here we go again.

[Rivers the Cleric]

Nothing personal but not pressing charge IMHO is a mistake.  Think about it this way, waht IF she had overdone the drugging of your food?  You'd be dead.  And what about the next person, they could end up dead.  Something needs to be done, nothing personal  but you need to look at a bigger person.  Those what if? can add up and someone could end up dead.

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i did tell her that if i ever fondout she was doing it again, i would call the cops, child protective services, and any other government orginization i could think of... listen, by the end of that relationship, i felt like the boys father. i couldn't do anything to that child that might hurt him.. and as much as growing up with that woman may be worse, i just couldn't. i have a very warped perspective of how much children need to be protected, which is why she decided she liked me... i will kill anyone who tries to hurt a child, if i see it.

After re-reading the thread again, I have to agree with Draco.  Spiking someone's food with morphine is a very serious offense.  You say she has a small child that she's caring for?  Doesn't sound like it to me, truth be told.  Where's the child's father?  Can he be counted on for anything? If he's around and worth anything, I don't think he'd much appreciate the situation that she's potentially putting the child in.  What if the child gets ahold of the morphine container?

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the father is living in a tent in the woods, where he has been for about the past 2 years. he's an abusive, alcoholic, who i've knocked off of his ass more than once for seeing or hearing some of the things he's said or done to her and his son. you may not understand how serious that is, but getting me to hurt someone, anyone, takes a major offence. i have and will allow groups of people to beat me, rather than raise my hand against them.

but i guess you would have to know me to understand my motives, and any explaination just comes off as over-inflated hero complex.

all i can say is this.

she was horrid to me.

she treats her son like he's the only thing on earth that matters... like parents should.

she did what she did for 2 reasons. so i wouldn't be able to run out of her child's life, and because she doesn't know how to care about people other than her family, so it's easier just to have a robot around.

and still remember, this is the part of the relationship that bothered me the least. so... that should be a good clue.

[AstralCrux]

Wonder why people like to hurt good people?

[LuluVox]

Because it's easy?

[Homicidalheathen]

What if said child accidently eats mentioned tainted food and dies you know? They do sneak nibbles and have tiny little hearts.

[Saephyr]

man, make them get a psych eval done first

[Rivers the Cleric]

What if said child accidently eats mentioned tainted food and dies you know?  They do sneak nibbles and have tiny little hearts.

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because she would only cook food for me after he went to bed, and i did the dishes and took out the trash every night. there wasn't any left for him to get, and she carried them on her at all time.

she's not stupid, she's just sneaky, manipulitive, and CRAZY.

[Guest Megalicious]

Because it's easy?

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Not always .....

[Onyx]

because she would only cook food for me after he went to bed, and i did the dishes and took out the trash every night. there wasn't any left for him to get, and she carried them on her at all time.

she's not stupid, she's just sneaky, manipulitive, and CRAZY.

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If everything you have said is true, you need to wake up and be a responsible human being here.

If you don't press charges for yourself you should at least report this person to child protective services NOW. Someone who would drug someone else with morphine and possibly kill them is responsible for caring for a child?

Do you comprehend this was attempted MURDER? Morphine must be carefully dosed and monitored or it is fatal.

If you care about this child at all you will report that this person has access to a lethal drug which NOBODY has any business having unless they are dying from cancer or in extreme pain and under continuous monitoring by a physician - call and report and give them the address. You can do it anonymously if I'm not mistaken.

[Rivers the Cleric]

If everything you have said is true, you need to wake up and be a responsible human being here.

If you don't press charges for yourself you should at least report this person to child protective services NOW.  Someone who would drug someone else with morphine and possibly kill them is responsible for caring for a child?

Do you comprehend this was attempted MURDER?  Morphine must be carefully dosed and monitored or it is fatal.

If you care about this child at all you will report that this person has access to a lethal drug which NOBODY has any business having unless they are dying from cancer or in extreme pain and under continuous monitoring by a physician - call and report and give them the address.  You can do it anonymously if I'm not mistaken.

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ok, responsible? ok, then lets go with this.

there's no way i can press charges for myself, because i have no proof other than things i saw, what she told me, and word of mouth... can i press charges with that?

then lets view something else.. you said right there that this was attempted murder. well if she's willing to do that for a babysitter, what would she do if someone called the cops on her? this isn't a rational person, at all.

her brother though still my friend has even less moral hang ups than she does. he relys on her for a place to live, rides to work, and she's the only person he's emootionally attached to besides her son. so if i get the kid taken away, her put in jail, and him out on his ass, i KNOE he'll kill me.

lets also look at the fact that maybe, just mabe, asides from the almost completely likely death of ME that would might happen if i did this, there's also the question of "would it be any better for him somewhere else?" i hate to tell you, but in Maryland there was a case about 2 months ago where people were arrested for keeping the foster children they had, from ages 3 to 14 in DOG KENNELS.

also, i am more than willing to admit that there is still a lingering fear of her. i've told her if she ever pulls any of this shit with anyone again, i'll call the cops and anyone else i can think of reguardless of who might do what to me. but ya know, i've got scars all over my face and head from things that bothered her A LITTLE! maybe i've just got a few too many bad memories to stand up for everything i should, but as much as i love that kid MY life takes precident.

yeah, i know it's ALL fucked up, and i know I'M fucked up. but there is no graceful way to do anything here. there's hope, though. though her son's father is homeless and lives in the woods, he shares custody with her. 3 days a week he gets sent off to the grandmothers house, and the father sees him there. she's decided she wants full custody of him, to do that CPS is going to have to go through her house with a fine toothed comb. they're being insanly attentive about everything now, because of the story i mentioned above.

if they step one foot in that house, they're going to take him away. it's falling down, a mess, and there are roaches everwhere... not to mention the fact that the smell of weed permiates the house. the only clean room in that house is her sons, and that's not enough.

she'll get what's coming to her, but i'm sorry my life has a bit of value to me, and i'm not about to endanger it anymore than i do just by walking outsides in the morning.

also, i think i'm done. yes, this is all a messed up situation. but ya know what? i didn't come here to get treated like a child. maybe i'm not espressing everything down to the last detail, but i have my own damn good reasons not to do something. part of them may be overly emotional, but some of them are based on the simple fact that i like to keep my ass alive.

[Ginevra]

i didn't come here to get treated like a child. maybe i'm not espressing everything down to the last detail, but i have my own damn good reasons not to do something.  part of them may be overly emotional, but some of them are based on the simple fact that i like to keep my ass alive.

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No one is accusing you of being a child. I don't see that anyone is treating you as such. It's an expression of concern that we say what we say. You say this lady poisoned you with morphine. That's a concern. She has a small child in the house while she's doing this. That's a concern. The house is ridden with cockroaches and is unfit for *anyone* to live in. That's a concern. It is from our wishes of well-being for situations that we can't help . . . well, that's why we speak out.

When you come to a public forum and post your life's details, the situation as you present it will be judged by each individual. I know you probably feel that that is not fair nor just but it is the way of the 'Net. And without knowing you in person, all we have to go on is the words you post.

So please don't get upset when we say "You should press charges". It's out of concern that we say such things.

[Rivers the Cleric]

i know, and i'm sorry. i overreacted quite a bit.

i know i should have done something, but... i'm not the sort of person who will change what's around me so i can shit comfortably.

and i do uinderstand, and think you for any concern towards me, it's not something i'm too used to.

what i was trying to get across is that i've done what for me is the best and safest course of action. there's not much else i can do, right now. if the option arises where i can find a way to have these problems taken care of with as little involvement on my part as i can manage, i'll do it. but if i turn her in for the morphine, she'll know it's me, because i'm the only one who knows about it besides her.

as for the level of filth in the house, that half her fault, half that she lives in the slums. everyone can see what's wrong there, so if i do anything it's going to be related to that, and only so CPS takes her son. but as i said, there's no sure bet that it'll be a better place then where he is now.

it's a moral, emotional, and survival instinct toss up.