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I told gorf I loved her the moment that I realized I did. Which was about 2 weeks after I met her and about 3 days before I asked her to marry me. Now I tell her I love her at least once a day. It's the last thing I say to her before we go to sleep. I also say it whenever ever we speak on the phone.

I thin it's more important to show my love than say "I love you" but I also.. in case of an accident or something, want the last words she hears from me to be "I love you"

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I told gorf I loved her the moment that I realized I did. Which was about 2 weeks after I met her and about 3 days before I asked her to marry me. Now I tell her I love her at least once a day. It's the last thing I say to her before we go to sleep. I also say it whenever ever we speak on the phone.

I thin it's more important to show my love than say "I love you" but I also.. in case of an accident or something, want the last words she hears from me to be "I love you"

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I concur, you took the words form me.

I don't ever think saying "I love you" is cliche.

The person you love could die tomorrow. How could that ever be cliche to have told them one last time?

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i dont even say it anymore...because half the time when people say it, they're saying it for reasons other than actually meaning it, and even if i do feel it, i find its better to just keep my mouth shut about it, although it probably doesn't help when almost all of the other people my age are mentally inferior and don't take the time to think about how they truly feel and just spout out "i love you" because they happen to be screwing or whatever...when they say that, it hurts alot more when you find out it isn't true

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i say it to my family, only if they say it first, and only out of courtesy/reciprocation. i haven't honestly felt love in many years, and for the longest time, i wouldn't say it at all, until i figured out that, at least for my mother, she takes it personally if i don't say it. i do it now to spare her feelings. i do care about my family, but love? i'm not really sure i even know what that is...

as far as saying it to an S.O. - i haven't said it in well over four years, and i don't see myself saying it again, for at least as many years... love is a strong emotion, and i do think it trivializes it (for me) to say it too often - it just become habit/routine. when/if i say it, i want the person to know i really mean something special by it.

shutting up now...  :fear

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You love me. Admit it. :wink:wink:wink

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Laura gets told that I love her every dang day of her life. Its like breathing for me. She makes me happy, makes me better, so I say it. I say pass the salt too. But its not trivial because it's used often. Just like respect is not trivial when its used often.

I just got back last night form a trip to Mexico with a bunch of my boys from California. We ate and drank and drank and drank and drank and ate and ran from the Mexican Police. When I got on my plane I said "I love you's" to three of them while huggin them tite. Two of those men - are hardcore ex gang bangers who have done time and know the other side very well. They are my bros, we've been thru hell togethor, they make me laugh, tell me when I'm full of shit, and actually listen to me on the rare occasions that I'm not. So again, its like breathing, I say it. I say pass me a Corona too. And pull my finger. And again - its not a trivial thing, just as respect is not a trivial thing.

If you cant say I love you then either you just dont (love) - or your too scared of getting jacked by love. Which means you live scared and get ripped off and thats a shame.

Steven

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Exactly.

i dont even say it anymore...because half the time when people say it, they're saying it for reasons other than actually meaning it, and even if i do feel it, i find its better to just keep my mouth shut about it, although it probably doesn't help when almost all of the other people my age are mentally inferior and don't take the time to think about how they truly feel and just spout out "i love you" because they happen to be screwing or whatever...when they say that, it hurts alot more when you find out it isn't true

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In my first serious relationship my boi at the time was the first to say it. I had a real hard time saying the words and it took me awhile to be comfortable saying it.

In my family I love you is said all the time. I say it to my parents...my parents say it to me...my brother even says it to me now that he lives on the other side of the state and is getting older. My family is very loving and we show it...either with words or hugs and kisses. I am one who tends to keep my feelings inside sometimes but with my family I love yous are a common and comfortable thing.

With my husband I love you is said daily and usually more than once. He says it alot and I like that. We are very vocal about how we feel with each other and I think thats the way it should be. :grin

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the "L" word i use only on certain people.

my mom, sisters, really close friends (i have 1 or 2 of them, somewhere), some other family members, and of course Prophet.

i've always had a hard time saying it to my sperm-doner. never really liked him after the age of reason.

my ex said it to me after only knowing me for 3 days, and it scared the hell out of me. i only said it back because it felt strange to leave that silence lingering in the air. i was lying to him, and myself; that sucked.

i tell Prophet every day how much i love him, and how he makes me happy. even though he doesn't want to believe that i could love him in the condition that he's in, i do with every fiber of my soul. it could also have to do with him being my first everything! about 8yrs. ago, being the first one outside my family to say the "L" word to me meant a lot to me. so here we are today.

i love my dog! does that count? i think it should. not in the beasteality way, in a general family memeber way. besides, who else will lick my tears away? Prophet could, but he'd just make me laugh, and i'd tell him to stop. =)

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Shawn told me he loved me after we finished watching "The Abominable Dr. Phibes" and we cuddling under a blanket on his living room floor.  I had no idea Vincent Price was so romantic.

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funny how no one commented on that. I've had many of my friends tell me i was twisted for that one lol but it works

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In my opinion, it's used way too loosely.

My friend Holly had a goal..... if she were in a relationship, she'd have to wait at least 5 or 6 months before she and her SO said it to each other.

At about 5 months, she spilled. So did he. However, I dont know how much longer that relationships lasted, seeing as though she was a senior and her BF was a Freshman or Sophomore.

As for me, I dont like saying it right off the bat. Love is to be EARNED, not expected. With Ray, he waited 1 month to say it and when he did, it felt good.

Whenever I say it, it's usually a response to when my mother kisses me goodnight and says "I love you". Hearing it from her, it sounds empty, so I give an empty "I love you too" right back. (( No trust, I tell ya!! NO trust!! ))

Anywho, whenever I really mean it, it shows. I dont prefer saying it online, because it could be faked. But, in real life, when I'm with a special someone, I get all warm and fuzzy when I think about it. And when I say it to their face, I might be holding them in my arms.

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Laura gets told that I love her every dang day of her life.  Its like breathing for me.  She makes me happy, makes me better, so I say it.  I say pass the salt too.  But its not trivial because it's used often.  Just like respect is not trivial when its used often. 

I just got back last night form a trip to Mexico with a bunch of my boys from California.  We ate and drank and drank and drank and drank and ate and ran from the Mexican Police.  When I got on my plane I said "I love you's" to three of them while huggin them tite.  Two of those men - are hardcore ex gang bangers who have done time and know the other side very well.  They are my bros, we've been thru hell togethor, they make me laugh, tell me when I'm full of shit, and actually listen to me on the rare occasions that I'm not.  So again, its like breathing, I say it.  I say pass me a Corona too.  And pull my finger.  And again - its not a trivial thing, just as respect is not a trivial thing. 

If you cant say I love you then either you just dont (love) - or your too scared of getting jacked by love.  Which means you live scared and get ripped off and thats a shame.

Steven

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i love your posts steven ;)

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