unchaste Posted November 6, 2005 Report Share Posted November 6, 2005 Do you remember the first time you & your significant other exchanged "I love you"s? Was it some magically romantic moment, or did one of you just spit it out one day? Shawn told me he loved me after we finished watching "The Abominable Dr. Phibes" and we cuddling under a blanket on his living room floor. I had no idea Vincent Price was so romantic. Share your stories! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Msterbeau Posted November 6, 2005 Report Share Posted November 6, 2005 I refuse. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rayne Posted November 6, 2005 Report Share Posted November 6, 2005 I personally haven't said that in a LONGGGGGGGG time.....YEARS I tell ya. And I don't remember when I did. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ManicQueen Posted November 6, 2005 Report Share Posted November 6, 2005 In 4 years either of us has ever said it face to face.. maybe once or twice over a text message. :tear Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
holliwood66 Posted November 6, 2005 Report Share Posted November 6, 2005 I tell S.O's everyday that I love them - unless/until I can't anymore. I am a pretty loving person with a long fuse...but once you cross the line there is no repairing things. I say it all the time to everyone I care about so it is not a big deal...it has shocked a few friends tho *lol*. My whole family is very demonstrative - lots of hugs and kisses and "love yous." Not that it means any less - but in different ways for different people o' course. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brenda Starrr Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 Wayne told me after he found out that he had cancer. My kids are an absolute given. We say it all the time. It's the most important thing that i do on an everyday basis. As far as everyone else, I tell my closest friends that I love them all the time. If I don't love you, I won't say it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gothicmom Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 Daniel told me only after about a week of intese togetherness. I was sitting on my bed talking with a friend and he stood in the doorway, behind her, and mouthed "I love you". It made me stutter. He thought that was funny! The sweetest thing is for me to hear "I love you Mommy" from my son. I tell my husband everyday that I love him. I tell my son everynight. I try to tell my daughter, but for some reason it feels strange to do so. She's 13. I'm turning into my dad and I don't like that. He tends to keep his feelings to himself. He does tell me he loves me. I can't tell my parents I love them out of the blue. If they say it fist then I can say it back. I don't like that about myself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Game of Chance Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 I say it to my clients all the time...I love you...YOU BUY NOW!!! :grin btw...Holliwood's new pic is hot, hot, hot...Zhuk is a lucky man... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Msterbeau Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 I say it to my clients all the time...I love you...YOU BUY NOW!!! :grin btw...Holliwood's new pic is hot, hot, hot...Zhuk is a lucky man... Gotta agree with the Holli thing... The swoopy hair is looking sexy... :woot: Back to the thread. Let me ammend my earlier statement. I tell my children I love them every time I see them. Further more... I make sure they know that nothing they do will ever change that. I tell my parents I love them... I occasionally tell my brothers too. There's also a few close friends who hear it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saechalyn Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 On the (extremely) rare occasions I've said it, it's always been under everyday circumstances. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pharoh Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 I haven't felt the feeling love in a few years even though I have been single only a year now. I do miss it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fierce Critter Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 I try to tell my daughter, but for some reason it feels strange to do so. She's 13. I'm turning into my dad and I don't like that. He tends to keep his feelings to himself. He does tell me he loves me. I can't tell my parents I love them out of the blue. If they say it fist then I can say it back. I don't like that about myself. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> God, it's like reading about myself there. My dad is very non-demonstrative of his feelings. You could get all Freudian about how that's impacted my own ability to express & state my own feelings. But with Jon, "I love you" comes out very easily. He and I tentatively expressed our sense that we were falling in love while still talking mainly in IM's online. And that's VERY VERY unlike either of us - pre-"each other". We both come from a background of couched emotions, yet things were "different" for us together. I can't recall our first official "I love you". The first mention of love to each other was something along the lines of, "COUGARGIRL: I can't help feeling like I'm falling in love with you. OTTERGUY: I feel the same way..." Saying "I love you" comes very easily to us, and often. There was a time early in our relationship when we had to discuss whether we said it TOO much. If he makes me laugh, often my response is a giggling, "I love you". And same with him. Hell, we'll say "I love you" if one of us breaks the silence with a fart (OMG - Critter & Otter FART??? Whod've guessed?!?!?! ). So at one point, we had the "if we say it too much, does that make it mean less" conversation, probably in the first year of our relationship. 7 years later, and I say the answer to that is, "no." Because now, I can go see my parents and tell them both "I love you," and feel it. I have said it on the phone with my sisters. In all my years, I don't think I ever told my siblings I loved them, and now, it's easy. Thanks, Jon. I love you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rayne Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 Okay, I'm going to add here.... I tell my kids everyday...I tell my parents everytime I see them, because honestly, I never know if it will be the last. My little brother, I hadn't said it to in YEARS when all the sudden he told me on his wedding day. Of course, I said it back (and meant it)...that was over two months ago. As for friends, I can think of TWO offhand (and I have a whole lotta friends) that I have ever said that too, and I do say it quite often to them. I have said it jokingly in conversation to others...but not really full fledged meant it - if that makes any sense. As far as "significant other"....not in at least 4 1/2 years. Probably even more than that............... reason number one why we're not together anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bean Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 My husband and I had been dating for about a month and he was really drunk and said "I love you." I just looked at him. A week later, he said it again, right before we were about to have sex. I laughed and said "you love me because I am about to fuck you." After that, he would say "I love you" about once a week, in various situations (leaving in the morning, at dinner, at the club etc). After we were together about 6 months, I finally felt it and told him that I loved him. After that we would say it to each other once a week or so, then it was said less and less and here we are, almost 5 years later, seperated. I have a hard time saying it to other people. It always feels forced. Don't get me wrong, I love my mother and my close friends, but my family was not affectionate growing up. It's alien to me. Hugging people is hard for me and the thought of having to do it freaks me out sometimes. Then I get this fucked up thing where if I cuddle with someone, I start to kind of have little feelings for them. Its all messed up. *shrugs* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scary Guy Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 I think it's thrown around way too much these days. It's really just a word after all, and it's the meaning and intentions that make them/you feel that way that make it count. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Morbid Side Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 People throw the L word around like a french prostitute. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brenda Starrr Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 Critter and Otter fart? What IS this world coming to? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DarkVampire Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 Excluding relatives, I've only said it to two people. I do not use the wordl lightly, I say it when I mean it. Too many people trivialize it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DisturbedMania Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 I tend to be pretty picky about saying it. Hmmmm..... now that I think about it, more rare than I originally thought. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daevion Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 People throw the L word around like a french prostitute. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> LOL :laughing ....thats funny Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lilith Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 It was shortly after Brian and i started to date..... we often fell asleep in the last hour befor i had to be home and one night i was just kinda resting my eyes and ever so queitly with a slight gasp of air, I heard ~I love you~ in the dark no other sound except his breath and mine i heard the words that sealed our fate together. I never let on like i heard him and i waited a very long time after ward befor i returned the words.......but once i did we have not stopped telling each other at least once a day I LOVE YOU! The kids here it all time, as part of routine and often when the moment strikes me as a I Lvoe you moment. every one else whom i care about heres it at assorted times..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JaneDead Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 i remember the exact date i told my husband i love him. we were at a wedding at the time. i was sitting on his lap and he said something (which i now forget) so then i leaned over and said it in his ear and he said it back. then i think we got all mushy/kissy/huggy and i heard someone in his family say that we would be the next ones to get married. and we were. i tell my kids about 1 million times a day that i love them. i will yell it out to them for no reason. i will yell out my son's name to him in the other room. then he will say what? and i will yell "I LOVE YOU!!" and he will say oh, ok i love you too. my youngest daughter grabs my leg about a hundred times a day and looks up at me and says "mommy... i love you mommy" always like that. with mommy first and last. i love it. so cute to me. every time i hang up with my mom or my sisters and often other family too we say it. when i see my family we always hug and kiss each other and tell each other "i love you" i have a very loving affectionate family. i honestly can't remember one time in my life after being around my mom and dad where we DIDN'T hug and kiss and say i love you to each other. even as a teenager in highschool. every morning hugs/kisses/i love you before i went to school. i have friends who never hug or kiss their family and never say i love you. and never have. i can't even image that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Homicidalheathen Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 I made my husband say it first. I am kinda superstitious about it and won't say it first If I want the relationship to last. I think it jinxes it for me. Although I think we felt it at the same time, I waited one week after he said it for the first time before I said it. I think sometimes it scares guys away and I wanted to be sure. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
torn asunder Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 i say it to my family, only if they say it first, and only out of courtesy/reciprocation. i haven't honestly felt love in many years, and for the longest time, i wouldn't say it at all, until i figured out that, at least for my mother, she takes it personally if i don't say it. i do it now to spare her feelings. i do care about my family, but love? i'm not really sure i even know what that is... as far as saying it to an S.O. - i haven't said it in well over four years, and i don't see myself saying it again, for at least as many years... love is a strong emotion, and i do think it trivializes it (for me) to say it too often - it just become habit/routine. when/if i say it, i want the person to know i really mean something special by it. shutting up now... :fear Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Msterbeau Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 shutting up now... :fear Speaking of trivializing. Saying that (*points up*) trivializes what you just said... your opinion and beliefs are as valid as anyone elses here. So cut it out.... :doh :whistling :fear Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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