I Am Invisible, Part II

[n0Mad]

I was chatting with Bean Water tonight (at least I'm pretty sure it was her I discussed this with, if not, then Medea or Fierce Critter) about how one of my philosophies is that everything you do creates ripples that affect those around you. It may not be directly, but for every action there is a reaction, for every cause, an effect. So, before I do anything, I think, "How with this affect others?" and then decide if I want to go through with the action or not.

At first, this takes time and thinking and you really can't make any split decisions while being concerned for others. But over time you tend to notice patterns and develop a mental library of possible outcomes and your mind is able to predict the rest. That way you can make sudden decisions and still feel okay about it because subconciously you've already considered all the ripples.

In this vein, my biggest pet peeve is loitering in doorways. People are coming, people are going, so why the fuck are you standing in everyone's way? So you can chat with your friends and be the center of your own little world? Take a moment to think about how you affect your surroundings, take two steps to your left, and stand against that wall where you're out of everyone's way. You can still talk to your friends and now people can use the doorway. Brilliant!

So, now that you've heard the background info, I'll get to the point of this post - how I'm invisible.

Towards the end of the night at CC tonight I was standing against a pillar watching all the people go to and from the dancefloor. I was unobtrusive, out of the way, and pulling all my energy in idling in observation mode instead of projecting it outwards into the I need attention mode.

~Friends would wander by, stare right at me, and not even see me until I called out their name. Then they had to look around to figure out where it was coming from.

~A fight almost broke out right in front of me. Somebody stumbled back and stepped on my toes, not even knowing I was there before hand, and not even knowing (or caring) I was there afterwards. They were lost in their own little world.

~In the above almost fight, an elbow flew inches by my face and nobody noticed. I subtly dodged out of the way and continued to stand there observing. Bouncers broke it up, seperated the group, and talked to everybody but me. I just blended in with the wall and shadows.

~Two people walking in opposite directions stopped to talk right in front of me. Their faces were about seven inches right in front of mine and they chatted away for several minutes not even knowing (or caring) that the wall decoration was a live human.

~One person said, "She's over there" and pointed off into the distance. His hand nearly smacked me in the face but stopped about an inch and a half away. He went back to his conversation not even paying attention to the fact that I existed and he almost gave me an unwanted septum piercing with his overgrown fingernail.

A few people did notice me as they walked by and nodded hello. A couple appologized when they stepped on my toe, or backed into me, or suddenly noticed I was there. But for the most part, I was invisible. I continued to adorn the pillar, unobtrussive on energy saver mode and just watched human nature as it interacted with each other right in front of me like a hunter in a duck blind. I found my study amusing, interesting, and educational.

I am Spook. I am invisible.

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What are your opinions?

Is this ripple idea a good philosophy? A bad philosophy? Or just a philosophy? Why?

Is energy save mode a good thing? Should people be more internal with their energy? Is it a bad thing? Should people expell their energy outwards instead?

How does that fit into the ripple philosophy?

How many of you are people watchers? What have you learned? Are you invisible when this occures?

How many of you are invisible? Do you try to be, or does it just happen as it does with me? How does this make you feel? Do you want to change it, or do you like it that way?

Anything else?

[soothsayer]

I can relate to what you said. I also believe in the ripple effect and know that even the smallest choices can impact not only one's self but others in ways people may not consider. People that live in their own little world not thinking of anyone but themself is my biggest pet peeve. I would say that if more people thought things through before just doing what serves their needs at the moment this world would be a far better place. You're not alone in your views.

[Homicidalheathen]

I am invisible. Most people go: 'How can an attractive woman who is going out solo get ignored or even stepped on...pushed around......ect......'

I have no idea but this has always been my plight.

My guess is people are just generally selfish these days....they figure if they don't already know you why bother. Or that if they cannot get something from you it isn't worth their trouble.

I am small and unassuming so I figure that is part of it.

Usually I don't project.......look at me vibes as it seems to bring me trouble. I am a magnet for strange.

If you don't notice me then fuck you ha.

Usually I go out of my way to be cordial but people are still rude. I don't think it is derserved charma, thus.

Really think society is headed in a bad place. When that black out happened I had some bad experiences. What happened to love thy neighbor and lets all pull together?

I want to buy some land way out in the middle of no where because when this society comes crashing down it will be every man for himself and I don't want to be around when it happens.

[Rayne]

Again, you were not invisible. I even had my hand in your pants! :grin

....seriously though, most of the above has also happened to me. Welcome to the realm of drunken freaks. Where it's not so much that your invisible but people just really don't pay attention. Especially when they are drunk.

[bean]

It was me you were talking to about this, and I'm glad you decided to share it with everyone It's a good philosophy because it makes sense lol.

I really enjoy people watching, though I always get caught - someone always sees me looking at them. Its interesting to watch body language and how people interact with each other. In general, you will get more truth from a person's body language than from the words that come out of their mouth - you just have to pay attention.

Invisibility likes to work against me most of the time. When I want to be invisible I am noticed. When I want to be noticed, I am invisible. The fact that I can even be invisible cracks me up, because, well, I'm am faaaar from being small - there's a whole lotta me to ignore lol. Which leads me to the conclusion that invisibility has to do with your energy, not your physical being.

I think energy save mode is good. A lot of people just let their energy flow and so there is all this excess energy around...you will hit areas that have so much negative energy that it is a shock to your system. It does fit into the ripple theory...you are imposing your energy on others.

[n0Mad]

Its interesting to watch body language and how people interact with each other.  In general, you will get more truth from a person's body language than from the words that come out of their mouth - you just have to pay attention.

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When interpreting communication you get 55% of your information from facial expression, gesture, and body posture; 38% of your informations comes from tone of voice; and only 7% comes from the actual words themselves.

I really should be teaching Communication at a community college (hell, I know enough) but I don't have a Master's Degree so they won't let me. Anyone want to pay for me to go to Wayne State?