but people, no way. I don't own my children nor anyone else...and no one owns me.

I can love a person and be devoted to only them, I can have feelings for only them...but they are not bound to return that in any way. That doesn't mean they own me, nor that I own them. There is way more to a relationship than that.

[Scary Guy]

"people are not possessions" heh try telling that to the klan. Or even the 1950's stereotypical "proper" family where the husband beats the wife into submission.

In this world, someone owns you, unless your homeless or live in the wilderness far far from any type of civilization, and even then...

As far as love goes, yeah you own a part of eachothers heart. Think of it, who in your life would you do anything for (and I mean anything). Yeah they own you, get over it.

Personally I like the feeling of mutual ownership in the sense of "she is mine, and if any of you fuckers touch her I'll chop off your hands" type of thing. Just like in Saudi Arabia when they catch you stealing. You'd be surprised at what an amazingly low crime rate they have related to theft :D

[Shade Everdark]

People are not possessions. You own a pet. You own a sofa. You do not own a person.

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You do not own your pets. Your pets own you.

[Lilith]

I get what you are saying and with your reply's and such it is pretty plain to see you are nto reffering to OWning the person as a slave.

Unhcaste i think it was put it pretty well.

I would also think that the only opion that mattered would be your boyfriends, explain your side and what you feel to him, IF he diss agrees then maybe rethink your thought perhaps explain it with out the word Own since people seem to get hung up on the word and not the rest of the THought that surrounds the word.

[Homicidalheathen]

Oh well since you put it that way......I agree.

I know no matter what I do my man will be there for me and I for him.

We just except each other that way.

Unless of coarse he turned into a serial killer. I mean, ya gotta draw the line someplace.

I am kind and giving to him. I spoil him. I didnt mean "i can do whatever i want" as in, i can cheat on him, no way! I meant, I can do anything, sexually, casualy. I can make a fool of myself, i can make a fool of him in association and he wont ever change his feelings towards me. I'm a dork, a spaz, a nympho, and he loves me for it. He's the same way, and i love him for it.

I dunno, It makes sense to me.

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[SpidersMoment]

oh he knows. He asks me to remind him that i own him.

him: baby?

Me: Yeah?

him: Tell me again that you own me.

Me: Heh, I Own you! You are my bitch! Forever until you die *evil laugh*

Just recently we got into a big fight. I broke his trust, heh, i broke Rule #1 in the relationship handbook (never let another man/woman touch you). But he couldnt find it in himself to leave me. He kept telling me, "I still love you, i dont understand why, but i do" After that night, he was like a lost dog, scared and needing me and i was needing him.

I had to remind him that i loved him, that as much as he is mine, and i am his.

I dont know, how else i can explain my reasons as to why i feel that love and ownership go hand in hand.

You Own a Car....Do you Care for it?

You Own a Cat.....Do you Love it?

You own a house.....Do you trust it?

bah, im getting reallt sleepy, so that MIGHT not have made sense

[Brenda Starrr]

You do not own your pets.  Your pets own you.

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You are 100% correct, Shade. I should have known better. I will never have my own life....

[cptdeath]

Last night i made a post in my journal, and a friend responded, and it got me questioning rather I AM wrong or right,....in a way.

Is it me? But when i'm with my bf i just, get this sence of a "warm blanket" that I OWN HIM. I can do whatever i want to him, and he will still love me. He can do whatever he wants to me, and i will still love him.

Maybe this falls under MAster and Slave relationships....no wait...i'm sure it is.

(BTW, the 'I Can't Wait" remark is refering to my trip to see him in cali in a week)

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what is shity about this whole thing is being thrown away like a peice of garbage

after two years of total love trust dedication commitmeant. hard work to make it right. stay an honorable man. to still have the one you love more then your own life reveal that it was all a trick. to have her hook up with one of your best friends overnight simply because theirs more money in his pocket. that sucks because you can never feel alone again you allways feel that person and her new lover in your heart every minute of every day. no matter how much you want to fight against the pain you cannot defend your self ever except with drugs

[cptdeath]

you can be responsable for someone elses heart if they give it to you.

in a sense you own that heart and are responsable for it just like a potted plant or a pet .

(what good is the power of steel compared to the hand that weilds it) thulsa doom

[SpidersMoment]

That is aboslutly right.

[torn asunder]

there is nothing you can own in this life - you are only borrowing/using it in the miniscule amount of time you're allotted on this pedantic rock. appreciate what you have in your life, but never take for granted, because i guarantee, one day, it will *all* be gone...

[OtterGoth]

Damnit, Jon, log off when you're done on DGN!!! :grin

[Fierce Critter]

Love is about giving of yourself for another - not owning someone.

It involves thinking about considering how each and every action/word - let me repeat that - EACH AND EVERY ACTION/WORD - will effect not just yourself, but the one you love.

EVERY SINGLE THING.

If you find yourself not wanting to do/say something because it will adversely affect the person you're with - you are in love and you care about the person you are with.

If you find yourself considering a word/action and you know it will in some way hurt your partner or you both as a couple - you need to consider how much you love and care about this person.

On a related tangent, there is something to be said for a sense of "ownership" that exhibits itself in harmless jealousy. NOT POSSESSIVENESS. But just enough of a feeling of "wanting that which is yours to be ONLY yours" to allow for a slight twinge if you see that person moved in on by someone else. You can still have trust in that person and yet enough distrust of someone else to not like seeing yours approached.

To that extent, I can understand, maybe, what you mean.

That said, 7 years and counting... :grin