Spousal abuse...

[The_Dark]

So...

Tuesday night my wife and kids were taking grandma back to the airport. I hate going home to an empty house. To get rid of my boredom I stopped by a friends house. I wasn't prepared for what I found. As I walked up to the door I heard a loud crash of glass and screaming/crying. I'm not really sure what happened after that. My next memory is of driving home.

I ran into the wife this morning on my way to work. She told me about the fight her and her husband got into the other night. Apparently they have a hard time rembering that night too as they were drinking and he has a concussion. According to her, she finally stood up to him. She doesn;t remember doing it, but as she put it "I fought back and beat him down." I just smiled and let her keep her new found inner strength.

I'm going to be avoiding them for a while. Hopefully he wont ever remember what really happened.. and I'm not convinced that she doesn't.

Just needed to tell someone... prolly going to delelte this in a while.

[Msterbeau]

Next to child abuse.. it's the one thing that will always make my head look like your avatars's Mark. Why must people turn to violence to solve problems or deal with things? Grrrrrrrrr....

[saechalyn]

Ugh, that's horrible. I understand the need to tell someone when you see stuff like that.

[Brenda Starrr]

Wow, Mark. That must be really hard for you to deal with.

[pharoh]

Next to child abuse.. it's the one thing that will always make my head look like your avatars's Mark.  Why must people turn to violence to solve problems or deal with things?   Grrrrrrrrr....

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Exactly, now everyone needs to get along before I beat the fuck out of them :fear

But no in all seriousness, my ex used to hit me and I let her cause I don't believe in hitting women, even though obviously she wasn't one, but still she had the equipment......It's quite disgusting on how ppl can't resolve thier issues by anything else

[Onyx]

People who fight like that should just separate, period, especially when alcohol is a factor. Sad, but I think most of them get used to living like that and are afraid of any change.

[Marblez]

Maybe he really had it coming...?

Ok thats wrong, I know.

Or it could have just been REALLLY good makeup sex a bit too close to the headboard

[The_Dark]

Um.. well...

I don't think I hinted hard enough... If they ever remember what really happened after I got there....

[Hellion]

:devil And it's always about money and someone is usually drinking, it's all to common in america. That is why my parents are divorced: Money,drug use and misuse of alcohol. Hopefully your friend gets things straighted.

[Homicidalheathen]

My parents stopped abusing each other when they stopped drinking and stayed together. It made a HUGE difference, they are kinda nice now. I used to hate them.

[Saephyr]

Now ya know why I'm divorced 2 x's....ok that WAS JOKE PEOPLE

[Msterbeau]

Um.. well...

I don't think I hinted hard enough...  If they ever remember what really happened after I got there....

Oh :blink

I'm thinking you might have called the police after... um... "listening" to their quarrel. Stopping her from getting hurt is one thing... I respect your decision to intervene. If you went further then that.. you may be in jepardy of going to jail. Probably not worth the satisfaction.

[Lilith]

So...

Tuesday night my wife and kids were taking grandma back to the airport. I hate going home to an empty house. To get rid of my boredom I stopped by a friends house. I wasn't prepared for what I found. As I walked up to the door I heard a loud crash of glass and screaming/crying. I'm not really sure what happened after that. My next memory is of driving home.

I ran into the wife this morning on my way to work. She told me about the fight her and her husband got into the other night. Apparently they have a hard time rembering that night too as they were drinking and he has a concussion.  According to her, she finally stood up to him. She doesn;t remember doing it, but as she put it "I fought back and beat him down." I just smiled and let her keep her new found inner strength.

I'm going to be avoiding them for a while. Hopefully he wont ever remember what really happened.. and I'm not convinced that she doesn't.

Just needed to tell someone... prolly going to delelte this in a while.

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

i might suggest, depending on how close of friends they are, that you keep your distance but dont go to far away. When in siutations like this Friends are very imporatnt to the abused. Often friends can help an abuser see where they are wrong and need help when family and the sbused and countless others can not, be honest with the abuser as to your thought and feeling if the subject is brought up to you. Not all abusers know it is wrong.......

[Fierce Critter]

Kudos, Dark. Jon would be proud.

In the first two years I was with Jon, he interevened on several instances of men publicly bullying or hitting women in public.

On one occasion, a guy was slamming a girl's head on the tailgate of a truck parked in front of a house 2- doors from us. Jon put on a jacket, went out with a baseball bat and told the MUCH bigger guy to leave her alone. Sent her running to the house where I called the police. Before the police could get there, though, the guy managed to back Jon up until Jon ended up falling. He got up and as the guy rushed him again, he let loose with a mighty swing and hit a homer. The guy ended up taking off, and Jon ended up with a hole in the elbow of his vintage motorcycle cop jacket & a wounded hand for his trouble.

The cops came to check out the situation, and we told them the truth. They warned Jon that he could have been arrested for assult, but only confiscated the bat and walked away with a smile on their faces.

Luckily, the girl pressed charges and we didn't even have to make a statement (would have, gladly). The guy had a history, so we think he did some time.

Jon won't sit idly by and let that crap happen. He intervenes, and I call the cops so he won't get his own ass beat. He keeps picking these guys who are freaking Lou Ferrigno monsters. And I can't believe such big guys feel a need to beat up women. Fucking pussy assholes.