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I'm wondering how I ended up here. It seems everyone close by me has dropped out of my life all at once. I've always tried to be there for those around me but when I was the one who needed a friend, they all disappeared. The man I loved has decided I'm too much trouble and has moved on with his life. What's left of my family is too far away to visit me, and I wasn't invited to visit them--it's my ex's turn with my girls so they are gone--none of my so-called "friends" here thought to include me today. I'd probably have turned down the invites because I'm not off work till 5:30, but it's nice to be forgotten completely, eh?

Maybe I've done this to myself somehow, but damn. I don't know what or how it happened. I've spent plenty of holidays alone, but this one is really getting to me for some reason.

OK, I'll stop whining now.

Gothic paradise radio is a small comfort. They are playing lots of melancholy stuff today and somehow it feels good to hear.

Back to work. I volunteered for holiday coverage today but somehow it's not getting my mind off things.

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Poor Onyx mt dear head pounding pal! You need :sleeping and quiet again eh? Oddly enuff I got one yesterday also and I was alone after I went to see my immediate family.

Came home with my k-9 son Nikol and we just hung out being tired and packed with indigestion together while I drank tea and finished 1 of my BBC dvd's from Netflix.

:cat: Some times cuddling up alone makes you reflect on how much WORSE it could be if you let it get that way. You're a positive soul and you know how to make things feel brighter sweetie. Turn on your Awesome intuition and you'll see. Plus you're so loved by all of us geeks how could you ever say you're alone? :tongue:

:grouphug Whatever you've gone thru that I missed...I hope it's more calm now.

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That sucks, I'm sorry. I hope things get better for you.

remember, friends help you move but real friends help you move bodies. I worked in a cemetary for 8 years. so if you ever need any bodies moved I'll be your friend.

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Hey is that invitation open to all DGn family members? :devil

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Got an idea folks. And Onyx - I'm sorry you were alone.... had I known you'd have been welcome at my house.

here's the idea:

the NO GOTH LEFT HOME ALONE project.

Here's how it works.

There are good people out there like Onyx - who had/have no place to go for the Holiday (and Xmas is coming too folks...).

We've proabbly all been there (i have - it sucks).

But - I have a dinner table.

And a couple of extra chairs.

So do some of you.

Some of you dont - and that's ok too but you can refer back to some of us who do.

As a group - let's not let anyone be alone for the Holiday.

Those of you who fear you may end up being alone this Xmas (and we can keep this going holdiay to holiday yer to year) please let us know.

I for one volunteer to help. I live in Garden City. You would be welcome in my home.

If a handful of us open our doors, then nobody should be left alone, and we all get a chance to get to know each other a littel bit more too, as i've never yet had the pleasure of meeting any of you face to face.

Onyx - if Xmas does not look promising this year - you have an open invitation to come to my house and hang with Laura and I. Laura is totally down to earth and super cool and I am an over opinionated and chubby yet terribly handsome Mo Fo. Plus, we'll have pie with dinner.

Is there anybody else who would like to jump in either in need of a place or providing a place to go???

Steven

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Got an idea folks.  And Onyx - I'm sorry you were alone.... had I known you'd have been welcome at my house.

here's the idea:

the NO GOTH LEFT HOME ALONE project.

Here's how it works.

There are good people out there like Onyx - who had/have no place to go for the Holiday (and Xmas is coming too folks...).

We've proabbly all been there (i have - it sucks).

But - I have a dinner table. 

And a couple of extra chairs.

So do some of you.

Some of you dont - and that's ok too but you can refer back to some of us who do.

As a group - let's not let anyone be alone for the Holiday.

Those of you who fear you may end up being alone this Xmas (and we can keep this going holdiay to holiday yer to year) please let us know.

I for one volunteer to help.  I live in Garden City.  You would be welcome in my home.

If a handful of us open our doors, then nobody should be left alone, and we all get a chance to get to know each other a littel bit more too, as i've never yet had the pleasure of meeting any of you face to face.

Onyx - if Xmas does not look promising this year - you have an open invitation to come to my house and hang with Laura and I.  Laura is totally down to earth and super cool and I am an over opinionated and chubby yet terribly handsome Mo Fo.  Plus, we'll have pie with dinner.

Is there anybody else who would like to jump in either in need of a place or providing a place to go???

Steven

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That is a really cool idea. There were several of us who ended up alone this year. I admit there are a lot of times when I *want* to be alone, but yesterday wasn't one of them. It really made me face the fact that the people I really thought were friends over here didn't even bother to think of me.

I wish lived closer to you all and I'd have some of you over. I love to cook for a crowd - it would be so fun! We could have a Nightmare Before Christmas party, hehe. If I could manage it I'd buy a small getaway place over there just to get away from this piece of crap town on weekends. I possibly might do that in the future.

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That sucks, I'm sorry. I hope things get better for you.

remember, friends help you move but real friends help you move bodies. I worked in a cemetary for 8 years. so if you ever need any bodies moved I'll be your friend.

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Thanks :) Now that *is* truly a friend. :grin

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Wow. I felt really sorry for Onxy upon reading her post.

And then when I read posts from people like Steven, Dark, and Onyx's own about cooking for others, and it made me feel really good.

I think Steven's idea is a great one. I wish this sort of thing had been brought up before the holiday. Onyx for sure wouldn't have ended up alone.

I used to think the Goth crowd was pretty misanthropic and antisocial. Upon returning to Michigan and finally meeting so many DGNers in person, however, I'm finding quite the opposite.

I initially based my view of the crowd on how difficult it seemed to be to get people together for DGN-suggested gatherings. But I'm seeing now that was not a good barometer at all.

The first year of Jon and my exile in NC, we were very, very unhappy around holiday time. Then, one of Jon's co-workers invited us to his house for Thanksgiving dinner. I wished we'd taken him up on the offer. But even just having the offer there made things so much better for us.

I'm very sorry things ended up that way for you, Onyx. But it looks like Christmas won't be a repeat if DGN'ers have anything to say about it. :D

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Steven's idea is an excellent one. If I were in Michigan, I'd do it as well. Shit, if any of you are near B-more for Christmas (I know. Not very likely), you could come to my place. I'm debating on an open house this year. We're not doing anything on Christmas Day, so maybe this would be fun.

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I think it's a great idea. Too bad I live in Grand Rapids... If anyone is alone and wants to hook up for the holidays in GR, I'm all for it. Just let me know ahead of time! We can always work something out.

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