Love.com

[LadyWindstone]

Has anyone here met someone offline from another state? Did it work? How long were you together? If it didn't work, What happened? Did you move to them or did they move to you? You know the drill.

[Wounds Within]

Not so long ago and before I had another residence in LA, I had a rather interesting relation with a beautiful woman from Long Beach. She found me on a gothic website (very much like DGN) and responded to one of my many posts. We chated online for a few months and became frineds. Soon enough and few friends and myself traveled to California for business so I told her that I would like to meet her since I would be near her area. We did indeed meet and after a few days we both decided to have a romantic relationship and we would see where it goes. I soon had to head back to Rochester Hills and we really didn't see much of each other ....... well in person anyway ....... we only really saw each other a few times becasue she was afraid to fly so I always came to her. She did come to Michigan once by bus, (and that was a 5 day bus ride if I recall correctly). At the time I really couldn't afford to always be flying out to see her and I felt it was a bit unfair to me, so we agreed to call it off even though she was not so thrilled of the idea and we lost contact and now we don't speak, even though she does tend to ask of me to my friends in LA often in hope that they will tell me of her words so I go to her. In recent times I have just moved to LA (part time) in September, but I did not move for her or anything. It was just luck that I was offered a position here as I travel between Detroit and LA often.

In closing, I do think long distance relationships work, but with the right people. She just was not the right person for me I suppose. To be honest, I not think people should blow off something that could be amazing just becasue of long distances. As long as they are the right person, it shouldn't matter in the least.

- Bloodied

[TomCat]

My ex wife's trolling around a few of those sites. good luck avoiding that landmine sent straight from hell...and those just like her.

[DisturbedMania]

I had a two year long distance relationship, but I think we were just too young to handle it. That and my family is crazy, but that's a whole 'nother story. It could work if you work hard at it, but trust will always be an issue.

[Msterbeau]

I've done the online dating thing on and off for a few years. There's been a few enticing specimens of womanhood from afar... but I can't do the long distance thing. Touch and face to face contact/communication are too important to me. Finding a wierdo like me is tough on the mainstream sites is another problem...........

[Scary Guy]

www.gothicpersonals.com

Just as another option.

[honeymustard02]

I met my current boyfriend over the net 7 years ago. We've been together going on 4 yrs. I lived in MA at the time and he was here in MI. Obviously I ended up moving here.

[Homicidalheathen]

From another state. Yes and it turned out bad both times. I guess they think it would be harder for you to find out who they really are so they lie like crazy.

One hurt me physically when we got into the motel alone. Pretty bad too.

The other one lied about his age, marital status......job......college.......mental state and what he wanted. He seemed to be more into hurting people emotionally.

You really have to be careful online these days.

Both were people I chatted with for months.....talked to on the phone a bunch...webcamed with at various hours so I thought I knew them well enough.

[The Void]

I have used dating/ad type services in the past. I got a few short-lived relationships that were ok for the time.

I did meet someone from another state here on DGN about 3-4ish years ago and began dating them a year ago 11/01. hehe

It's been a year, been tough to live in states waaaay far apart, but I love him and would not have redone it or erased it no matter if it ever ends, but hopefully it will continue on.

It does take two people of tremedous commitment and mutual respect and love to make it work out though. We're trying all the time. :grin

[The Void]

I met my current boyfriend over the net 7 years ago. We've been together going on 4 yrs. I lived in MA at the time and he was here in MI. Obviously I ended up moving here.

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Wow MI seems to suck in us East Coast girls somehow. *giggle*

[holliwood66]

I had very good luck with online dating services such as match.com etc. I met some really wonderful men - and it was quite fun and interesting to meet people I never would have met otherwise.

Lots of my friends have tried the online dating thing and wonder why they keep getting responses from people who they have nothing in common with. Then, after reading their profiles it became apparent that what they had written could not be farther from the truth in description/life goals/sense of humor/etc.

Just be completely honest on your profile~

[Brenda Starrr]

I've done the online dating thing on and off for a few years.  There's been a few enticing specimens of womanhood from afar...

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Aww! I just knew I was special!!!

[Rayne]

I dated a guy once that I could only see on the weekends.

He lived just south of Toledo.

We both worked all week and lived two hours away.

...it actually worked out rather well.

Then I had a momentary lapse in judgement and decided one day to marry the guy I had been engaged to through high school who dumped me for an older girl who had money.

I'm not kidding. I woke up to my phone ringing, I answered. He asked if I wanted to get married. I agreed (to this day I still can't answer why) and we were married later that day.

I wonder what happened to that guy (the one who lived a couple hours away).......oh and I have had a hard time making decisions since then.

[pharoh]

I had this chick (maybee) contact me, and want to hook up.....she was from Nigeria it was funny as hell cause I knew of all the scams that were going on too, so I played along with it till they hit me up for money, and I laughed them off and shit. How pathetic

[Msterbeau]

Aww! I just knew I was special!!!

Yes Brenda. You are *special*. :laughing

[Msterbeau]

I had very good luck with online dating services such as match.com etc. I met some really wonderful men - and it was quite fun and interesting to meet people I never would have met otherwise.

Lots of my friends have tried the online dating thing and wonder why they keep getting responses from people who they have nothing in common with. Then, after reading their profiles it became apparent that what they had written could not be farther from the truth in description/life goals/sense of humor/etc.

Just be completely honest on your profile~

Yeah... The few who have contacted me have been very much what I'm looking for.. I wrote A LOT...

[Reaper]

Nicole is from New Zealand. Known her since 1997. But I am now coming to the conclusion that we are best off as friends. Just doesn't feel right for something that intimate.

[CatsEyeOfTheWiccan]

I had many long-distance relenship when I was younger.

One was hopefully turn great end distasor she cheated on me. I was inaged to, so you never know..its a hit and miss thing.

-CatsEye

[SpidersMoment]

I am currently in a LD relationship with the most wonderful loving man ever. In about a month we'll be celebrating our 2nd year anni.

the beginning of this month i flew over to him(he lives in Cali) and spent a week with him. It was the 2nd greatest week of my life.(the first was the week he came to see me for the first ever)

I screwed up a number of times. Cheated on him twice(he only knows about one). I feel terrible for it. Thank god he loves me and is willing to forgive me.

It is very hard to have a LD relationship, you do get very lonely, and do stupid things just to feel a loving embrace.

My god, do i miss him.