Does age matter?

[Msterbeau]

It's my own personal theory. Oh, and they have to hall all their OWN teeth.

So what you're saying is that you're over the limit?

*Runs*

[Shade Everdark]

cause why

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I'm going to take a line from my parents' book:

'Cause I said so.

[Gauge]

I'm going to take a line from my parents' book:

'Cause I said so.

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meh, whatever. . .just my opinion anyway :whistling

[Brenda Starrr]

So what you're saying is that you're over the limit?

*Runs*

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Come here, my little Tubesteak of Doom.

[Shade Everdark]

meh, whatever. . .just my opinion anyway  :whistling

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But of course!

That's why we're here.

And I use sarcasm way too much for my own good, heh heh.

[Homicidalheathen]

I met the dumbest guy last night. 40ish years old, around my age but....dumb. Gorgeeous.....tall, well built......dumb as a door knob. No amount of looks or anything else could make me want to stand and talk to him. I can carry better comversations with a 15 yr old. And I like to be able to converse with someone. At least.

[Der Nister]

I met the dumbest guy last night.  40ish years old, around my age but....dumb. Gorgeeous.....tall, well built......dumb as a door knob.  No amount of looks or anything else could make me want to stand and talk to him.  I can carry better comversations with a 15 yr old.  And I like to be able to converse with someone.  At least.

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Proving once again that good looks and brains aren't always found in the same location.

[Homicidalheathen]

No, but I still think more dumb guys have big dicks than smart guys...not like I am taking a poll or anything....but this guy is rummored to be blessed in that department......and is very handsome and popular, just....I need a ball gag.

[n0Mad]

just....I need a ball gag.

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That should be a matter of course anyway even if the partner is brilliant. It's just more fun that way.

[Draco1958]

No, but I still think more dumb guys have big dicks than smart guys...not like I am taking a poll or anything....but this guy is rummored to be blessed in that department......and is very handsome and popular, just....I need a ball gag.

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Small brain=big dick, smart brain = small dick. Hmmm then why did I lose out on both parts, it's not fair.

[FarrIL]

It's maturity more so than age, in my opinion.

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BAM!!! THANK YOU, Ginevra!!

Without reading the entire topic, I want to give out my two cents.

I'm 20 years old. From past, puppy-love relationships, I dated a guy as young as 3 years my junior. I think from then on, I always viewed it 'better' that the guy was older than the girl.

When I met a friend of mine, whom I developed a big crush on..... I found out the next day that he was 8 years my senior. And my being 18 at the time, my parents were QUITE spooked..... wary, cautious, and concerned. VERY concerned.

In relationships, I seek that the guy is more mature, and which almost always results in them being younger than guys of an age that, to my family's opinion, I SHOULD be going for (( say, 23 at the oldest? ))

The guy I'm with now, someone whom I've known for over a year...... he's almost 12 years my senior. YES, that has us both a little cautious, as his oldest daughter is only 4 years younger than me. YES, we're contemplating how we're going to present each other to our families, as well as when. YES, we've talked about many things, INCLUDING the possibility of my being treated like a child. With that, he's a little concerned that he might end up treating me unfairly, but I let him know, MONTHS ago, that if that happened, I'd let him know.

We've take the time to get to know each other, he has YET to treat me like a kid. Havent seen any warning signs that tell me such. He knows that I'm a fast learner anyway, if there ever came a time he'd need to teach me or tell me something he's known from experience (( we'll leave that open for discussion as to what topics might be included there <<; )).

So, it boils down to this.

Age really shouldnt matter at all, if the two partners can view things from each other's levels. Maturity is a key factor, hands down.

Period.

[Msterbeau]

Age really shouldnt matter at all, if the two partners can view things from each other's levels.  Maturity is a key factor, hands down.

Period.

BINGO! Not just maturity... COMPATIBLE maturity. Everything else is just societies hang-ups.

[TygerLili]

My experience on the subject...I know most here disagree, but I do think age matters. I don't see it as a big determining factor in a relationship, but it does make a difference. I think it's less of an issue the older you get, but for people in their teens and twenties, and maybe even early thirties, I think an age difference of more than five years is going to create some barriers.

I dated a guy who was 11 years older than I was, when I was 20-21. He was an ok guy and we got along and such, but there were problems. He'd make references to pop culture that would make me go "huh?" and vice versa, it would creep me out when I thought about the fact that I was five when he lost his virginity, he was thinking about wanting to settle down, get married, and have children while I was not interested in any of that, and after a while I started to wonder why he didn't want(or couldn't get) someone older and wiser. Not to mention my parents were not happy about the arrangement.

After we broke up, I decided that 11 years was too much of an age difference for me. In the beginning of a relationship, when you are all happy and infatuated, age differences(or most differences for that matter) don't seem like a big deal, but as you settle into the relationship, you realize that you're not coming from the same place. Some people are ok with that, but I'm not. From now on, I'll stick with people within 5 years of my age.

[pharoh]

As long as they're above 21 and below 40, they're fair game.

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Yes I still have a chance!

[Gauge]

He'd make references to pop culture that would make me go "huh?" and vice versa, it would creep me out when I thought about the fact that I was five when he lost his virginity, he was thinking about wanting to settle down, get married, and have children while I was not interested in any of that, and after a while I started to wonder why he didn't want(or couldn't get) someone older and wiser. Not to mention my parents were not happy about the arrangement.

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I know people my own age who make pop culture references about now popular music and i have no idea what theyre talking about, i also know of people who lost their virginity when i was only 7, they also happen to be my own age, and as for the parent thing my dad still hates everyone i date, no matter how old or younge they are. . .thats just how parents are sometimes. I guess im just wondering why anyone would want to give up a possible relationship with someone onlder/younger based on things that also happen with people your own age.

:erm :fear

[creatureofthenyte]

Well, like alot of other things in life, the fact of age and does it really matter also boils down to what a person chooses to do. If the maturity level is high enough then age doesnt matter. A person's age is Not always a direct corralation with their maturity level. Translation: it is possible that a 40 yr old man OR woman could be more or less mature then a 30 yr old man/woman. If you choose to be with someone, and they make that same choice then so be it. It's their choice to do what they're doing, not yours or mine. I do think however, in some cases it is bad to have an age discrepency in a relationship. It is pretty fuckin sick for a 43 yr old man to be messin with a 17 yr old. If you're old enough to be the person's parent, that is pretty sick in cases like that. You have to be able to relate to each other on the same or at least somewhat the same level. So if you wanna date someone who's older/younger then yourself then go for it, if thats what you want. Speaking from experience, dating women noticeably younger, 5 yrs or more, then me has always turned out bad. It all depends on the people involved and what they choose to do.

[FarrIL]

BINGO!  Not just maturity... COMPATIBLE maturity.  Everything else is just societies hang-ups.

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Oh most definitely

To be quite honest, I feel that you and I would be compatable, but that's just me being a little open.

And yeah, everything else, society just goes "OMGWTF?!" on. 20 and 31 (( in my case )) is practically a red flag. e.e

[Der Nister]

I've dated older women that turned out to be less mature than I had hoped for and some younger women that had a lot of maturity. Age isn't a factor but rather personal growth and education.

[Homicidalheathen]

MSterbeau is good for anyone yes. Smart, sexy..fun.....good at any age.

[Onyx]

If you're old enough to be the person's parent, that is pretty sick in cases like that.

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Oops.

It seems I am an evil woman.

He was 27 when I met him though. As far as I'm concerned that's plenty old enough to make your own choices.

The fact is though, he is a hell of a lot more of a man and more emotionally mature than anyone else I have ever had a relationship with. We like the same things. We don't argue or fight. We travel together well. I adore him.

It seems it's okay with most people for a man to be with a younger woman, but when a woman does it, eyebrows are raised (usually behind my back I find, but still). It makes me wonder if that kind of pressure from other people is why he seemed unsure about me. Aside from all that, he is also a valued friend and no matter what happens with us I will always feel very close to him. I'm still trying to win his heart. Can't help myself.

[JaneDead]

i agree that it is more about maturity rather than age.

but if i were single, i still could not date a guy much older than me.

i really feel it has to do with my parents being so young and dating someone in their 40's would be like dating my dad.

i don't think "over 40" is old or anything. i really think it would be too much like a parent thing for me.

especially if they were ever to throw the "I was doing that when YOU were in diapers" thing

i have heard older people say that to their younger partners/spouses and it kinda creeps me out to hear that.

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i also, if i were single, could not date someone younger than me. not by much anyways. i used to when i was younger but now it seems any guys i KNOW who are in their 20's are just not where i would need them to be in life. i am sure that has a lot to do with the fact that i have 3 kids though and i think about it that way.

either way it is really hard for me to think about younger or older people and dating them. i have been married 7 years and he is 2 1/2 years older than me and that is all i can think about being with him that is

[Reaper]

Oops.

It seems I am an evil woman. 

He was 27 when I met him though.  As far as I'm concerned that's plenty old enough to make your own choices.

The fact is though, he is a hell of a lot more of a man and more emotionally mature than anyone else I have ever had a relationship with.  We like the same things.  We don't argue or fight.  We travel together well.  I adore him. 

It seems it's okay with most people for a man to be with a younger woman, but when a woman does it, eyebrows are raised (usually behind my back I find, but still).  It makes me wonder if that kind of pressure from other people is why he seemed unsure about me.  Aside from all that, he is also a valued friend and no matter what happens with us I will always feel very close to him.  I'm still trying to win his heart.    Can't help myself.

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Actually it seems like these days, its more wrong for an older guy to be with a younger woman esp if they near that 20 mark. Often they seem to be perceived as pervs or dipping into that sex offender category or just plain creepy older men. Its becoming more apparent though that women are being subjected to the same treatment, i.e. these female teaachers having relationships and kids with 15 y/o kids.

I think there are certain lines you can't cross without being seen as a pervert.

[Msterbeau]

To be quite honest, I feel that you and I would be compatable, but that's just me being a little open. 

:blushing

[Reaper]

:blushing

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you pimp! Time to make your move lol

[LuluVox]

I know people my own age who make pop culture references about now popular music and i have no idea what theyre talking about, i also know of people who lost their virginity when i was only 7, they also happen to be my own age, and as for the parent thing my dad still hates everyone i date, no matter how old or younge they are. . .thats just how parents are sometimes. I guess im just wondering why anyone would want to give up a possible relationship with someone onlder/younger based on things that also  happen with people your own age.

:erm  :fear

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You know people who lost their virginity at 7?