Just wanted to know

[Hellion]

:devil You don't have to reply if you don't want to.I am not going to say much but my old man is an asshole,nough said.

[kellygrrrrrl]

My father is an alcoholic. My mother was an alcoholic. It ruined both of thier lives. And not to mention, has tainted my brothers..and me...but I seem to have more grasp on things than they do....I always had to stay strong for them, I'm the big sis/mom.

Alcohol took us away from our Mother, and almost took us away from our father....until I lied for the sake of preventing my brothers and I going into foster care, or becoming an award of the state.

[Rayne]

Yes. My father has been in rehab 4 times and is currently living with Chirrosis of the Liver due to his Alcoholism.

[Hellion]

My father is an alcoholic.  My mother was an alcoholic.  It ruined both of thier lives.  And not to mention, has tainted my brothers..and me...but I seem to have more grasp on things than they do....I always had to stay strong for them, I'm the big sis/mom.

Alcohol took us away from our Mother, and almost took us away from our father....until I lied for the sake of preventing my brothers and I going into foster care, or becoming an award of the state.

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The sad part is, is that it leaves a lasting effect on you forever.My old man was a liar,shit talker,and very abusive,when he had withdrawls. I also read a book a couple of years ago that the mental issues that end up in your head do not just go away.I have kept my alcoholic problem a secret for almost 20 years,but now I have decided to do something about.Still wish weed was legal.my opinion.

[kellygrrrrrl]

I know I have issues from that....however, I can't allow it to be an excuse for me.....

I am better than what my parents taught me. They taught me what Not to do. I can only learn from thier mistakes.

Every now and then I will have a fit, and then revisit the situation later, and usually find that it stems from some childhood thing. You know? Usually our feelings stem from what we learn as a child and how we learned how to deal with things from the past.

[Hellion]

I know I have issues from that....however, I can't allow it to be an excuse for me.....

I am better than what my parents taught me.  They taught me what Not to do.  I can only learn from thier mistakes.

Every now and then I will have a fit, and then revisit the situation later, and usually find that it stems from some childhood thing.  You know?  Usually our feelings stem from what we learn as a child and how we learned how to deal with things from the past.

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That is completely understandable,That is why I made the decision,just to quit drinking all together.Although I would love to drive up to my oldmans place and smack the shit out of him left and right.Other than that everyone does not react the same way then it comes to these issue,because everyone is different,no two alike.

[kellygrrrrrl]

That is completely understandable,That is why I made the decision,just to quit drinking all together.Although I would love to drive up to my oldmans place and smack the shit out of him left and right.Other than that everyone does not react the same way then it comes to these issue,because everyone is different,no two alike.

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Absolutely

I depend on the whole what comes around goes around thing....

(for the revenge thing) PLus if they have a concious at all, I'm sure that would be punishment enough.

That is so great that you are doing this sweetie!

I really do hope things go smoothly for you

[Onyx]

Nobody in my life right now really knows this about me, but yes, my father was a violent, heavy drinker for many years. He held down a job but on weekends he drank and screamed at my mother and broke things. We never had glass glasses because they were too dangerous to have around with him in the house.

My grandfather drank heavily too, but it didn't affect me as much as my dad. I really think that's one reason I never drank, watching them drunk and puking and seeing how disgusting drunks can be. I can't stand the taste or smell of alcohol anymore.

I had typed out some examples of his behavior but went back and deleted it because he is really no different than any other violent drunk. They are all the same so no use rehashing the past.

My dad has since quit drinking since I left home. I've tried to forgive and forget, but there are many things I just don't know how to forgive. He missed my wedding. My brother had to walk me down the aisle. He and my grandfather let me down too many times to count. A part of my childhood was lost because of alcohol. Nothing many others haven't been through though.

I made it anyway. I struggled and worked and I consider myself a success in spite of it all.

He has never seen his youngest grandchild and I'm not really sure I want to take the trouble to visit. Maybe one day I will regret it, but I am not really sure even now that it would be healthy to expose her to him and to other certain family members. I haven't been back home in over 12 years.

[Hellion]

Absolutely

I depend on the whole what comes around goes around thing....

(for the revenge thing) PLus if they have a concious at all, I'm sure that would be punishment enough.

That is so great that you are doing this sweetie! 

I really do hope things go smoothly for you

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I know people who go out and never touch anything,and if they do it is usually 1 or 2 beers,no liquer.A liquer buzz is different than a beer buzz.other than that I would rather smoke weed.my opinion

[Hellion]

Nobody in my life right now really knows this about me, but yes, my father was a violent, heavy drinker for many years.  He held down a job but on weekends he drank and screamed at my mother and broke things.  We never had glass glasses because they were too dangerous to have around with him in the house. 

My grandfather drank heavily too, but it didn't affect me as much as my dad.  I really think that's one reason I never drank, watching them drunk and puking and seeing how disgusting drunks can be.  I can't stand the taste or smell of alcohol anymore.

I had typed out some examples of his behavior but went back and deleted it because he is really no different than any other violent drunk.  They are all the same so no use rehashing the past.

My dad has since quit drinking since I left home.  I've tried to forgive and forget, but there are many things I just don't know how to forgive.  He missed my wedding.  My brother had to walk me down the aisle.  He and my grandfather let me down too many times to count.  A part of my childhood was lost because of alcohol.  Nothing many others haven't been through though.

I made it anyway.  I struggled and worked and I consider myself a success in spite of it all.

He has never seen his youngest grandchild and I'm not really sure I want to take the trouble to visit.  Maybe one day I will regret it, but I am not really sure even now that it would be healthy to expose her to him and to other certain family members.  I haven't been back home in over 12 years.

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I completely understand what happened to you,My old fart of a father,never calls on my Birthday and never goes out of his way for anyone.,The dumbass almost broke my jaw when I was a kid,and did other stupid shit to other people,(not to be mentioned)I basically probably will never understand why he does not have any remorse. at least I do when I make a mistake,makes me better than him.LOL!!!!

[saechalyn]

My father was an alcoholic for over 50 years. It finally killed him in 1998.

[Fierce Critter]

My grandparents on my dad's side were alcoholics. I didn't find out about that until I was well up there in years.

But it made me very, very proud of my own father. From a very young age, I can remember my dad always drinking plain orange juice when my uncles & grandparents were all drinking beer & whisky.

He had made a conscious decision to break the cycle. And I've been very proud of him for that.

My mother's father was a terrible drunk. Came over from Poland and never really fit in with American culture. It killed him, and caused him to horribly abuse his family, including my mother. She rarely drinks. Like maybe one beer and one rum & coke a year.

I've been fortunate. I had parents who saw the effects of it from their own parents and worked hard at stopping it in their own family life.

[Steven]

my mom is an (reformed) alcoholic and hardcore drug abuser.

sad to say I've done lot's of rails of various substance with my mom, and have mixed booze and pills with her many times.

wish I didnt have those memories.

I have three brothers and a sister who like me, were also hardcore for many years. 2 of the 3 still dabble. I dont.

Despite the rather obvious bilological link to addicition, I still think that all of us, my mother included, were shaped by our environments to become what we were. When we stopped using, our DNA didint change. And I don't buy into the whole "disease" aspect of addiction (uh oh, now I did it).

I beleive that I used to be an addict.

and now I'm not. I like to keep it that simple, because for me, it is.

[CandyQuackenbush]

My mother is one. Plus a chain smoker so to say.

My dad, he isn't so bad. He smokes too.

It will kill them one day, they just wont stop.

Its probably why Odims doesnt like to come over.

[ManicQueen]

My mom is a recovering alcoholic.

My dad is an alcoholic.

[CatsEyeOfTheWiccan]

My dad wasn't an alcholic, but he was a drug attadtic. He died from it.

-CatsEye

[soothsayer]

Neither of my parents drank much (if at all) and didn't use drugs.

[honeymustard02]

I believe my father would be considered a functioning alcoholic. I think as he got older he got out of the abuse part and just drank. I think he's gotten a lot better since he found his niche so to speak and gotten better.

[bean]

My mother is an alcoholic, and my biological father was addicted to pain killers. My mother's mother was addicted to pills, my father's father was an alcoholic.

My mother doesn't drink like she used to - she stopped when I was in the hospital and almost died from alcohol poisoning, but she still drinks 1-2 beers every single day, and she gets angry if she can't have her daily beer.

[Nienna]

Neither of my parents are alcoholics, but my dad has always smoked joints like they were cigarettes. I honestly don't think I have EVER seen him not high in my entire life. It's caused alot of problems for me growing up. Now that I'm an adult,l he's just not involved at all. I do the obligatory holiday thing.. but yeah.

[Steven]

interesting how we seem to want to break down our paretns addiction into measurable stages of bad, not so bad anymore, getting better, "just" uses this or that, etc.

but addiction is addiction - despite the degrees - it is a controlling device which you (or they) yeild to. It dicates. sets the pace, and shapes the outcomes of surrounding relationships. It poisens generationally. It creates soul sickness in both the addict and the addicts children.

I've known many addicts in my life. And I've also found it interesting that many of these same addicts claim to be indipendent thinkers....and that they don't need to worship anything. Yet there they are...in the "temple" every day of their lives while things break down around them.

I never got to really know my mother till she was about 50. that's when she finnally let everything go and stopped using anythign at all. That's great - but its also alot of wasted years.

[Marblez]

Nope.

[AstralCrux]

Both parents were drug addicts, now they aren't. But, my siblings are addicts so the effects are there. I never understood the desire to do drugs, tried pot a few times- I'm not sure why you'd bother with it considering it doesn't really do much. If I want to be giggly I'll eat some nachos in the middle of the night- that always makes me giggly.

[DarkVampire]

Lets just say me and my sister do not follow this family "tradition".

[Steven]

Both parents were drug addicts, now they aren't.  But, my siblings are addicts so the effects are there.  I never understood the desire to do drugs, tried pot a few times- I'm not sure why you'd bother with it considering it doesn't really do much.  If I want to be giggly I'll eat some nachos in the middle of the night- that always makes me giggly.

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smart girl.

you'll miss out on absolutely nothing by side-stepping that life style altogethor and you'll have far less difficulty in forgiveing yourself as we all must do from time to time.