Just wanted to know

[Saephyr]

:pirate

Nope daoll my folks are pretty damned straight excepr for one deep dakr terrible awful secret...

They are all weirdos! :confused

[AstralCrux]

smart girl.

you'll miss out on absolutely nothing by side-stepping that life style altogethor and you'll have far less difficulty in forgiveing yourself as we all must do from time to time.

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The forgiving myself part comes in with the leaving to live with my grandparents while my sister and brother stayed with my mom and continued to get beatings. I still cringe if kids cry in stores or something. =(

[Saephyr]

Most of us so that hun.

Otherwise we get mad and say something about how awful the child's noises are... truth being we'd like to slap the parents.

[Scary Guy]

my mom drinks like a fish, usually bacardi

one of the main reasons friends won't come over to visit.

[Adriel1]

My dad is a big time drunk/crackhead....All of my sibling drink or do the drug thing but not me. I've seen enough to last me my life and then some. Its a waste really its like they are afriad of the world and but blinds up and it pisses the moff at everyone.

though on a good thing i did get my mother away from my dad and his bullshit. now she lives with me. better to be in a happier place than dieind sad.

[Saephyr]

u r a good person to do that for your mother

[Adriel1]

ya i told her that why would you want to spend the rest of your life not happy?? didnt make sence to her. things are better now.

[Saephyr]

You are very kind

[Guest Megalicious]

Any memory I have of my father he was drunk, or had been drinking. The only one picuture I have of him hes sitting on the megabeast couch, with a case of beer in front of him.. .. saying that he was an alcoholic is an understatement.

My mother ... trust me you don't want to know about my mother.

We they druggies/alcoholics? Yes

Did it really affect me? Not really, because the fact is neither one of them rasied me.

Do I blame them for my addictions? Hell no. Im make my own choices in life. If I cared what my parents did or did not do while I was growning up, or how they felt about me, I'd be dead.

When I was in Highschool my brother had a little coke habit. But it didn't effect me much. Because at that point in my life .. there was nothing wrong with a little pick me up.

My addictions stem from two things in life.... one always having or being able to get a hold of any drug of choice anytime. and the second being time. Lots of time .....

[Saephyr]

TIME INDEED!

If not for working at home for my bud Spoon with his absinthe biz I would be cleaning windows on the street to kep from goign mad!

[Saephyr]

Megamama ... you jus need a ton of hugs and massages until this baby come sand makes life the best!!

[Adriel1]

Sometimes i think i may be a little too kind because i give everyone the benfit of doubt. and everything is choice

[Miranda]

My parent's rarely drank, maybe 1 time a year, if that. I feel this was because both their dad's were heavy drinkers. I empathize with what you guys went through., I saw it with a lot of people and in my extended family.... my grandma's second husband was a drunk too.

[Saephyr]

Come on I got my white sheets, towels, scrubs and scoopy spoons to get him with.

Pharoh got his cathing mit and video going and Froyn s being Froyn and getting bet up by Brenda for try to videomore than your wonderbug-baby!

[LuluVox]

No, but most of my grandparents were, and my brother sure as hell is. It's the reason I've lost all respect for him in the past few years or so, watching him let his life go to hell, getting put in jail for multiple drinking/driving charges, treating his family like shit, etc. I really wish I could love him as my brother again; at this point I regard him like an acquaintance I have to deal with when I visit my family. I just hope he can one day take the blame for the direction his life has taken instead of pointing the finger at everybody else, and maybe then he won't need to drink to keep himself deluded.

[phee]

Yes

[Saephyr]

i take it he's not a group therapy kinda guy?

Narcoics Anon. was a huge step or my baby cousinn DAve but I tell ya what it took him getting 2 DUI's and osing his wife and kids b 4 they tossed him in jail and he's now out nd wants a life but doesn't realis that you have to start freom the BOTTOM all over again...and with no car. It's shocking for them to join the real world but man tough love is th only way once you've tried it all.

My prayers are with him and your family.

[Hellheart]

My parents are both ex-alcoholics. They stopped before I was born. My dad took awhile to adjust, but overall I had a very supportive family. I did, naturally, inherit genes that predispose me towards addiction and substance abuse, so I have never tried recreational drugs or drinking and would only do so if the alternative was suicide and I had a reason not to die (har!)

Peer rejection did me in. I'm better than most because of my family, but I developed a nasty triplicate of mental disorders that plague me somewhat through the meds.

[Saephyr]

My parents are both ex-alcoholics. They stopped before I was born. My dad took awhile to adjust, but overall I had a very supportive family. I did, naturally, inherit genes that predispose me towards addiction and substance abuse, so I have never tried recreational drugs or drinking and would only do so if the alternative was suicide and I had a reason not to die (har!)

Peer rejection did me in. I'm better than most because of my family, but I developed a nasty triplicate of mental disorders that plague me somewhat through the meds.

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:confused Damn. That's sad my friend. You can always find a friend here on DGN that is willing to chat with if you need to. That's the #1 kick ass thing abou tthis family, we're warped but we hang on tight to each other for the most part. So are you BETTER from this being under MD control do you think or worse? You really have a double edged sword.... I feel for ya. :confused

[Steven]

The forgiving myself part comes in with the leaving to live with my grandparents while my sister and brother stayed with my mom and continued to get beatings.  I still cringe if kids cry in stores or something. =(

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Not your fault. And I come from that exact kind of environement - including the beatings.

Besides - one needs to be healthy and grounded before they can truly make an impact in helping others. You do what you have to do in the meantime.

I left my litte brother in a mess at home too - and lived in somone's playhouse for a year till I joined the Army. But I had to.