I'm lost

[honeymustard02]

I don't know what to do.

My boyfriends mom just admitted that her and her husband are meth addicts. Our house has turned upside down.

I don't know what to do. My family is like a 1000 miles away. I don't want to leave my job or my boyfriend. I'm lost and I'm scared.

[Onyx]

Oh dear. Are you and your boyfriend living with them?

If so, sounds like you need to both work as much as possible to get your own place.

Does she want help?

[honeymustard02]

Yes we live with them. Along with their 10 yr old daughter and 86 yr old grandfather.

She claims she wants help. But she does whatever she can to look the victim but she never does anything to fix it. She doesn't want to admit that she's close to losing everything. She doesn't care about anyone but herself.

[Brenda Starrr]

That's typical of most drug addicts that I've known in the past. I'm sorry that you're going through this. I wish that I knew what to do or suggest other than to get out, and fast.

[honeymustard02]

If we could get out we would. We have nothing. Everything we try to save up ends up getting spent on keeping ourselves afloat. We have like $100 in the bank. We don't get paid till Thurs.

We have no where to go. We have a dog and ferrets to go with us. I can go back to my parents but I don't want to leave Tj with this. He's been throuhg enough in his life and he doesn't need to deal with this on his own either.

[Homicidalheathen]

Yah, as a former meth addict you need to get out fast.

It causes mental disorders to the max, these people can be very unpredictable. Maybe if they admit it they are ready to seek help?

At least in the form of a free support group?

I know of many.

[Brenda Starrr]

If we could get out we would. We have nothing. Everything we try to save up ends up getting spent on keeping ourselves afloat. We have like $100 in the bank. We don't get paid till Thurs.

We have no where to go. We have a dog and ferrets to go with us. I can go back to my parents but I don't want to leave Tj with this. He's been throuhg enough in his life and he doesn't need to deal with this on his own either.

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Will he go with you?

[honeymustard02]

His mom is going to talk to someone today. He's going with her to make sure she tells the whole story and not just what she feels like sharing.

[honeymustard02]

He would, but he doesn't want to leave his little sister. i don't either.

Will he go with you?

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[Brenda Starrr]

I don't blame him one bit for that. And she's not of legal age to choose where she can live (I'm not sure of this, but that's how it is in MD).

[Onyx]

I don't blame him either, but as their addiction progresses they may not have a choice - she may get taken away.

If you two could possibly work toward getting your own place somehow maybe then she could have a place to go when the time comes. I know that's really easy for me to say, but sometimes things that seem impossible can become possible with enough hard work and a little luck.

Of course taking care of a 10 year old is not something to be taken lightly, but if things go the way they usually do with drug addiction, you'll end up taking care of her anyway if you stay there.

(((hugs)))

[honeymustard02]

Sorry I just like up and left today but I just had to lay down and bury myself under my pillows.

Well his mom has contacted some people and she has a lawyer set for a divorce and she is meeting with a substance abuse person to set her up in a program. It's all in the works and we don't have a lot of answers, but it's moving.

I'm a little better now but still scared shitless. We don't really have time for anything. I mean we literally should start packing right now and getting ready to move.

[DisturbedMania]

If all else fails set up some couch-hopping. The last thing you want to have to do is sleep in your car to get away, especially in this weather. I'd talk to close friends about back-up couches for bad nights.

[Homicidalheathen]

Church of Today in Warren on 11 Ml and Hoover has some excellent support groups. I slipped up 3 times this year for the first time in 16 or 17 years and just talking with one of my freinds from there got me back on the right path.

They have nar anon. (Narcotics Annonymous) meetings and everyone is so everyday normal it makes you feel ok talking about everything. And your safe, they won't call the cops on you if you slip.