Do you know people who do this?

[Hellion]

:devil I was wondering if anyone here has friends and realtives who hang out with your enemies.I know a few and in a way disturbs me because,if I encounter my enemies there will be issues.It also depends on the nature of the offence that my enemies did,and what will my friends or relatives do if something stupid would happen to occur.?I myself are not a violent person,but I will defend myself if the situation got out of hand.Has anyone here been in this situation before?

[AstralCrux]

I don't want a good relationship with anyone who befriends my enemies. That is all.

[Hellion]

Amen to that

[JaneDead]

honestly, i could care less.

i don't have "enemies" anyways but when i have had people i have "disliked" in the past i don't mind family or friends being friends with them. my personally issues with someone just that; MY issues. i don't expect anyone else to care about that.

last year a friend and i had a falling out. during this falling out people started feeling like they had to "take sides" i never wanted that. i hated it actually. i wanted everyone to go on liking both of us, just as they had before. the friend and i later made up and are closer than ever.

even if we had never been friends again i would have wanted OUR friends to be friends with both of us still. i feel we are both good people and deserve to be treated with respect and love even if we were to end up not being friends ever again.

[Homicidalheathen]

It depends. If your 'enemy' has hurt you and your freind knows it and wants to be freinds with them anyway......then they are fucked up. You want to be freinds with people who are fucked up??? But you would have to have a pretty strong leg to stand on.......not just hear-say.

I don't want a good relationship with anyone who befriends my enemies.  That is all.

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[torn asunder]

why would you want to create such conflict and animosity in your life by labeling people "enemies"? that does nothing but keep them involved in your life in a negative way... someone hurts you, let them go - they obviously aren't worth your time or emotional energy. you can't control other people or their actions, either - if your "friends" want to be friends with your "enemies" then you can do one of two things, either remain friends with them regardless, or decide to move on to new and better things and let them live their life the way they see fit. i see no reason to stress or worry or get angry over something like this, because it serves no purpose. ultimately, you have the final say in who and what you allow into your life - take control, take responsibility, and act on what you *personally* feel and know to be true for you.

[The_Dark]

I had an Arch-Nemisis once. He foild 5 attempts to take over the world. Then I grew up.

[DJ Nocker]

yes, i have that problem, but i choose for it not to be a problem becuase i always say the following...

Dont talk about them around me, dont tell me your hanging out with them, and never have them near me and we will be fine, if you cant handle that then it was nice meeting you and dont talk to me.

So far its worked very well.

[saechalyn]

why would you want to create such conflict and animosity in your life by labeling people "enemies"? that does nothing but keep them involved in your life in a negative way... someone hurts you, let them go - they obviously aren't worth your time or emotional energy. you can't control other people or their actions, either - if your "friends" want to be friends with your "enemies" then you can do one of two things, either remain friends with them regardless, or decide to move on to new and better things and let them live their life the way they see fit. i see no reason to stress or worry or get angry over something like this, because it serves no purpose. ultimately, you have the final say in who and what you allow into your life - take control, take responsibility, and act on what you *personally* feel and know to be true for you.

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*applause*

[Hellion]

It depends.  If your 'enemy' has hurt you and your freind knows it and wants to be freinds with them anyway......then they are fucked up.  You want to be freinds with people who are fucked up???  But you would have to have a pretty strong leg to stand on.......not just hear-say.

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:devil It also goes for family members too,and it depends if they go along with your enemies then that is where the problems can arise,I have seen it happen to other people I know.nough said.

[AstralCrux]

why would you want to create such conflict and animosity in your life by labeling people "enemies"? that does nothing but keep them involved in your life in a negative way... someone hurts you, let them go - they obviously aren't worth your time or emotional energy. you can't control other people or their actions, either - if your "friends" want to be friends with your "enemies" then you can do one of two things, either remain friends with them regardless, or decide to move on to new and better things and let them live their life the way they see fit. i see no reason to stress or worry or get angry over something like this, because it serves no purpose. ultimately, you have the final say in who and what you allow into your life - take control, take responsibility, and act on what you *personally* feel and know to be true for you.

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It isn't that I'm trying to create conflict, rather, that I don't want the issues involved in being friends with someone that wants to have a relationship with someone who I know will hurt them. I have very few enemies, because I have a very hard time being angry at people for a long time. I just don't have that much anger in me to begin with. But, I am not going to have any close, where I actually care about the person, relationships with anyone that wants to be friends with someone who knowingly hurt me in such a major way that I have taken a level of offence to that is equal to serious abuse of friendship, relationship, etc.

I've suffered from enough abuse in this lifetime. I don't want to be close to anyone with the power to hurt me that actually would.

[Hellion]

why would you want to create such conflict and animosity in your life by labeling people "enemies"? that does nothing but keep them involved in your life in a negative way... someone hurts you, let them go - they obviously aren't worth your time or emotional energy. you can't control other people or their actions, either - if your "friends" want to be friends with your "enemies" then you can do one of two things, either remain friends with them regardless, or decide to move on to new and better things and let them live their life the way they see fit. i see no reason to stress or worry or get angry over something like this, because it serves no purpose. ultimately, you have the final say in who and what you allow into your life - take control, take responsibility, and act on what you *personally* feel and know to be true for you.

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:devil IMO Donnot take either side,be like swizterland and stay neutral.That is usually what I recommend.

[TygerLili]

If I don't like someone, I go out of my way to avoid them, but I won't fight with them, it doesn't make anything any better. Sometimes that might mean missing going to the club or whatever with my friends, but if I have to deal with someone I don't like, it's no fun to go out anyway.

My friends are my friends no matter what. I don't care who else they're friends with.

[Saephyr]

why would you want to create such conflict and animosity in your life by labeling people "enemies"? that does nothing but keep them involved in your life in a negative way... someone hurts you, let them go - they obviously aren't worth your time or emotional energy. you can't control other people or their actions, either - if your "friends" want to be friends with your "enemies" then you can do one of two things, either remain friends with them regardless, or decide to move on to new and better things and let them live their life the way they see fit. i see no reason to stress or worry or get angry over something like this, because it serves no purpose. ultimately, you have the final say in who and what you allow into your life - take control, take responsibility, and act on what you *personally* feel and know to be true for you.

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:woot: Whoa..can you do that dude? you're my hero :grin

[torn asunder]

:woot: Whoa..can you do that dude? you're my hero  :grin

can i do what? what i wrote is how i live...

[JaneDead]

can i do what? what i wrote is how i live...

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it's how i live too. and i don't think it is hard to do. i think it is much more positive than anything else. i find it easier to be positive about things rather than negative.

[Saephyr]

I'm far too hooked into my emotions to be that way.

Sometimes to my downfall and most times to my advantage.

[Der Nister]

Yup and yes it can be a bummer.

[Saephyr]

Yup and yes it can be a bummer.

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On the other hand it can awaken your appreciation for the little things and help ideas spring to life, make you love your true friends even more, make you want to buy The Cure cd's, inspire.

It's inspired me and if you go to my new post you'll see how.

Gimme a few to write it.

[Rayne]

You could say so.

I could really care less though, who they chose as friends is up to them. They want to still be friends with them, that's cool with me.

I have very few "enemies" so to speak ... and wouldn't even call them that.

[Hellion]

You could say so.

I could really care less though, who they chose as friends is up to them. They want to still be friends with them, that's cool with me.

I have very few "enemies" so to speak ... and wouldn't even call them that.

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As long as your friends stay neutral like Switzerland,than things will remain calm.Als goes for family members too.blood or no blood

[Rayne]

As long as your friends stay neutral like Switzerland,than things will remain calm.Als goes for family members too.blood or no blood

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My family ... neutral ... yeah right.

... Maybe that's why none of us speak to each other unless we have to.

[Hellion]

My family ... neutral ... yeah right.

... Maybe that's why none of us speak to each other unless we have to.

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understandable Rayne,you have always been a good friend,stay that way.