Affection.. What does it mean to you?

[Guest Megalicious]

I'm curious to show how ppl show affection with out it being of a sexual nature. What does affection mean to you? How do you show it to the people you love and mean the most to you? It just seems that in relationships today people have replaced sex with affection. Don't get me wrong sex can be a form of affection =) But I mean the kind that one needs everyday, to not only know that there SO loves them but can also be shown that they do.

What brought this up was an article I was reading on Marriage, in which husband were only able to show affection in sexual ways, and how unhappy and unloved these wifes ended up feeling after so many years of marriage.

I was just curious as to how everyone here shows affection

[Brenda Starrr]

Just by sharing conversation, laughs, whatever. We don't always have sex. But we always have great laughs. And, we say that we love each other all the time.

[Steven]

I tell Laura I love her everyday - several times a day. we still hold hands, I hug her all the time, we smooch, we laugh, I play with her feet, play with her butt, go on long walks and bike rides, all that sappy stuff, we do all of that, all the time. I also leave her notes all the time. Or I'll call her from work, just because I want to.

With friends - I hug most of my friends everytime I see them. Many of them I say I love you to and they say it back, because were tite. Even the guys in my band do that with one another and dont call us gay cause we'll beat your ass.

Affection should be real, man. If you dig somebody - let it flow.

[torn asunder]

although it may be counterintuitive, i show affection in slightly unusual ways... i tease/pick on people i like, and usually follow it up with a wink, or some such thing. i guess overall, i like to be playful with whomever i'm close to - the more i like someone, the more playful, teasing, and flirty, i am. i tend to rarely say the actual words, "i love you", because to me, it can be said so often as to become rote and meaningless, similar to "have a nice day/it was nice to meet you/ hello/goodbye". if/when i tell someone i love them, (outside of my family, i should say) it's a huge step for me. i only heard it from my father a handful of times, (i could count on two hands) but he showed me thru actions that he cared, and when he actually said the words, i knew there was some deep/strong emotional connection/intent behind it. i like that.

[saechalyn]

I'm not comfortable with huge amounts of PDA, but simple things- shared laughs, standing closer than you need to, holding hands, knowing glances, looking for small excuses to touch each other- are all nice things.

[Msterbeau]

Through words and touch and the little, seemingly inconsequential actions that actually (In my opinion)mean a lot. If I care about you..man or woman, you'll know it.

[Draco1958]

When I was married, I showed affection non sexually by buying my wife something even just a niknak, something on a subject she liked. It showed her that I thought of her daily. Course there were times when she was doing dishes, I'd come up behind her, hug her, a kiss on the cheek and now and then an ass grope to remind her I thought she was sexy.

[TheAbsynthFairy]

When I was married, I showed affection non sexually by buying my wife something even just a niknak, something on a subject she liked.  It showed her that I thought of her daily.  Course there were times when she was doing dishes, I'd come up behind her, hug her, a kiss on the cheek and now and then an ass grope to remind her I thought she was sexy.

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Consideration is key. Checking the look on the person you love's face to see what they are feeling in certain situations and acting appropriatley. Do they look sick, hurt, angry? I do simple things. Like last night after City Club, we got in out of the pouring rain and I took a towel out and help dry Dave off. He looked at me like I was nuts, but it was pure reflex. He was cold and wet, so I made him dry and warm.

[torn asunder]

... :fear :whistling

[Homicidalheathen]

I am a huggy person. I hug. *hugz* to all of you!

[Head Wreck]

cuddles, conversation, closeness, trust... oh and pinapples

[Gauge]

cuddling and playfullness mostly, and hugging. those might be the best non-sexuall things in the world ^.^ also, looking in each others eyes, theres not much that can show how you feel better than that =)